To say I warned him, and it's his own fault.

[DieHardISaChristmasFilm]

DS is 2 weeks old. I'm BF and hungry constantly. I also had gestational diabetes for the last 10 weeks if pregnancy so very limited carbs.

Last night I wanted fish and chips. DH has unfortunately inherited a bit of competitive under eating from his mother (oh that's me done for the day if there's a big lunch- this is never actually true!) So I was very specific with my order, and being hungry.
He arrives home with a fish each, but one single chips (not even a large one) to go between me, him and DD. He also missed out the curry sauce
I served up for myself and DD leaving almost no chips for him, then told him it wad his own bloody fault and he needed to go back to the shop if he wanted chips. He's been sulking since last night. WIBU? He knows how much I hate the meager little portions when we go to his parents, it shouldn't be too much to ask for a reasonable portion if chips, esp while breastfeeding!

@joystir59 My MIL was an evangelical anti smoker after giving up cigs. It’s tough getting the balance right in trying to use your new found knowledge for good. I hope that Christmas is a positive time for you. Keep on keeping on. OP if all else fails jab him with the wee wooden forks if he repeats this mistake next time he’s on a Chipper run.

I'm not remotely ill thank you Joy. I lost 8 stone 2 years ago and have kept it off, bar 17lbs that I've gained since I got married earlier this year. Is that ok with you? You are fucking rude.

My body is nobody else's business, least of all yours.

Fair play, Joy. Well done losing the weight and I hope you come to a point where you feel you can let go and enjoy food without endangering what you've achieved.

2 week old baby, under weight and a husband who wants to micro manage her food intake

Yet the Op is the one being called all sorts and unreasonable only on MN. bellends

Fair play Joy - takes some gumption to come back and apologise. Well done on your weightloss and good luck over Christmas.

The thing is moderation is key here. If the OP was eating massive portions for every meal then it might be a worry but there is nothing to suggest this is anything more than a treat by a hungry breastfeeding woman who deserves her choices respected.

A little of what you fancy is a good thing

I might have had chips tonight thanks to this thread. And a scallop 🙈

I thought that myself about curry sauce and chips 😂
Diehardisachristmasfilm
I would have done that myself. Is he abit right with his money though as I know someone who is like this and would let his partner pay for everything. Even sulked for months as she did not buy him a £500 guitar for his birthday after they had been separated for about a year 🙈

I hope, OP, that you will pay attention to other ways your partner may start trying to control you.
Don't let it slide until it becomes a landslide, please.

OP, how are you doing? Did you eat your husband?

sleigh no, but words have been had. He apparently doesn't see it as controlling. He's been told any more attempts at being the food police will not be tolerated

Bravo!

no, but words have been had. He apparently doesn't see it as controlling. He's been told any more attempts at being the food police will not be tolerated

Then how did he explain it? What was his reason for deciding to get smaller amounts than you’d asked for?

What DOES he see it as?

He apparently doesn't see it as controlling

He would say that..

So his response is a "I'm sorry that YOU took offence at my perfectly acceptable actions" then?

I wouldn't hold too much hope in his mending his ways if he doesn't actually see/accept/acknowledge that what he did was wrong at all.

I fear that any changes he does make will be down to 'playing along' with YOUR 'eating problems' as 'he's tried to help you, but you simply refuse to accept it'.

So he just saus he thought he had enough

I've entertained myself by giving him extra small portions all Christmas. I think my point is well made now!

Great response @DieHardISaChristmasFilm, I really do hope the point has been made. Some babies are so hungry.

Honestly, I'd have lost my shit. HE thought he had enough? What about you and your child?

How does losing your shit meaningfully add to ideas in your household about food quantities? In a thread recently, someone spoke about 'leavened mumsnet responses. That is you.