When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

[ScreamingLadySutch]

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

And we're in our forties so I refuse to use boyfriend 😬

@speakout snap!

I also think "Other half" is weird, there's an underlying implication that I'm only half a person. I find "wife" annoying as well, I am married but I just don't like the term wife, probably because for most of history wife has meant "lesser person, property of the man".

I also find the term "fiance" odd as well for some reason, it always sounds forced and unnatural when people use it.

At the end of the day I think partner sounds simple and unfussy and it covers all types of relationship. I do use husband also when I talk about my DH, probably because "husband" doesn't have the negative connotations that the term "wife" does to me, annoyingly!

YABU

I am married but say OH/husband/partner interchangeably. If I was in a situation where my martial status was relevant I’d say husband but generally it isn’t.

I think the world consists of husbands or boyfriends. I wouldn't bother with anything else. I would never use partner, it sounds so impersonal.

@commanderdalgliesh I know what you mean, I'm not living with anybody but if I were talking to a plumber about what time to call to fix the toilet I would just say ''husband'' regardless. I'm in my 40s and I wouldn't want to presume anybody cared. But there is no word for boyfriend that doesn't start to sound a bit ridiculous as you get older.

I think my friend's grandma used to say gentlemanfriend but for that to work, you have to have met at bridge and gone on a cruise together!

Are people in civil partnerships allowed to refer to their partner?

Civil partnership, two people in partnership, partners

Well I think that is a partner! In the true sense.
That's how I see it.

@Greenglassteacup Yep, as long as it's CP, just so we know 😏

Lol what bollocks

I call my long term partner my husband. He calls me his wife.
I can't see it matters.
It doesn't matter in everyday life or if you post on mn about a funny anecdote or about him not doing dishes. It is relevant if you are breaking up and wondering about splitting assets or about him getting inheritance and posting to mn to ask advice.

Or DCP

I find anything but partner weird. I am not married despite having been with DP for 15 years. Even if we were to marry, which I would find terribly difficult to wrap my values around, I can't imagine referring to someone as my husband, and even less myself as a 'wife'.

Rezie

Thanks for your concern.
We don't need advice though.

My husband is my partner in life and in law. We are a team. We are not a perfect and always-in-agreement type team, so he’s not my “other half”. He is not always “dear” (nor am I for that matter 🙄) Partner best describes our relationship.

OH makes me cringe - I’m a whole person , I don’t need a man , husband or otherwise to make me into a complete person. I refer to my husband as just that , or more commonly use his name

Thanks for your concern.
We don't need advice though.

And that is wonderful.
I was just commenting on how it is relevant information on several posts on mn.

@GidgetGirl thanks, I can't unsee that mental image now... I won't be using 'D'P in future now... lmao

This is a strange hill to die on. You sound really angry about it, declaring people snowflakes and the like.

The OP makes it perfectly clear by being unclear in her OP that the issue about OPs being unclear in their OP. It leads to pages of people responding in the wrong way.

The consequence is that the OP has gotten the wrong advice. She now thinks we are all snowflakes.

But I do like DCP.

Is the OP ''dying on a hill''?

I thought she was just posting on mumsnet same as everybody else here.

Sometimes threads take a strange turn. Why not shut down all discussion, lest we be accused of dying on a hill!

But on threads where its relevant, other posters always ask if the woman is married really early on. And tend to get a speedy answer.

@xChristmasJumperx well yes but I’m not talking about posting on AIBU so much as getting defensive when people disagree and calling people snowflakes.

Do you mainly post on relationships?

Most posts on MN it's not relevant at all.