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AIBU?

To shave down there for my partners sake

318 replies

Loneranger14 · 18/11/2019 23:18

I used to always fully shave down there but now been mid 30s and 4 DC later I go all natural, my OH told me last night to shave downstairs I carnt even go to the toilet without having 1 of my DC clinging to my leg never mind a bit of me time, he said he doesn't like it and wants me to shave but to be honest I really don't care and haven't got time and it doesn't bother me. So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

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messolini9 · 18/11/2019 23:21

So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

Of course YANBU.
Your body. Your choice.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 18/11/2019 23:22

Tell him you'll shave if he irons his ballbag.

Tell him it reminds you of one 9f those hairless cats, atm.

You'll shave if he addresses Sphinx. Fair's fair, after all.

messolini9 · 18/11/2019 23:23

What is all this pubic shaving about anyway? (generally, not you in particular, OP!)

I genuunely don't understand men who cannot cope with a woman's natural body. Is it a porn thing - that's some what men think is 'normal' now?

Ledkr · 18/11/2019 23:23

Tell him to stop watching porn too

messolini9 · 18/11/2019 23:24

"that some men thik in normal now"

flaminheck · 18/11/2019 23:24

He's pubic enemy no.1 Grin

messolini9 · 18/11/2019 23:24

aha, @Ledkr - great minds huh ...

ClaraThePigeon · 18/11/2019 23:25

For your partner's sake? Is it attempting to strangle him while you sleep? If so YANBU.

Actually to be honest after that dickish comment of his if your pubic hair was doing just that I think I'd be cheering it on.

AwkwardFucker · 18/11/2019 23:25

Tell him to fuck off.

NetballHoop · 18/11/2019 23:26

Tell him you are an adult female and that means you have pubes.

Wildorchidz · 18/11/2019 23:26

How long have you been with him? I guess if he has been used to you shaving and now you don’t he may find it different. Have you spoken to him properly about it?
Obviously it’s completely your decision though.

Wearywithteens · 18/11/2019 23:27

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icclemunchy · 18/11/2019 23:29

He told you to? Tell him to fuck right off just on that basis never mind anything else!

Its one thing to have an open discussion about something he would like you to do and another enterly to order you to do something that's purely for his own pleasure

Babdoc · 18/11/2019 23:29

If you’re keen on the idea of infected spots, ingrown hairs and itchy regrowth, plus the time consuming hassle of repeatedly shaving, then yeah, go for it!
Alternatively, if you subscribe to the extreme feminist notion that your body actually belongs to you, and you are the only person who gets to decide how it looks, then don’t.

PlaymobilPirate · 18/11/2019 23:30

Does he shave his?

Clearnightsky · 18/11/2019 23:31

Jesus tell him to bloody shave down there if he’s so into it!

I absolutely HATE this. Why are women shaving all the time? Christ even I’m waxing - for what? Some hairy arsed porn watching guy?

I really really don’t think blokes are going to be put off sex of all women stopped shaving.

Tell him to do one.

Wildorchidz · 18/11/2019 23:31

If you’re keen on the idea of infected spots, ingrown hairs and itchy regrowth, plus the time consuming hassle of repeatedly shaving, then yeah, go for it!

She says she has always shaved so presumably she has dealt with all of the above already.

MummytoCSJH · 18/11/2019 23:34

Ask him why on earth he'd prefer your body to look like that of a prepubescent child?

Branster · 18/11/2019 23:34

If you meant to shave 5 minutes before his request, then don’t do it just because he has no business to dictate what you do with it.
You do what you want, when you want with your body.

Cauliflowerhead · 18/11/2019 23:35

Tbf it depends on what you expect him to do in your sex life..

If your just doing pretty vanilla stuff then tell him to jog on but if you expect oral he will end up gagging on your pubes

BreastedBoobilyToTheStairs · 18/11/2019 23:35

He told you or he expressed a preference?

Not that you should shave anything that you don't want to, but it would change my reaction from 'you can fuck right off' to a slightly more sympathetic, 'it's a shame you aren't a fan, but I'll be keeping it the way it is, because it's my pubes and my preference'.

Hair removal and all that comes with it like itchy regrowth, razor rash, maintenance...it's something you do for you, not because society and porn have brainwashed generations of men and women into thinking it's normal for a woman to have no body hair.

Did he at least offer to take the children off your hands to give you time to fulfil his request/demand? No? Didn't think so...

BluePheasant · 18/11/2019 23:39

He TOLD you to shave?? I'd laugh in his face tbh. Men like this actually exist?? Fucks sake.

WhineUp · 18/11/2019 23:40

Uh. Tell the pornsick wankstain to fuck right off.

Coffeeisnecessary · 18/11/2019 23:43

Cauliflowerhead I'm confused by your post and now feel like my husband has been concentrating on the wrong bits during oral as he's never once gagged on my pubes!!

Interestedwoman · 18/11/2019 23:45

Don't do it. If you do it he'll nag for it as permanently as he can, and will be constantly nagging you to do it again, unless you can be arsed to keep it up forever.

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