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AIBU to send my daughter as a colourful angel?

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MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/12/2019 14:04

Nativity is on Tuesday and my daughter would like to wear a rainbow coloured floaty dress, blue wings, white cardigan and white tights.
Plus pipe cleaner halo headband.

Do I have to persuade her to wear a white sheet and try and make something?

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Icecreamsoda99 · 15/12/2019 14:08

What instructions have the school sent? If they haven't specified I think you can dress her how she wants. She may stand out somewhat but if she is comfortable with that I can't see the issue.

WaterSheep · 15/12/2019 14:09

Have the school given any guidance as to what clothes she needs?

As amazing as a rainbow angel would be, I suspect they're looking for white top / leggings and a tinsel headband. Grin

Although i'm surprised they're performing on Tuesday and haven't asked for costumes yet, ours are usually in a week or so beforehand.

SpeedofaSloth · 15/12/2019 14:11

I would send her in what you have, if you think it is close enough to what school have asked for. There's so much expense at this time of year, reusing what you have is the way forward IMO.
DD(6) is a narrator this year, and we've got away with a hand-me-down Xmas jumper and hat.

Lagartha · 15/12/2019 14:12

Is there a few of them being angels? If so, I’d assume the costume preference would be white, so they all look similar.

LaMarschallin · 15/12/2019 14:12

Best to check with whoever is running the Nativity and see what they expect.
It could be a bit galling for the other angels if they're in white (as is usual) and "rainbow angel" steals the show.

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MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/12/2019 14:13

There’s no brief and they’re quite open. You just drop costumes off on the day.
She’s comfortable and it’s items we already have but I don’t want her to be the odd one out either.
It’s all for about 5 minutes at preschool.
Her brother is a donkey so is just in a donkey onesie. Easy!

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ISmellBabies · 15/12/2019 14:14

If they've asked for an angel for the nativity I'd put her in white, and blue wings as a compromise /for ease. I probably wouldn't go total rainbow fairy because it's a nativity for all the kids and it's not quite the same if you've got mary and Joseph surrounded by a rainbow fairy, three spidermen and a cowboy. Although that would be cool if everybody was on board with it from the start I suppose!

whatiswrongwithmee · 15/12/2019 14:14

No, an Angel is white with a halo. I don't think that needs to be specified. I wouldn't make her stand out by being colourful.

Silvercatowner · 15/12/2019 14:18

Who on earth decided angels should be white? A colourful angel sounds amazing, as long as she's happy then all fine.

NerrSnerr · 15/12/2019 14:21

For preschool I'd send her in what she wants. If you can't be a colourful angel when you're 3 or 4 when can you?

BeyondVotesForFlube · 15/12/2019 14:27

We had a Mary in an Elsa dress - you do the rainbow angel 👍

Clymene · 15/12/2019 14:28

Preschool? She can wear what she wants

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MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/12/2019 14:31

Thanks everyone. I think we will go for it. They all know she’s a bit alternative so I think it’ll be ok 😂 🧚‍♂️

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JamesBlonde1 · 15/12/2019 14:33

You know that when the school say angel, they mean white. As it has for years, when we were all children. Tell your DD that's the outfit expected.

Then she can wear what the hell she wants at home.

Redtartanshoes · 15/12/2019 14:33

Let her own the rainbow angel 👼

WorraLiberty · 15/12/2019 14:36

There’s no brief and they’re quite open. You just drop costumes off on the day.
She’s comfortable and it’s items we already have but I don’t want her to be the odd one out either.

Well she will be.

You might find they dig out a white dress for her if they have one.

CatkinToadflax · 15/12/2019 14:36

I saw this thread listed in ‘trending now’ and it read AIBU to dress my daughter as a ......angel. I was so hoping that the missing word would be hell’s ! 😄

But to answer your AIBU I think a rainbow angel sounds lovely!

Clangus00 · 15/12/2019 14:37

A rainbow angel sounds bloody AWESOME!!

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MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/12/2019 14:38

Not loving some passive aggressive posts 🙈
She can wear white when she’s older at school when there’s a brief :)

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Gogreen · 15/12/2019 14:38

No, a colourful angel is a fairy, angels are white.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 15/12/2019 14:39

I went to ds 5 nativity last week and all the Angels were in white/cream, I would have loved to see a rainbow one.Do it!

whatiswrongwithmee · 15/12/2019 14:43

Not saying that a rainbow angel (fairy) doesn't sound lovely, and it would be fab to dress up as in the house, or even fancy dress at school. Just not at a nativity. They've probably put a lot of work into this, nursery class or not. To put a rainbow fairy in the middle of it might ruin the theme.

You could always ask tomorrow?

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MaybeMaybeNotJ · 15/12/2019 14:43

❤️

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BeyondVotesForFlube · 15/12/2019 14:43

Gogreen, I honestly don't know whether to call the wording of that post racist, or ask how many angels you have seen? Grin

ParkheadParadise · 15/12/2019 14:44

Go for it
At dd's nativity last week one little girl had a pink tutu on.

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