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To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.

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DieHardISaChristmasFilm · 21/12/2019 12:34

DS is 2 weeks old. I'm BF and hungry constantly. I also had gestational diabetes for the last 10 weeks if pregnancy so very limited carbs.

Last night I wanted fish and chips. DH has unfortunately inherited a bit of competitive under eating from his mother (oh that's me done for the day if there's a big lunch- this is never actually true!) So I was very specific with my order, and being hungry.
He arrives home with a fish each, but one single chips (not even a large one) to go between me, him and DD. He also missed out the curry sauce Xmas Angry
I served up for myself and DD leaving almost no chips for him, then told him it wad his own bloody fault and he needed to go back to the shop if he wanted chips. He's been sulking since last night. WIBU? He knows how much I hate the meager little portions when we go to his parents, it shouldn't be too much to ask for a reasonable portion if chips, esp while breastfeeding!

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RuggerHug · 21/12/2019 12:36

Well he won't do it again 😁 Yanbu, I remember those days.

AnneLovesGilbert · 21/12/2019 12:36

Wow. He’s taking the piss. Your job is to feed the baby, his job it to feed you. His weird eating issues are his own problem and he has no right at all to put them on you or DD.

KnightandDay · 21/12/2019 12:36

YANBU you put in your order, he didn't buy enough chips for himself.

Lweji · 21/12/2019 12:37

He's sulking over chips when he decided to take portions that wouldn't be enough for him?

Is he a child?
Is this a common occurrence?

countrygirl99 · 21/12/2019 12:37

1 small portion of chips for 3? Hanging offence even without the breastfeeding

ElizabethMountbatten · 21/12/2019 12:38

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isseywith4vampirecats · 21/12/2019 12:38

what made him think one small portion of chips would do two adults and one child our local chippy does big portions of chips and we get one potion between two adults but when I say big portion one of thiers is like two normal portions so yep its his own fault and forgetting the curry sauce is unforgivable

Lweji · 21/12/2019 12:39

I think your H found the thread and voted YABU. Grin

Whatsnewpussyhat · 21/12/2019 12:39

Serves him right. Xmas Grin

Howyiz · 21/12/2019 12:41

Well done for calling him out on his bullshit. As others have said if he wants to be competitive in how little he eats with his mother that is fine. Let them at it, but don't try to include you in their nonsense!

MadameJosephine · 21/12/2019 12:41

Not unreasonable at all, I think you were very generous to leave him any at all. You ordered a portion of chips and that’s what he brought you, his fault he didn’t bother to buy himself any!

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 21/12/2019 12:42

We live in a seaside town, i also had GD (that diet is not fun) and was BF a newborn this time last year, I also sent DH out for fish and chips he came back with enough to feed a small army, he's lucky you didn't LTB.

pigsDOfly · 21/12/2019 12:42

Yeah, his own fault.

You need fuel to bf feed a baby.

One bag of chips between three people? I would assume he didn't want any himself in that case.

One bag = one portion; it's not a difficult concept to grasp.

RJnomore1 · 21/12/2019 12:43

I’d have presumed he didn’t want ANY chips himself if he only came back with mine. And my youngest child is 15!

Taibhse · 21/12/2019 12:44

I actually feel pissed off on your behalf op. How dare he! He has absolutely no right to try and police or control your eating. Let him sulk away. Is he controlling in other areas too?

FlaviaAlbia · 21/12/2019 12:44

Nice work!

fedup21 · 21/12/2019 12:47

How did he justify that?! Is he tight..,because it clearly wasn’t that he wasn’t hungry??

SeasideThisChristmas · 21/12/2019 12:48

YABU to want curry sauce with fish and chips Grin

But yes, it’s his problem if he wants to eat child portions. He shouldn’t expect you to starve!

macaroniandpizza · 21/12/2019 12:50

Yanbu at all. I get a small bag between myself and ds because its just us 2 but in your case id of got a bag each

BillHadersNewWife · 21/12/2019 12:52

Ha! I'd have done the same. Don't try to get between a woman and her chips is the moral of this story!

Namestranger · 21/12/2019 12:54

Honestly just hearing about having to go and sit through meals with tiny portions and not saying anything makes me anxious. YANBU!

CactusSmactus · 21/12/2019 12:55

YABU to want curry sauce with fish and chips

Absolutely not! Irish curry sauce with cod and chips is the BEST!

JasonPollack · 21/12/2019 13:00

He owes you an apology, not the other way around!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 21/12/2019 13:00

You were nice to give him any chips.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 21/12/2019 13:02

I'd think my DP was leading a double life, except I know where he was last night ‐ delicately nibbling at a couple of prawn balls and two tablespoons of kung po duck over the course of an evening, having realised from my slightly crazed glare when he informed me at 7pm it was way too early to get dinner as he'd eaten 3 pieces of chocolate during the day, that RIGHT NOW was the appropriate time to get himself there.

I have had quite a few occasions where I've been sat as dinner is placed in front of me, wondering 'where's the rest of it?'.

Those occasions decreased when I began eating whatever he'd put aside for the following evening.

YANBU. He'll hopefully remember next time that people eat meals, not a couple of chips and an air of virtuous self flagellation.