To think its ok that my 8yo is not dry at night

[Luna28]

My DS 1 age 8 is still not dry at night. I have tried everything but nothing works (alarms, lifting, ext.) and he is still wet every night. I know MIL will bring it up this xmas but AIBU to just say we are waiting for him to grow out of it?

well, it's highly unusual, though of course far too early to write him off as a lost cause, suggest you go with some or all of the suggestions on here.

What has it got to do with your MIL?

Your son- your business!!

It’s not unusual. Lots of PPs on here saying there DC did too. Both mine still having some wet nights. It happens.

Ds1 was the same however it wasn't happening every night but suddenly when he was about 8-9 just grew out of it. Fingers crossed he will do the same

My son was 10, dd1 8 dd2 3 (twins). It was down to a hormone. There is a charity ERIC that supports this. 14,I believe, is when there is a concern so 8 is not unusual. We tried everything and in the end it was time. Don’t discuss it w MIl or others and just give time. As for trips, worked with my son on how to be discreet and take care of what he could. Good luck and don’t stress.

mum of ten children its very common for children to still be wetting the bed at this age my youngest 3 are now 11 and nearly 8 yr old twins. 11 yr old stopped about 12/18 months ago the twins are still wet at night. some of mine were dry at 2 others usually by 10/11

I’ve mentioned my DD and the laziness angle before, but if you’re sure it’s not that, then I would just let him wet his DryNites and tell MIL that it’s something he’ll grow out of (the original advice I had for DD before I discovered it was laziness!)

I remember wetting the bed a lot when I was 4 (stopped at 4.5) but I know from DM that I was taken out of night nappies at 3 as this was the normal thing to do then.

I remember that although waking up with a cold wet nightie was my “normal”, it wasn’t nice. If the Pull-ups save your bedding and his self esteem I’d say to keep them but do check periodically that they are still being worn out of need.

Bottom line- don’t worry about it too much as long as he’s happy and healthy.

Thanks everyone! MIL almost made it the whole day without bringing it up until this evening when DS came down in his pjs and had a pull up on. Thankfully she didn't say anything to him, but after he went to bed she asked if he was "still wearing nappies" (knowing he was!). We have just said we are doing all we can and changed the subject.

Oh Luna, at least she didn't mention it in front of him!

She has gone now, but did try and bring it up again last night saying nappies at his age are "ridiculous".

I would tell her that her attitude is ridiculous and she’s not welcome at my house until she can keep her thoughts to herself.

You might want to show her the packaging which (assuming they are DryNites) have the ages on them.

My DD6 (until she stopped recently) wore age 8-15 years size.

She may accept that it’s normal if she sees they are made in those sizes, rather than assuming you’re squeezing him into baby Pampers!

OP I have a similar issue with my DD.

We have gone 2 nights without pull ups and she wet the bed both times. The first night before she went to sleep I think. So we had a chat about getting out of bed.

Last night was dry at midnight. But wet this morning.

I increased water yesterday and today and limited by 6pm.

I'm measuring output today and first wee this morning was 300 mls. So I think bladder capacity is fine. Which I have always thought. I think she just lacks vasopressin....

I could've written this! DD1 was 8 when she stopped wetting every night - we tried so many things (albeit nothing medical) and I got quite stressed about it from time to time. Then one night she just stopped bed wetting and never looked back. I agree that there is a hormone that needs to develop to enough strength to make it happen naturally. DD was otherwise bright, active, not lazy etc. DD2 was "normal" and then DD3 about 7, but this time I was relaxed about it and gave it no thought whatsoever. She stopped wetting one night and I didnt waste time and effort getting anxious about it. Your MIL should mind her own business!