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AIBU?

To think three is too young for hot food?

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thefluffysideofgrey · 17/12/2019 06:49

As in very hot, straight out of the oven, will burn you if you touch or bite it hot?

My DH is adamant that our son needs to learn how to deal with it. This has resulted in screams and food being thrown across the room. I don't blame him.

Am I being precious?

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Wiaa · 17/12/2019 07:19

I have a 3yr old i always dish his food out first cut it up ect then dish up the rest by the time its on the table its mostly cool enough to eat. He does know food can be hot though and checks it first blows on it or will eat the cooler food first if i say x is still a bit hot. I think you need to find a middle ground. Everyone is jumping on your OH a bit but if you've been offerring really cool food all the time your LO wont know how to deal with hot food so hes right just being a bit OTT about the resolution

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Wereeaglesdare · 17/12/2019 07:19

Your husbands an idiot. I wouldn't be telling your health visitor that in a hurry. It even says on the back of packets let it stand. You shouldn't be letting him dictate and stand by while your child burns his mouth absolutely pathetic. It's actually seen as abuse that in care.
If my DP tried to do that to my child I'd empty the plate over his head. The fact your even asking this question means u need to have a serious word with yourself.

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Aroundnabout1 · 17/12/2019 07:22

Your DH sounds like an arsehole.

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UtuNorantiPralatongsThirdEye · 17/12/2019 07:23

Why are you allowing your husband to deliberately hurt your 3 year old?

It's fucking cruel and abusive IMO.

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MashedChristmasPud · 17/12/2019 07:24

What next? Your H gives him a lighter so when he burns the house down he will learn his lesson? How about leaving loads of household cleaners around or medicines? How about making him go to a public toilet alone?

He’s only three for goodness sakes. Does your H get a weird kick out of seeing others suffer?

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ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 17/12/2019 07:26

Why are you allowing your husband to deliberately hurt your 3 year old?

This.

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londonrach · 17/12/2019 07:27

My three year old knows if hot or cold and chevks as does all her friends. Think from two but no way be giving it straight from the oven. Yanbu but you need to start teaching hot and cold.

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Ugzbugz · 17/12/2019 07:33

I am nearly 40 and cant eat boiling hot food, my friend got awful burns in her mouth from a chip once, my DS can eat food much hotter than me but I would till remind him even at 11. Who wants a burnt mouth?

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MsChatterbox · 17/12/2019 07:34

My 2 year old blows on everything even cold Tuna. He's paranoid it will be hot. But I still give him food cooled down. In nurseries it won't be piping hot either!

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JoGose · 17/12/2019 07:35

He definitely shouldn’t be giving it straight from oven. I don’t even do that

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TheTea · 17/12/2019 07:36

My 22 month old understands that food can be hot and he blows it. I wouldn't give it to him straight out of the oven through as I'm not a sadist.

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FreeStar · 17/12/2019 07:37

How is this even an issue? Surely you just serve your family their meal when it is cooked and if it's too hot for the 3 year old you say 'blow it-it might be very hot!" If something is too hot you say- 'eat your peas first because they cool quickest' or words to that effect. Crikey!

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FreeStar · 17/12/2019 07:43

Are some people interpreting 'straight out the oven' literally- as in taking chip off tray in oven and straight to mouth? No-one eats their food like this? Straight out the oven to me, means plating up once cooked and taking through to dining room to eat- by this time it's beginning to cool a tiny bit but still very hot- but manageable for most people.

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Dontfuckingsaycheese · 17/12/2019 07:44

I agree it's a skill that needs learning but not in the way your husband suggests.

Even now I get it wrong (speaking as someone who burnt their mouth on freshly microwaved porridge the other day and am embarrassed to say I spat it out with huge apologies to my new work colleagues!)

I would not deliberately make a 3 year old have that experience

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LarkDescending · 17/12/2019 07:48

People are interpreting “straight out of the oven, will burn you if you touch it or bite it” just as it says. The OP has been quite specific as to how her DH is serving the food.

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Interestedwoman · 17/12/2019 07:48

Eek! YANBU

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Littlepond · 17/12/2019 07:49

WTAF? Our job is to protect our children, not to throw danger at them and hope they find a way out 🤷🏼‍♀️

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BrieAndChilli · 17/12/2019 07:49

I didn’t realise this was even an issue??!! I’ve always just served up food when cooked, out it on the table, then we faff around with sauces, cutting it up etc and then eat it, if too hot it gets blown on. My kids have never burnt their mouth nor do we stand around for age waiting for it to cool!! I suppose I plated theirs up first but it was never a conscious decision to let those food cool.

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justilou1 · 17/12/2019 07:50

Why do husbands do this? Do they enjoy hurting kids and fighting with their wives???

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Glittertwins · 17/12/2019 07:50

Why wouldn't he plate his food up first and cut into it to allow it to start cooling down?
Then, when it's on the table, teach him how to check safely? The child won't instinctively know - they need to be shown surely?

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Nanny0gg · 17/12/2019 07:52

Surely you dish it up. Leave a minute or two, blow on it as you're putting it down and then get them to blow too?

Next time, microwave your husband's dinner just before giving it to him.

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WaterSheep · 17/12/2019 07:52

My kids have never burnt their mouth nor do we stand around for age waiting for it to cool!!

That's great. However, if you were experiencing screaming / throwing food as it was too hot and was burning your children's mouths, you would alter the way you do things? Not tell the children they need to learn to deal with it.

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Freshnewus · 17/12/2019 07:54

What? According to your DH, your son needs to learnt to burn himself?

I don't like hot hot food or drinks. I always give hem a few minutes to cool down. It's annoying as everyone starts before me, but I have a sensitive mouth and couldn't dream of being forced to eat it piping hot!!

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drivingtofrance · 17/12/2019 07:56

Who eats straight out of the oven? Surely by the time it has been portioned out and served on to plates it will have cooled down?

Children need to know that things can be hot. Fire, oven, candles etc but it doesn't mean they have to learn the hard way by burning themselves.

However I don't agree with blowing on food. I see adults doing it. No need.

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lifeisgoodagain · 17/12/2019 08:01

You need to teach him to blow on his food and wait - 3 is about the right age in my experience

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