DU never locks the bloody door

[Saitama]

Title really, we moved to a new house recently and DH so far 6 times (not that I’m counting... ) has left the front door unlocked. We live on a main road so the front door is easily accessible. We also have dogs so if they jumped at or knocked the door handle it could open, they could escape and get run over as well as all our stuff being stolen. Fab!

I find this absolutely infuriating. He doesn’t take it seriously, says he will lock it next time and promises to lock it as soon as he gets in, but 6 chances later and he still leaves it unlocked and now I obviously don’t trust him.

I’ve taken his house keys and our car key from him and said I’ll have to let him in and out of the house like a child. I don’t trust him with the car key because how can I know he’s locking the car if he can’t even lock the house door? I’ve told him he has to get a bus to work now. Too harsh? AIBU?

How do I make him lock the fking door!?!? I don’t want to have to babysit the keys but what choice do I have? I looked at getting an auto lock as a secondary lock but it’s a upvc door so I’m unsure you can even get it for that type, and frankly why should I have to spend money on that when as an adult DH should just be able to lock the door normally? ARGH!

Could you ask him use the back door and keep the front door locked?

What kind of front door is not automatically locked when shut

Er, a normal one? I've never lived in a house with automatically locking doors. None of the people I visit regularly do either.

get a normal door lock that locks when it shuts. What kind of front door is not automatically locked when shut?

That is a normal door to me. I'm aware that other types of locks/doors exist but I've never lived in a house where the door automatically locked.

Get a lock which locks automatically = cancel the cheque.

What kind of front door is not automatically locked when shut?

The type with a handle commonly seen on upvc doors such as mine and many other people’s houses. Like a pp I’m aware that other types of locks exist though

I wonder how many people have been going round leaving car and house doors unlocked because they seem to be under the impression that all doors automatically lock when they are closed?

The type with a handle commonly seen on upvc doors such as mine

My front door, my previous (UPVC) front door, my brother’s front door, my daughters front door ....... all of those have a handle on the outside but NONE of them can be opened from outside without a key. The handle is used if you want to double lock (or un double lock) the door.

Possible. All doors I’ve lived with something like this and then a Chubb and sometimes an Manchester bar (in rougher areas)

Not sure why they are called ‘night latches’ though as they work just the same 24 hours ! Maybe because at night you can put the ‘snick’ up for additional security ??

You can’t take his car keys and order him to take bus, this is abusive behaviour.

Just saw this story and thought if this thread. If not burgled you may end up with a stray puppy!

www.boredpanda.com/dog-stray-home-open-door-adoption-jack-jokinen/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=BPFacebook

I clearly am not understanding OP’s concern.
Is the front door able to be opened from the outside if not locked? What kind of door is this?
UPVC doors that I’ve come across cannot be opened from the outside.
If the dogs are a concern re opening them then fit a bolt or two. Better still, fit a Yale lock like I have.Strangers cannot walk in ( no handle on the outside of my door) and my dog can’t open it. It has never occurred to us to lock the door from the inside unless we go to bed.

I’m a bit concerned at OP’s controlling behaviour on this and , as others have said, this is not a battle to fight over.

OP. Get a better lock or just roll your eyes and lock it yourself. There are worse battles that couples need to deal with.

How old is your car that it doesn't automatically central lock when you step away from it?

How new would it have to be that it did this ? First time I heard about such a daft idea was earlier this week, leaving my car at the garage for some work and been told to leave the keys in the lock and then suddenly asked if it locked itself when I shut the door as people have started accidentally locking their keys in the car when they leave their car at the garage. I would suggest that the overwhelming majority of cars on the road don't have this inbuilt disaster waiting to happen.

OP - You are being incredibly unreasonable and controlling

You can’t take his car keys and order him to take bus,

But she can take the keys to her car and tell him he no longer has her permission to use it.

....or just roll your eyes and lock it yourself.

Why should she have to run around after him because he can't behave like a reasonable adult? What if she's out or in bed asleep?

He is a bit of a twat bit I’m not sure you get to treat him like a 13 yo either. If he won’t step up you need to consider your relationship. I would not be happy either. Often people don’t see the risks though, especially during waking hours. Maybe this is a disagreement about the importance of what you think. My H was similar. I always checked the door but often he would leVe it unlocked in the evening. We were both good about locking it at bedtime.