To think it's weird that she used the family bathroom?

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Friend of mine visited the house yesterday.

She's been here before and knows we have a downstairs guest loo but yesterday when she asked to use the loo she went upstairs to the main bathroom (which was in a bit of a mess as wasn't expecting anyone to see it)
To do so she had to navigate two baby gates, so it's not like it's the easier option.

AIBU to think it's weird?

Jesus wept, the things people start threads about on here .... you’re strangely judgemental, I’m so glad you’re not a friend of mine.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course

I poo in whatever toilet is available to me when I need a poo.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course.

Why? Pooing is natural, and there’s a toilet there which you can use

Can no one poo in peace anymore?
If I needed a poo your family bathroom or not I'm not going in earshot of people.
It's not weird but your reaction is weird.
It's not like she smeared her initials onto the wall in shit she just dropped the kids off at the pool. Chill.

Yep, she needed a poo.

I'm amazed that so many people poo in other people's toilets [shocked] unless there is a pressing medical need of course

To posh to poo is it?

Poo or period. Either way is fine; a bathroom is a bathroom.

We have three and the DC's one doesn't have a lock on so if anyone needs privacy they use 'my' bathroom in the ensuite. It's what it's there for.

Not weird atall. We’re house hunting and bathroom/downstairs loo privacy is top of my list. Ideally I’d have a separate wing when I need to go!!

Oh come on, everybody knows why she went upstairs. She needed more privacy because she needed to poo. Why is that so wrong? She didn't want the smell leaking out of the bathroom and she didn't want anyone to hear the sound. She was embarrassed and vulnerable and she didn't feel good or safe. Have you never been in that position? Have some humanity.

@Feelslikecrystal

Surely if you’ve only ever lived in flats you would head for a bathroom on the same floor not one upstairs? (Random musing!)

Even in my own house, where I've got 2 toilets downstairs, I still go upstairs to my ensuite if I need a poo. I like the peace and quiet.

@Batshittery I’m with you. So is DP. Maybe a similar outlook brought us together... both of us would much rather only poo in our own bathroom and avoid doing so at work or anywhere else if at all possible.
OP - I would definitely opt for another bathroom if necessary. My parents have a downstairs loo in a relatively new build house. You can hear everything from it in the living room, dining room or kitchen. I always go upstairs, even for a wee.

I think it's weird

Probably didn't want to be heard. I hate going to the toilet if I think someone can hear me. I know it's strange but I can't help it

My digestive system has been much happier since I stopped giving a crap (pun intended) about pooing in other people’s toilets.

Probably didn't want to be heard. I hate going to the toilet if I think someone can hear me. I know it's strange but I can't help it

Do you also put down loads of toilet of paper in the loo to muffle sound? Everyone at work seems to do that expect me. So bad for the environment and must cost employers so much in TP.

It's no good you saying you have a window, or air freshener. Its just so obvious if theres someone in next and the tell tale cover up shit smell or worse Windows open (everyone thinks Christ it must have been bad.!)

Better to slink off upstairs to parp in peace and any splashing is not easily heard.

This time of year is not kind on the tummy!

You'd have something to complain about if she crapped in the kitchen sink! MN does have a weird obsession with people using their toilets to poo in though. I remember a thread where someone wanted to put in a formal complaint because a workman did a smelly poo in her toilet!

I like to use upstairs bathrooms cos I am nosy and can have a sneak peak at the rest of the house

@paranoidmum2 I do that! Its always a challenge to poo quietly at work. It would be mortifying to be heard. See also not wanting to leave a mess or a stink.

@ZenNudist I just lurk in the loo after a poo and come out when I thinks it’s all clear!

Until I joined MN I didnt realise some people would only poo in their own toilet.

Same here!

I wonder how people who feel this way manage when they go and stay with friends for a weekend. Do they save it up for when they get home, or do they manage to re-educate their bowels that their hosts' lav is an acceptable alternative?

And what about on holiday?

Do you also put down loads of toilet of paper in the loo to muffle
Yes I've been known to do this is public toilets. I kt one sheet though not loads. I know it's mad and it's a perfectly normal function everyone does. I just have a hang up about it that I need to get over!

I preempt people using the upstairs loo by saying it’s currently full of bleach cleaning so they must use the the downstairs.

Visitors have no business going upstairs in my home.

Probably wanted to look at what shampoo you use,shower gel etc, have a bit of a nosy. I would.

People do that? Why?