AIBU to send my daughter as a colourful angel?

[MaybeMaybeNotJ]

Nativity is on Tuesday and my daughter would like to wear a rainbow coloured floaty dress, blue wings, white cardigan and white tights.
Plus pipe cleaner halo headband.

Do I have to persuade her to wear a white sheet and try and make something?

I’m sure they have angels who are funky. I once had a very heated discussion with my church about my angel outfit. The costume was fine with me but they insisted I remove my glasses (this was back in the 1970’s). I was all of six and insisted that God most certainly had angels who wore glasses. The vicar threatened to demote me from Angel Gabriel. I stood firm and in the end my stubbornness won. Well, that and the fact that I was the only little blonde girl they had. 😇

I will ask tomorrow and show them the picture just in case they object.

Plus if anyone is using the argument of angels depicted in the traditional nativity to say they must wear white, it's worth bearing in mind that all angels who appear to humans in the bible are male

Why not send her in a mask with multiple faces? If people want angels to be accurate? A mans face, an ox and a lion.

www.learnreligions.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-angels-701965

I don't think they'll object. If they don't bring the clothes until the day of the show, then there's a high chance of any / all of the following happening: Someone's parents / carers forgetting the outfit, a child refusing to dress up, a child fiddling with the outfit or a child crying as they want to wear the same as X (their friend).

They're preschool age. So long as they're having fun and no one gets hurt, then the performance will be a success.

I have a friend like this. She always try’s to go ‘alternative’ and then when her dc sees that every one else is matching she gets upset. Every single time.

Best was when we went hobby craft and friend wanted to make an Easter bonnet out of paper instead of the traditional ones...

She'll definitely stand out and I wouldn't do it at school, but nurseries are more laid back. Angels are pretty much in white or cream. Maybe the odd recycled ballet costume.

At my DD's school an angel once came in with a blue dress and white headdress. Now that was BU

"ruin the theme" of a preschool nativity?! 😂

Let her go as she pleases. Time enough for her to conform when she's older and more self-conscious. I love a bit of a alternative, and a child with a bit of individuality.

I hope she has sparkly wellies or something to go with the outfit 😉

A rainbow angel sounds great, there is no reason why not. Let's face it the nativity play is full of artistic licence.

I think it sounds amazing! If she's comfortable in that, let her wear it. My DS was an angel, pre school provided the costumes but he wouldn't wear it so he was on stage in a neon Mickey mouse jumper and jeans with some wings on. Another boy had purple tinsel draped all over him. Its pre school, no one cares that much

Renaissance angels come in all colours

For what it's worth I had a wonderfully independent 3-4 year old. Marched to the beat of her own drum. Confident and happy. Dressed herself in her own choice since she could!

By the tender age of 5.5 she has become very self conscious. Actual tears at the thoughts of standing out in public. Still has her own dress sense, but when it comes to standing in front of an audience she just wants to blend into the background.

If the child is happy, go with it. Time enough peer pressure will get to her.

It does depend though.

If everyone else follows the normal brief, and it's only traditional nativity characters, it could look a little like dressing your kid up as a bridesmaid-wanting to make sure they stand out and look more important than the rest.
If there's a few why refuse to dress up at all (like my ds) and lots of parents making do with what they have, then they won't stand out and look fine.

Why don't you send them in with a white t-shirt and tinsel, and the rainbow dress and let the staff make the call?

Who on earth decided angels should be white? Most western artists over the last 1000 years.

It sounds really cute but I think checking with them tomorrow is a good idea just in case!

Dint, a quick google image search of 'annunciation painting' demonstrates that is completely mistaken.

Who cares if a 3 year old preschooler 'stands out'?

A colourful dress might be the least of the teachers' worries.

The crying child might stand out (or the vomiting child?!)
The breakdancing shepherd in his own little world taking no notice of anyone else might stand out
The child singing too loudly might stand out
The child too terrified to say their line might stand out

They're preschool children. It's unlikely to go perfectly. I have seen angels arrive in pink tshirts and jeggings just wearing a halo and wings!

Your rainbow angel sounds lovely, go for it. Also, some people's idea that it's 'traditional' that Mary has golden hair plainly don't realise that she came from the Middle East.

Please please please let your daughter be a rainbow angel. And please share a lovely picture of her afterwards. Let her enjoy herself. Yes it's a nativity - but she's tiny. Why shouldn't she be a beautiful rainbow angel.

We had a team of 1980s neon fairies in DD1's Christmas play - legwarmers and all... but that was very much planned for.

I'd compromise with rainbow tights or bright coloured tinsel around the belt and then some form of white main dress personally.

We had Mary in the Elsa dress at last peak Frozen - DD1 spent all of that nativity glaring at the girl because she was desperate for an Elsa dress (one was coming from Santa).

I voted YANBU to mean you should let her wear the rainbow outfit she chose.

I imagine they will have children who won’t want to dress up at all so I can’t imagine they’d mind if you didn’t stick to their instructions - and it doesn’t even sound like they have any so just go for whatever she wants to wear 👍

Nobody looks at any child other than their own.

Unless of course you're this child 😂😂

m.youtube.com/watch?v=ihQuiyV-lXU

I think it's fine.

My DD3 was cast as an angel but she objected so rather than start a war the nursery raided the dressing up box for an animal costume. No point upsetting 3 year olds with a mind of their own - no guarantee but my free spirit would far rather follow her own plan than conform so doesn't get upset if she ends up different.

I'm amazed by all the people who have seen a real live angel and know they are white!