AIBU?
ohfucksake · 08/12/2019 09:09
Oh ffs I posted too soon
In quick format
Asked dp to help me with the baby this weekend as no excuse not to he hasn't got to get up for work etc
We have a prep machine so hardly rocket science.
Sat night fed him but didn't put the lid on bottle properly so soaked the baby - who wouldn't settle as was cold and wet. So I had to get up and change entirely and fed a whole another 5oz bottle. When I washed the bottles in the morning it was full of powder he said yes couldn't shake it properly as was leaking 😖
This morning I asked him to get up with the baby at 0600 as I'd been up loads in the night. He's made a bottle. No fresh milk powder. Not a clean bottle. Just more water in a bottle that had some left in from the night.
Fuck sake. Useless idiot. I go back to work doing nights in a few weeks. This isn't acceptable it's shoddy and lazy to just blame being tired. We are all tired. What he's done is shit and one day will lead to our baby being unwell.
ohfucksake · 08/12/2019 09:14
@CloudyVanilla because I could hear baby not happy and dp waving phone torch around to find battery so I got up in anger in the end to get the dummy which would be by the baby's head in the cot to discover the baby soaking wet clothes. And baby wide awake as I couldn't understand a normally a bottle and ge goes back off to sleep immediately. I put two and two together and made another bottle which he drank in entirety but discovered the bottle with the lid not on properly in the morning when I washed them up. It had been mis screwed on.
CloudyVanilla · 08/12/2019 09:18
Sorry OP what I mean is why didn't you tell DP he needed to do it? It does sound like strategic incompetence and I'd be really worried he would be willing to put a tiny baby through that just because he cant really be bothered.
Hope you have calm but strong words with him and things change.
WhatsNextMrsLandingham · 08/12/2019 09:23
Does he ever say "but you do it SO much better than me" OP? It's his baby too and he needs to learn how to look after someone who is entirely dependent on those around him to keep him warm, fed, clean, safe etc. Your partner is being a pathetic arsehole. We all cut corners when we're sleep deprived, we've all found little hacks that work for us, but reusing a dirty bottle without proper washing is not one of them. You are not being unreasonable. Tell him to grow the fuck up.
ohfucksake · 08/12/2019 09:25
It's just dawned on me he's never really been left with the baby on his own. Mainly because i don't go out any where without him at weekends etc.
This is our only baby together. his ex wife exclusively breast fed and he was initially very snobby about me bottle feeding. Arse hole.
loutypips · 08/12/2019 09:29
Strategic incompetence. I don't think he really wants to do it properly.
This. He's probably thinking if I bugger this up then I'll get out of doing it.
To get round that I'd buy bottles of pre-made so all he has to do is pour. Do you have a microwave steriliser?
Notopel · 08/12/2019 09:30
We had those bottles too where If you forgot the plastic ‘cap’, it would leak all over the place. A few times where DS got completely soaked in the middle of the night and then had to do a full change soon helped me remember about it. Let your DH deal with it. He won’t learn if you keep bailing him out
FairyJuice · 08/12/2019 09:30
This morning I asked him to get up with the baby at 0600 as I'd been up loads in the night. He's made a bottle. No fresh milk powder. Not a clean bottle. Just more water in a bottle that had some left in from the night
Wtaf??? 
What a useless bastard op. What kind of excuse did he give for not bothering to try and make up a fresh bottle? Do you think he's making a shitty passive aggressive stance against you not breastfeeding?
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