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AIBU?

To think three is too young for hot food?

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thefluffysideofgrey · 17/12/2019 06:49

As in very hot, straight out of the oven, will burn you if you touch or bite it hot?

My DH is adamant that our son needs to learn how to deal with it. This has resulted in screams and food being thrown across the room. I don't blame him.

Am I being precious?

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messolini9 · 17/12/2019 13:15

My DH is adamant that our son needs to learn how to deal with it

Adamant? What a twat. I'm concerned for DH's own understanding of whether hot stuff burns. Can you please switch your iron on to 'cottons', & lay the palm of DH's hand along it?

You know - just so he "learns how to deal with it".

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hsegfiugseskufh · 17/12/2019 13:17

messolini ah yes because that's exactly the same isn't it

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Havaina · 17/12/2019 13:17

@Bollykecks

I give my child food straight out of the oven, and funnily enough he trusts me because I have taught him properly. He is entirely safe.

What an odd choice of words. I still burn my mouth and I’m in my 30s!

If you think your child is ‘entirely safe’ from burning his mouth on hot food you’re deluded!

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ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 17/12/2019 13:18

Pfefferkuchen and Bollykecks

I plate his up first so it's cooling, sometimes I put it by an open window. Then plate everybody else's up, everyone gets served at the same time, but his is cooler. Its what works for us. I'd rather do that than risk him burning his mouth and then refusing to eat for a few days.

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EmmiJay · 17/12/2019 13:19

Do you think I'd allow anyone, husband/father or not, try and let my child burn its mouth on hot food?! NOPE. Dickheads.

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hsegfiugseskufh · 17/12/2019 13:20

havaina well he hasn't as of yet....?

do you not know how to deal with hot food? I don't burn my mouth either!

good for you totheregiment though I would hate eating cold food personally. But not doing that doesn't mean I don't give a shit, or im happy to let my child get burnt, or im abusive or whatever else has been said about the DH.

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MerryDeath · 17/12/2019 13:23

my son is almost three and neither I or DH would ever give him food that was piping hot. everything is allowed to cool down. it doesn't matter if you tell him, he'll shove it in anyway. he will learn the self control when he's ready without needing to have his mouth burnt fgs i'm not still going to be cooling his food when he's 10 or 20. your DH needs a jab in the eye.

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ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 17/12/2019 13:26

good for you totheregiment though I would hate eating cold food personally. But not doing that doesn't mean I don't give a shit, or im happy to let my child get burnt, or im abusive or whatever else has been said about the DH.

Why are you taking it personally? Its not about you? If you don't let your small child get their mouth burnt with oven hot food then you've got nothing to feel bad about.

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paranoidmum2 · 17/12/2019 13:27

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Thedeadwood · 17/12/2019 13:27

Perhaps it’s just worth posting this story. People can actually die from being burnt from hot food.

metro.co.uk/2019/10/10/man-killed-fishcake-hot-burned-throat-10894623/

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YahooGmail · 17/12/2019 13:28

In what world is a 3 year old ever going to have to benefit from learning not to eat the food until it's cooled down? Does he think said 3 year old might be on a date in a restaurant with nursery friend and embarrasses himself by burning his mouth?

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hsegfiugseskufh · 17/12/2019 13:37

paranoid im not perfect at all! the only thing I ever burn my mouth on are cheese toasties. I don't feed my 3yo those! He just knows to wait, but he does the same at nursery too.

totheregiment the DH might not be either, but its ok to call him abusive and to suggest burning his hands on an iron etc. That's my point!

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Pfefferkuchen · 17/12/2019 13:38

In what world is a 3 year old ever going to have to benefit from learning not to eat the food until it's cooled down?

the real one?

when a parent makes a mistake, when the restaurant makes a mistake and parents are distracted, when he's having diner at a friend or relatives... I don't know, WHY wouldn't you teach your kids basic.. it's not even a skill, common sense maybe? Food in plate might be hot, plate might be hot, be careful.

Why do people treat their kids like complete idiots? A normal 3 year old understands and learns plenty, why the need to always tip toe around them?

It's weird.

You see threads of people pulling their hair out about how useless some uni kids are, but clearly it's starts very young...

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hsegfiugseskufh · 17/12/2019 13:39

maybe that's why all these adults are regularly burning their mouths! because nobody taught them how not to do that...

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Pfefferkuchen · 17/12/2019 13:39

ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere
none of my kids has ever burnt their mouth and refused to eat for days, so I must be doing something right. The youngest is 5 btw!

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Mulledwineinajug · 17/12/2019 13:46

My mum used to serve dc boiling hot food. Really dangerous.

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ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 17/12/2019 13:49

the DH might not be either, but its ok to call him abusive and to suggest burning his hands on an iron etc. That's my point!
I didn't suggest anyone burn their hands on an iron. I do think that giving a small child piping hot food and then not supervising or directing them and allowing them to burn their mouth is abusive behaviour. You said you don't do this. You are not abusive.

Pfefferkuchen that's brilliant! I'm really glad, you must definitely be doing something right. I take steps to ensure mine doesn't burn his mouth by letting his food cool. Whatever works, isn't it.

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YouJustDoYou · 17/12/2019 13:50

What the fuck is wrong with your dh?! What an abusive twat.

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BeatriceTheBeast · 17/12/2019 13:52

I don't really understand your OH's point. Obviously, your ds ISN'T learning how to deal with it, is he? He's putting it straight in his mouth and burning it. Your OH IBU. Definitely. And is possibly some sort of idiot.

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myself2020 · 17/12/2019 13:53

We just serve food. the kids (2 and 7) get a warning that food is hot, and we make sure water is available. no burns etc, they just learned to be careful (shockingly my 7 year old is also allowed to use sharp knifes, and is doing well)

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Topseyt · 17/12/2019 13:56

So your DH thinks that your child should learn that hot food from the oven burns your mouth (and it can sometimes be a serious burn) by just letting him burn himself?

What a complete arse, and I'd be telling him that.

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goodluckdontdie · 17/12/2019 13:58

Yeah, at some point young kids need to learn to blow their food and wait for it to cool down. But if they're not quite there yet, for whatever reason, then waiting 5 minutes before you give it to them is not going to do them any harm is it? They're not going to reach adulthood being unable to cope with hot food!

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goodluckdontdie · 17/12/2019 14:00

they just learned to be careful (shockingly my 7 year old is also allowed to use sharp knifes, and is doing well)

Here's another good example. That's great that your 7-year-old can safely use sharp knives. But what if every time you gave them one, they kept cutting themself? Would you just keep on doing it and saying "well they've got to learn to use sharp knives!" or would you just think you know what? Maybe they can wait until they're 8 or 9.

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myself2020 · 17/12/2019 14:02

@goodluckdontdie you would be surprised how many people (mainly young adults) are utterly incompetent at life (looking for the key complaints on main consumer good is shocking- that freshly cooked food is hot does feature quite prominently). kids do need to actively learn that, and if they just automatically shovel it all in, its concerni g

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myself2020 · 17/12/2019 14:04

@goodluckdontdie you teach them. easy. just takes some time, and effort from the parent. kids who earn how to use utensils are hardly ever the ones who get insured!

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