Daughter wearing boys clothes. AIBU?

[Greydove28]

My daughter (9) just told me as we were leaving for school earlier she had an xmas party and was allowed to bring in party clothes. I said to go grab some clothes quickly and stick in the bag. She grabbed an old football shirt and some jeans. I said what about all the really nice dresses and shoes? She said she is boyish and likes this. I was like ok but feel a bit embarrassed. It was the same when we went to a xmas party at the club last week. She wore an old jumper and not any of the nice new xmas jumpers or trendy clothes- jumpsuits I have bought. My partner thinks I am bu and should just let her wear what she wants. AIBU?

YABU let her wear whatever she is happy in.

Leave her alone. It's awful having to wear clothes you're not comfortable in.

If it’s any comfort my DSis was the same and has grown up infinitely more fashionable and glamourous than me.

If you would let a boy go out in it then you can let a girl go out in it!

Comfort over frills any day. Good for her.

Is she involved in picking her new clothes? If not, I would start getting her involved. If she doesn't want to wear party dresses then she really is old enough for her opinion to matter.

Boys’ clothes? Girls’ clothes? Clothes are clothes, unless they have specific use like a bra or a jock strap.

My DD nearly 11 gave up girl clothes around 9. She likes slouchy clothes frin the boys department.
I'm not worried by niece's went through similar now you can't get them out the door without an hours maintenance.
Nothing male about them.
Yabu it is no harm. They like to hide at that age.

She's 9, she's discovering her own style and will be for the next 5 years or so, she's going to make some majorly questionable choices (we all did)
Let her wear what she wants, and maybe take her with you next time you buy her clothes? She might not be a dress girl, I never was.

YABU. She's finding her own style leave her be.

How would you feel if someone told you how to dress? Let her be.

Leave her alone. It's great that at her age she is able to decide what makes her comfortable and not follow the crowd. You should be proud not embarrassed

I think she's telling you that she knows what she l likes.

What makes the clothes she wants to wear boys clothes? Is having a penis necessary to wear them?

How can you have only noticed as she’s going out the door that she doesn’t like dresses? Surely at 9 she had some input into what was bought.

Unless you're going to a wedding or formal event when it would be rude to dress scruffily I don't see the point in policing her clothes.

Do you let her pick her own clothes?

Be proud of her for knowing what she likes and sticking to it. Last time my DD wore a dress or anything remotely "girly" was for her yr7 leavers party 3 years ago.

Let her wear what she wants, and let her choose her own clothes when you are buying them.

You could let her have a say in what you buy her.

So if you want her to wear smarter clothes for going out, let her pick them, what would be so terrible in her wearing smart trousers and causal smartish top that she chooses? rather than you buying what you think she should wearing.

I think the first thing is to have event appropriate clothes. There is a lot in between old football jersey and a dress.she is 9yo which is old enough to come shopping with you. Trousers and jeans at emto automatically boys clothes.

Her choice. Let her wear what she wants.

YADNBU… she’s a girl and should look like one.

Take her shopping and let her choose her own clothes. For certain occasions it's reasonable that you would like her to dress smartly (though a primary school party is definitely a wear whatever you choose affair) - but that doesn't mean she has to wear things that are your taste, not hers.

YABVU. Clothes are just clothes