Partner didn't come home last night

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He went out for a drink after work, as he normally does on a Friday, he'll usually have one and then drive home. I hadn't heard from him in a while (which is unusual as he's normally back by 6) so sent a nice message just asking him to let me know he's ok and what time he's expecting to be back. Got a reply a few hours later saying his phone was dead, he'd just charged it and that he'd be back soon. I replied saying I was going to bed. I haven't heard anything since.

I've been restless all night wondering where the hell he is. I sent a message at midnight asking him if he'd like to tell me where he is?!!?!! No reply. I'm fuming. I've got awful pregnancy sickness, I'm knackered and then this idiot decides to do this.

AIBU to think he's behaved like an absolute cock?

Yep thats awful behaviour

Oh my goodness you poor thing. I'd be worried sick if my DH did that. I'm so sorry OP. Please keep us updated. Thinking of you

I'd be worried and furious! Anything else been going on at home?

Not good

I would be worried too. Could he be with a friend or family member?

Nothing going on at home, things are perfectly fine. He's due to pick his son up mid morning though so I presume I'll hear something between now and then. I'm furious, feels so disrespectful.

be worried but not panic-stations phone round the hospitals time yet - he is an adult and in years gone by none of had mobiles - the whole phone thing is making you more worried than you need to be.

keep realistic in your thoughts - the chances are he is fine and hasn't done anything untoward, just sunk a few too many and not phoned.

does he have a form for this?

Which is worse cos that makes him a disrespectful twat

There could be 101 reasons for this. Of course you are worried sick, you're assuming the worst, the insensitive dick. Hopefully he will have just gone and got pissed and ended up on someone's floor, (not OK BTW), try really hard not to make up scenarios. Please try to keep calm and take things easy. He had better have a bloody good explanation for this. You poor thing.

Is this something he's done before? Does he take drugs? If it were my DH then I'd assume he'd had an accident rather than assuming he was out drinking, especially at 7am, so I'm assuming there must be some history here. Is there a friend or work colleague of his who you can call?

Thing is I wouldn't have minded if he'd just called and said I'm sloshed, don't fancy leaving my car here so I'm Gona stay at my friends house. Wouldn't have bothered me. But to not reply at all, not tell me anything, makes me wonder what he's up to! He's never done anything like it

I've just tried to call him, no answer. He doesn't take drugs but has told me he did in the past

Do you know his friends? What time is he due to pick his child up and how?

Can you contact his friends? Maybe they can shed some light? I’d be really cross. Hope he turns up soon with a good explanation x

He'll be in no fit state to get his son, will he?

YANBU - of course he’s an absolute cock.

Wow. I'd be beside myself with worry. Are you able to contact any of his drinking buddies?

Oh my goodness, I honestly can’t imagine my DH ever doing something like this. I’d be absolutely worried sick.

He's back.

Stinking of booze and fags and telling me how hungover he feels. Has fed me an absolute bullshit story, nothing adds up. So I've told him his behaviour is disgusting and left him to it. I'm so angry. He will definately be in no fit state to collect his son, his car isn't even here and I have plans. He's due to collect him in an hour or so, he won't be able to. Part of me thinks I should collect him, another part thinks he's made his bed he should lie in it.

Hope you’re ok

He will definately be in no fit state to collect his son, his car isn't even here and I have plans

He’ll have to have a shower and get a taxi.

What a waste of space, I’m so sorry.

Glad he's back but sorry you're having to deal with this crap

What a dick. For his son's sake I would probably pick him up rather than have him miss out because his dad's a twat but then leave him to entertain him and give him a good bollocking later.

Horrible. Stick to your plans though. He needs to contact his son and make arrangements.