Can't believe I'm even posting this. Christmas dinner highchair'gate'

[Nobhobs]

Spending Christmas with DH, DS and the in laws. We're weaning DS so mentioned in passing bringing his high chair so he can sit with us during Christmas dinner (if he's not napping or anything like that) he's very alert and active and gets arsey if not being entertained. He loves being in his high chair and round the table and it's his first Christmas so we're a bit excited (yes I know he worn remember it)

MIL has said we can't bring his highchair, as her other sons baby will only be 8 weeks old and can't sit in one and we can't leave out one of the babies on Christmas Day. I laughed thinking it was a bad joke, but no, deadly serious.

We sort of ignored and thought we'd deal with it on the day, but had a text from 8 week olds mum saying that MIL had told her we were going to try and leave her child out and that she's not happy about it. Her baby will be the only one not in the Christmas dinner photos if we bring our highchair I said well obviously baby can be held up in the photos if that's what's upsetting you, DS is at the age where he doesn't just nap constantly and wants to be involved and entertained and it's nothing to do with leaving her child out.

It's totally ridiculous and DH is now saying just to leave the highchair at home to avoid drama. I've never had any issues with the in laws before and I'm mind blown by how stupid this is. Or am I BU? Is this a thing?! If one babies on the floor they all have to be??

So let me guess, the alternative is that you and your baby are not in the pictures? As clearly unless napping you can’t just have your son out of sight.

They’re being ridiculous, I think I’d have to tell DH that we’re not going if they’re going to be so outrageous.

Have his first Christmas at home and invite them for Boxing Day or something.

Absolutely ridiculous, it wouldn't even cross my mind to be annoyed if I was the mum of an 8 week old who couldn't fit in a highchair. Such bizarre behaviour.

Will your son be allowed to walk, talk, wear pants first or will that also put the other lad's nose out of joint? I love MIL stories in MN, makes me feel so much better as a grandmother and a MIL!
Make sure that you leave the table for any mass photos, why people spoil meals doing that is beyond me, and be as awkward as you can, make no nice comments regarding the other sprog, really annoy your MIL and SIL, if you go at all.

Better not give your child any food OP, wouldn’t want the 8 week old to feel left out.

Perhaps you should all show up in onesies with adult sized moses basket type things so as not To upstage the litt’lun, eh?

Jesus wept I've read some crazy shit on this site but this is right up there OP. Stay home and chill out with your little family.

That's crazy! I had one daughter in the high chair at the table, making a mess, chucking food everywhere but absolutely loving the Christmas hats, excitement of everyone around the table etc. Youngest daughter was fast asleep in her Moses basket. For the pictures I picked her up, sound asleep, and cradled her in my arms. Then put her back while we dined. Why can't they do the same with the 8wk old??

Fuck me! Where will this end...................

No 1st birthday for your child. Just not fair

Jeep you child back a year going into primary. Just not fucking fair that you have a 1st day at school and we don't

Lol. You must report back on christmas day

Mental behaviour. Just take the high chair and tell them they're being ridiculous

FFS this is ridiculous. Your DS will be eating as well anyway! I wouldn’t go if I was you. Stay at home, cook your own meal, enjoy, and avoid any issues with the ILs.

Spend Xmas at home just you 3.
Honestly, it’s not worth the stress.

You lost me at Christmas dinner photos. WTF?

Rediculous
Don’t go ,I wouldn’t,bat shit

I bet the dc get exactly the same present aimed at 0-3 months...

You need your husband to deal with this, not you, so it doesn't end up being your fault when it goes tits up. He needs to make it clear to his mum and sister that your DS will be at a highchair at the table because the alternative is ridiculous. HIS son will be included in the Xmas meal, and if they don't like it HE will arrange fir you to stay at home on Xmas day. Don't let your DH weasel out of this. It's his mum and sister that are behaving like loons, so he's the one who needs to sort it out!

Is your child forever going to be held back to whatever stage the younger baby is at? Not allowed to walk or talk until the younger one is? etc

They are batshit OP. I would probably avoid the dinner - if they're so crazy about a highchair, who knows what other lunacy they'll come up with. Or, the parents of the younger baby can wear a sling to the dinner, then everyone is present.
Sorry you're having to deal with this OP. Enjoy xmas one way or another!

I've been trying to work out how to edit a photo I have of my niece but I can't without identifying really. Anyway, when she was born 10 years ago, she was 7 months old on her first christmas and her parents made a 'first Christmas Christmas throne'. Basically a supped up bumbo with gold card up the back cut into the style of a throne and spray painted the bumbo gold. Inside had purple velvet in it. Absolutely mental but I'd forgotten about it until this thread.

“My baby is older, has different needs to SILs baby. Surprisingly, it will be like this for their entire lives, meaning that my baby will need different equipment bringing at different stages. You’re a bunch of stupid fucks and I shouldn’t be having to explain this to you. Get over yourselves.”

Dear MIl,
After your recent message regards to the high chair I’ve decided that we are going to have Christmas at home this year.

My 6 month old has completely different needs to an 8 week old and it’s unfair of you to expect them both to be treated the same.

An 8 week old isn’t old enough to sit in a high chair, where as our child is, and we are weaning so it would be unfair to skip meals to appease adults that think feeding a 6 month old is leaving out an 8 week old.

(How can you even purposefully leave out an 8 week old!)

Life is too short for this aggro so I wish you a lovely Christmas.

A young baby in a highchair at the dinner table will be a massive distraction for everyone

What? A young child sitting in an age appropriate seat?
Far bloody more of a distraction kicking off cos he's being forced to sit on someone's lap for hours.
Put your DS and yourself first OP, you're not doing anything over the top or thinking your kid is the be all and end all, it is NORMAL for him to be in a highchair. Do what you like and enjoy his first Christmas, it's a special time.

Wtf?

They’re nuttier than 🐿 💩

‘It’s a special time’ that made me laugh out loud given the ils behaviour in this thread (and similar angst/stress threads popping up). It’s a special time folks. Let’s all HAVE FUN!

If wouldn't take the high chair and when it comes to dinner sit with your child on the floor.
When asked what your doing i would simply say 'well we can't leave them on the floor on their own can we, i don't want them to be left out'

So where are the actually expecting the baby to go? Hold a six month old while you try to eat so the other baby won’t feel left out. Bonkers. There is clearly already some resentment that sil has spoken to mil about.

I personally would not be going at all. A nice relaxing Christmas dinner at home without all the drama. I’m sure sil will be overjoyed with your attention seeking baby out of the way..... let them have at it.