To shave down there for my partners sake

[Loneranger14]

I used to always fully shave down there but now been mid 30s and 4 DC later I go all natural, my OH told me last night to shave downstairs I carnt even go to the toilet without having 1 of my DC clinging to my leg never mind a bit of me time, he said he doesn't like it and wants me to shave but to be honest I really don't care and haven't got time and it doesn't bother me. So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

Hint: the hairless bit is where you should be concentrating your efforts.

See I don't agree with this at all but maybe that's just what I like. I don't want a partner literally just licking my clit. That's ignoring a whole load of different sensations.

Provided he shaves all of his pubes including his ballbag then sure, you’ll do it. I’m sure he’ll reject that offer... Wanker.

Men liking women without pubes is nothing to do with liking prepubescent little girls. In exactly the same way that women liking men without facial is nothing to do with prepubescent little boys.
I’m a beauty therapist and I wax many many vaginas every day. I’d say on an average day we do 30+ Hollywood waxes (all off). It’s a thing. Either do it or don’t do it, who cares?

People have different types of pubic hair. Mine grows long and is coarse. I'm sure if you have soft, fine hair it would be different.

@Whattodoabout

I once made my other half shave down there because he was becoming a bit overgrown ... he did nothing but moan about shaving rashes for weeks after. I said you now know what we women have to put up with don't you.

If you don’t want to then don’t. I do hate all the bashing of those who do on here though. It’s fine if women want to as well. It doesn’t make them little girls or mean they’re doing it for men / porn reasons! I’ve shaved for the last 20 years and will keep shaving until I can’t hold a razor anymore, never had any shaving issues or bumps etc. I find it more comfortable and like the way it looks. I’ve continued doing it when I’ve been divorced and sex hasn’t been on the cards. It’s just a personal preference. Everyone should just do what they like!

Jesus. Th comments on here that if you shave you look like s young girl are nothing short of sick.

It sounds like he's being unreasonable really

How often does he look after all the kids?

@Sadiesnakes it’s sickening isn’t it. It’s fascinating on here sometimes; I’ve never actually met people like that in real life thankfully.

It’s so beyond my comprehension to care what a man wants my muff to look like. I just can’t imagine the thought process.

“Choice” isn’t made in a vacuum: the social pressure on women to remove pubic hair is due to porn. If this were not the case, and it was just something some people prefer, then loads more of us would’ve done it before internet porn, and loads more men would be doing it too.

@WhineUp, look up the history of hair removal, it's particularly well documented during roman times.

Both sexes removed hair, if they were promiscuous and wanted to take part in the orgies. I suppose it cut down on lice etc.

For Romans it also set them apart from those they considered uncivilised.

Whenever a ruling power has wanted to squash female sexuality, they've banned hair removal. Or put it about that it showed a lack of morals to remove public hair.

It was the fashion to remove it in the UK until Queen Victoria decreed against it.

So when the female porn stars/exotic dancers etc removed theirs, it was a declaration that they were lascivious. Also in porn it makes the clit etc more visable.

It had nothing to do with wanting women to look like children.

@Loopytiles, we did remove it before porn. Read my above post and look it up.

Seemed an appropriate visual for this thread...

Yes we removed before porn but it was due to wanting sex or money for sex not because we felt more comfortable I'm guessing getting rid of lice was agreeable but head hair didn't get shaved off and that would have been lice ridden too

We are the opposite, my husband likes a bit of hair on me but I feel much cleaner with no public hair. He also removes pubic hair.

If a man is gagging on pubes when giving oral sex then it's not the pubes that's wrong, it's the man's technique.

Lots more to do in that area without hair . The above is only one part of it .

But why did you before?

Why do so many girls do this, men think it’s normal, it’s just another way women objectify themselves for men.

That said, if he had always shaved his chest when you met him and then stopped you might ask. However, 4 DC’s does change things.

People who think liking a shaved fanny means your OH is into the look of little girls are sick.
Shaving doesn’t make you look like a child, you still have the body of a woman. I bet those of you against it remove hair from other parts of your body?! Underarms, legs etc. I’ve shaved for as long as I can remember, where single or in a relationship. My OH also shaves, we both prefer it on ourselves!
I think if you change doing something your OH is used to it’s ok for them to have a preference. My OH never had a beard Shen we met, he’s now grown one and I love it! But if I didn’t like I would tell him.

Your body, your choice. When I first met my partner I regularly shaved convinced he’d prefer it. A while later he told me he prefers trimmed and not fully shaved 🤣 winner.

These days, I just trim every couple weeks. To keep it less bushy. But don’t shave or do anything you don’t want to do.

@WhineUp, look up the history of hair removal, it's particularly well documented during roman times

It goes back further than that. The ancient Egyptians were into it too.

Somehow I can't visualise them sat in their pyramids glued to Pornhub.