To be annoyed that PIL are buying her first bike?

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Months ago, PIL asked if they could by DD4 a bike for her birthday. We said no, as we were planning on buying it for Christmas. I thought that was the end of it. PIL have now bought DD a bike for Christmas. Admittedly, we had decided against buying one just yet- various reasons- we can't afford it, have just had a newborn so it won't get any use for some time and DD isn't actually ready for pedals (she has SEN).
I'm majorly pissed off as her best Christmas present is now coming from PIL. Our presents will not have the wow factor compared with this. Plus I think her first bike should come from us. DD has also specified what colour bike she wants in the future- they've got a different colour.
AIBU to think that a child's first bike is something special and it should be us buying it when the time is right?
Please go easy on me if IABU. I've just had a baby and currently in baby blues mode.

@whyamidoingthis the only poster I can see displaying ’sanctimonious nastiness’ is you.

What was the point in the Pils asking if they could buy a bike if they then completely ignored the answer? They asked, op said thanks but no. They did it anyway. If they did not intend to pay any intention to op they should not have asked.

My grandparents bought our presents quietly when we were small. We were children and had no idea who bought anything, just had normal Christmas. Your dc is loved let them get her the bike

Op why do you want a relationship with them when their son doesn't. Especially, if they ignore the kids for periods of time? Not having a go just wondered?

@Pannalash - the only poster I can see displaying ’sanctimonious nastiness’ is you

Really? Maybe try re-reading your posts. Stating that the op is wrong to be annoyed with her pil's because some children, including yours, don't have grandparents, is pretty nasty and is definitely sanctimonious.

I ‘stated’ no such thing. Your posts are aggressive and unpleasant.

You said: YABVVU my DC sadly have no Grandparents as they are all dead. Appreciate yours.

I don't see any other way to interpret that other than the op is unreasonable/wrong to be annoyed with her pil's because some children, including yours, don't have grandparents.

I have pointed out to you that saying that is nasty and sanctimonious. If you can't see that, fair enough. There's no point in continuing this as you obviously don't see anything wrong with what you said. I equally see nothing wrong with pointing out a comment was nasty, particularly in AIBU🤷‍♀️.

Yet more sanctimony.

Not at all. You might want to look up the meaning of sanctimonious (now that was sanctimonious).

Pressed post too soon. That's going on the assumption that linguistic understanding is indicative of moral superiority.

YABU... sorry.

Unfortunately, it sounds like you want to be the centre of your child's life all the time? You even said you don't have the cash!

Maybe you should look up tedious while you’re at it.

No need. I'm sufficiently literate to understand it.

OP, the issue is they asked, and you said No, and they ignored you.

Rude and disrespectful.

I hope you feel better soon. The baby blues are a right dose.

Mind yourself 💐

*OP, the issue is they asked, and you said No, and they ignored you.

Rude and disrespectful*

That's not true!!

They said they'd get one for her birthday. OP said "No". They didn't get her one for her birthday.

OP told them they (child's parents) would get her one for Christmas. They (child's parents) haven't in fact gotten one for Christmas, because they can't afford it, have a new baby etc etc. So parents in law have bought one.

I really am struggling to see where they are being rude and disrespectful.

They may be rude and disrespectful in general, but in this instance I don't see that they were. Sometimes when we expect bad from people we only see bad in them. Even when maybe it's not necessarily there.

Because they should have asked the parents first.