To think its ok that my 8yo is not dry at night

[Luna28]

My DS 1 age 8 is still not dry at night. I have tried everything but nothing works (alarms, lifting, ext.) and he is still wet every night. I know MIL will bring it up this xmas but AIBU to just say we are waiting for him to grow out of it?

Same with mine. He sleeps through it and deeply. He’s embarrassed about it, but the only other option we’ve had is hormone drugs which I don’t want to try at this point

It's at the upper end of normal but he will grow out of it. My two older boys were 8 & 9 before they were reliably dry at night, but their younger brother wasn't even three. It's all down to hormone production. I think you should tell your MIL to keep her beak out if she mentions it.

Have you had any investigations done as to why this may still be occurring? Does he drink close to bed time?

Doesn't sound usual. I'd raise it with GP after the holidays. In the meantime, do visitors need to know?

Have you raised the issue with your GP? It’s unusual unless your ds is very stressed about something.
In coming years there will be school residential trips that your ds will probably want to avoid and it would be a shame for him to miss out.
Just tell your Mil that it’s off limits for discussion over Christmas and change the subject.

My ds is 11. Starting to have the odd dry night at last.
Tell mil I'm advance it isn't to be mentioned. If she can't promise that you won't be going..

My friend's sil was a teen and both her children were very late. It's no-ones business except yours and dc.
Just get advice and support from your gp.

It is very normal especially in boys, why do you think night pull ups go up age 11. We have always woken our son up just before we go to bed. We try and would stop doing but he'd wet the bed , we recently tried again, he's 8 and a half and he just must be ready as he doesn't wet any more.

We did take him to the GP and she said they often grow out of it but to try an alarm and see if it works (which it didn't). This was over a year ago so might go back but don't think he is at the age when I want to consider any drugs

My 8 year old still isn’t dry either. We’ve tried the hormone drugs. We’ve tried the alarms. She still like to drink at night. That’s our biggest problem.

I wet the bed till I was 8. It‘ can be genetic. I also have hypopiturism (which is where the hormone you take is produced) I’m not worried too much. I’m a big fan of shell do it by the time she’s 20.

Personally I would book an appointment with your GP as it is on the late side. But totally unreasonable and insensitive of MIL to bring this up at Christmas.

DNephew and DSS were both 9 before they were dry. It's not usual but is within normal range I'd say.

It's fine ffs , tell her in advance not to bring it up , poor kid!!!
My son has pretty severe special needs and is dry at night , on paper he shouldn't be but it's obviously a hormone thing and out of his control as it is your sons . People are so mean , as if bringing it up will stop it ! Stupid woman !

Really none of MIL's business. I'd have a 'quiet word'.

My DS3 was almost 8, and then instantly dry every morning, DS’s 1&2 were dry at night at 4 and 2. It’s not something they can control, as long as you’re not doing things that can make it harder (such as big drinks of black currant just before bed) just wait it out

Its partly down to hormone production which means they can go the whole night without needing the loo. However, if insufficient hormone is produced, it can be made up for by using the loo in the night. In your DS's case, it would seem he sleeps too deeply to wake up. I would avoid discussing with your MIL but it would be with consulting yout GP in the new year.

It’s bugger all to do with your mil and she should butt out but I would go back to your GP, even if you choose not to medicate (and I feel at 8 your ds should probably get a say even if it isn’t the deciding vote) because knowledge is power really and I would want to rule out a more serious anatomical cause.

DS was 11 before he was reliably dry at night. We went to the enuresis clinic and was given tablets which he could take for sleepovers. Other advice was that he was not drinking enough during the school day - making sure he drank lots of water at school also seemed to help.

DSD was 13 before she stopped bed wetting.

Try to make sure he drinks as much as possible during the day, not fizzy drinks and not fruit juice.

My DS8 has only become reliably dry in recent months. I just waited for him to grow out of it.

But it isn’t ‘normal’ (for want of a better expression). It’s very late, not just late either.
I’d not wait until he ‘grows out of it’.
It affected my DN’s confidence greatly and my DS says now she should have got additional help earlier.
It must be hard for both of you, I’d go back to the Drs.

My DS age 8 still does it. He’s had referrals and investigations, everything comes back normal. We follow all the rules re no drinks after 5pm and he mainly drinks water generally but he is a deep sleeper and even though we wake him at 10 pm to go to the toilet he can still wet his bed later at night. He has periods when it goes well and then periods where it is really bad with no obvious changes in life or reason why.

I don't think its unusal at 8 but something to monitor and certainly not something he should be made ashamed of. Only because of personal family experience I'd ask how are his bowel movements? One member of our family had long term childhood bladder problems due to what on investigation turned out to be due to having bowel/ constipation issues.

I've found some of the resources on the ERIC site quite informative:

www.eric.org.uk/

I was 14 and stopped overnight. Hormone based, I had no control.