To think the Tesco's cashier was out of order?

[Youngmamaa2]

Iv just been shopping with DS 2yo and DD 9months, both sat in the trolly. I went to go pay, the cashier asked how many bags I'd like, I told him how many. Both kids where been quiet,minding their own business in the trolly. The cashier looks at them and turns to me and says "they don't look like brothers at all"...
Fair enough getting the gender wrong, shes not got alot of hair & was in a brown coat.
But to make me feel abit shit that they don't look alike.
Both kids have the same dad. Just my son is bright blonde hair blue eyes and the double of his dad and DD is mousy brown hair and dark eyes, like me.
Aibu to think this comment was out of line? It's bothering me 😕

No she was just making conversation...are you always so easily offended?

Why does it bother you though? I don’t think I’d even register it.

I was once told by a cashier I was too young to have a child when paying for shopping with DD

@myusernamewastakenbyme because it was a shitty thing to say 🙄

YABU

It wouldn’t bother me....
I don’t think he was implying your children had different fathers or anything.

Not that it would matter if they did!

I'd ask you to take this down because anyone who knows me will think it's me, my two are polar opposites, but I don't actually mind. I mind that although they are opposites both have somehow managed to look like their father. Go figure that one out.

Why is it shitty? Honestly why?

I have three boys. Two are identical twins the other obvs not and doesn’t look like them. Why on earth would I take offence if someone commented they didn’t look like brothers?!

People talk shit all the time , it's a long shift on a till.
You can choose to be offended or not . Personally I wouldn't give it much headspace.

YABU, probably making small talk.

So they don't actually look alike?

He was just making conversation, calm down.

Why didn't you just reply 'that's because they are brother and sister not brothers'.

It really wasn't a shitty thing to say.

Bit insensitive being as how they may have been adopted / have different fathers / different sperm/egg donors, which would not make them any less siblings. That said, sounds like none of these are the case here, so my advice would be don't sweat the small stuff. As PP said, she was just making conversation. (I know that's easy to say and in practice it is more difficult to let go if you are feeling offended.)

Seriously? My boys look nothing alike, I always get told it. It's just an observation.
Honestly, some people would get offended by the colour of the sky

Well a raised eyebrow and a hard stare is the appropriate response to stupid comments.
It was a crap thing to say. Just ignore and carry on.

Ach don’t be daft

Why does it matter that they don’t look alike?

I don’t think my dc look much like each other, so was surprised when one of their teachers told one of them she looked like her sister.

Some siblings look very similar but lots don’t.

It was a stupid thing for her to say and totally out of order . To make pleasant conversation is one thing but to make personal comments is really inappropriate. Trouble is the time to have tackled her face to face has past . Has the receipt got “how did we do “ on it ? If so tell them you had a crap experience. I’m a Granny and if I’d been there I’d have had something to say . Taking a 9 month old and a 2 year old is enough without this !

I think its a really stupid comment

How is that small talk...what in earth are you supposed to say to that conversational gambit

Your reaction is very OTT.

My kids don't look alike, they don't even look like me. Who cares.

Yabu and precious. He's just making conversation. I get told almost on a daily basis my dd looks nothing like me. It's just a fact. It doesn't hurt. I know she's mine.

Siblings don’t always look alike. I look nothing like one of my siblings, we each take after different sides of our family, and I heard that sort of comment a lot growing up. I don’t think most people mean anything bad by it.

Oh fgs, is this the thread you've started the petty TAAT about?

It was harmless small talk. She doesn't give a shit about you or your kids.

YANBU. Cashier has no right to make personal comments and should have received training about this.

Why would you be offended that they don’t look alike?

@ballsdeep
They were brother and sister!