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£400 on eating out in one week - aibu?

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berki · 07/12/2019 15:06

Just had a massive bollocking off of my dad who now thinks I am beyond irresponsible. I am a grown woman!

This is by no means a normal occurrence. I feel weirdly embarrassed and anxious now which is making it all the worse.

I've just started my first grad job in London - making good money (for a singleton at least). In my defence, there have been A LOT of Xmas meals and drinks this week and I've spoilt myself (going through a breakup). Could have gone for cheaper options but I've literally thought "fuck it". Have also ordered deliveroo for breakfast to cure a hangover - not sure I've ever done that before.

AIBU to think yeah it's a lot but as a one-off and in the context of Xmas it's understandable and my dad should back off - he's offered looking after my account! Don't see the point of being bad to feel shit about it now.

It isn't ideal but I can "afford" it for one month. Does seem a massive waste tbh.

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Am I being unreasonable?


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berki · 07/12/2019 15:07

sorry for typos

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Yeahnahyeah1 · 07/12/2019 15:08

How does he even know? Presuming you still live with him, in which case the only way I can see he’d have a point to raise would be if your rent wasn’t being paid but if you’re up to date with that... why is he sticking his nose in?


beautifulxdisasters · 07/12/2019 15:08

Why does your dad even know what you've been spending on food?! I don't think that's something I've ever discussed with mine!

Do you live at home - I could understand him being a bit more annoyed about it if you're supposed to be saving up to move out?


LoonyLunaLoo · 07/12/2019 15:08

Your money; your decision.
It’s not like anyone else is going to suffer or go without due to your spending.


Ekefox · 07/12/2019 15:09

You're young, single, living in London and can afford it? If you can't do it now when can you?! Enjoy I say!


berki · 07/12/2019 15:09

I accidentally let it slip that I'm in my overdraft - he's an accountant so very switched on re finances.

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HollaHolla · 07/12/2019 15:09

Why is your dad managing your bank account? I’d have thought that if you’re working in a grad job, you can manage your own money?

But, yes £400 in a week seems a massive amount. That’s more than my food budget for the month.


Soubriquet · 07/12/2019 15:09

If you can afford it, go for it

If you can’t, then I can see his point


Wakingupnow · 07/12/2019 15:09

It's a lot of money and I couldn't or wouldn't spend that in a month. But I cant see what is of your dad's, if you can afford it


Celebelly · 07/12/2019 15:09

It is a lot of money, but if you can afford it and are having fun then whose business is it otherwise? I presume there's no dripfeed that you're £20,000 in debt, so spend your money that you earn how you like and don't feel guilty for it. You earned that money, not anyone else.


beautifulxdisasters · 07/12/2019 15:10

Well if you're in your overdraft then you can't "afford it", can you!


Weescot · 07/12/2019 15:10

It’s. It his business and I’d be backing away from him


berki · 07/12/2019 15:11

I don't live at home but have been very fortunate to live in a relatives flat (they've emigrated). Only pay bills. My dad wants me to save every penny as he is extremely tight.

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beautifulxdisasters · 07/12/2019 15:11

Still don't think it's any of your dad's business though, but can understand his offer more now - it doesn't sound like you're great at managing your money!


MrsMaiselsMuff · 07/12/2019 15:11

If you're in your overdraft you can't afford it.


haflump · 07/12/2019 15:11

If you’re in overdraft, you can’t afford it so I would say YABU. If you could afford it then I would say it’s no big deal, although it is excessive.


Butterymuffin · 07/12/2019 15:11

Yes, how and why does he know? You're an adult and it's your choice, unless there's some massive backstory here where he's already paying off massive credit cards debts for you.

Tbh it is a waste, but if you can't waste money when you're young and have just got your first proper job, then I don't know when you can. Fuck it.

Tell him no thanks to the offer to 'look after' your account. Hmm


berki · 07/12/2019 15:12

My overdraft is interest-free (for now),

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AllergicToAMop · 07/12/2019 15:12

It isn't ideal but I can "afford" it for one month.

No, you can't...

I accidentally let it slip that I'm in my overdraft - he's an accountant so very switched on re finances.


berki · 07/12/2019 15:13

It's definitely a one-off.

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MegaClutterSlut · 07/12/2019 15:13

As your in your over draft yabu


Misaki · 07/12/2019 15:14

Christmas parties this time of year can't be helped...but it's a huge amount for a week, especially if you're in your overdraft...


Wildorchidz · 07/12/2019 15:14

I think your father has a point
You are living rent free but are using your overdraft
How much are you earning?


beelzeboob · 07/12/2019 15:14

£400 is loads to spend on one person.
But your money your choice. Perhaps your dad sees you wasting the very very enormous advantage you have by living rent free on meals out etc.
Maybe that’s what’s irked him.


UtuNorantiPralatongsThirdEye · 07/12/2019 15:14

If you don't want him or anyone else to comment on your finances then just don't mention your finances to them.

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