To shave down there for my partners sake

[Loneranger14]

I used to always fully shave down there but now been mid 30s and 4 DC later I go all natural, my OH told me last night to shave downstairs I carnt even go to the toilet without having 1 of my DC clinging to my leg never mind a bit of me time, he said he doesn't like it and wants me to shave but to be honest I really don't care and haven't got time and it doesn't bother me. So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

If you used to do it, and have no time now with the kids ( and you wouldn't mind to shave again ofc) then you could tell him, it takes time, and you can't risk hurting a child in the process so you need a good couple hours sans child, then wave them goodbye and have me time in a bubble bath.

Men don't tend to shave, yet women manage to give oral without 'gagging on pubes'. MAGIC.

Think how precious your time is- fuck that, you could be having a comparatively relaxing bath in the time that would take, or doing something else you enjoy.

My husband has told me very plainly that while I can do whatever I wish with my body, he would be horrified if I went bald "down there." He is attracted to a grown woman's body, not the body of a child. Your husband can fuck off.

I'm a man and love a nice hairy bush. Turns me on more than a bald one.

Being ‘told’ to do something is not a request OP. He sounds controlling and repulsive, tell him to fuck off.

If you want to shave, then shave. If you don't, don't.
Or tell him you'll do it if he has a back, sack and crack wax done.

If your just doing pretty vanilla stuff then tell him to jog on but if you expect oral he will end up gagging on your pubes

(a) oral is pretty vanilla
(b) I’ve had pubes all of my adult life - nobody has ever choked on them during any kind of sex, they present no barrier whatsoever to any kind of sexual activity

OP - it’s not up to him, it’s your body

but if you expect oral he will end up gagging on your pubes

What absolute bollocks. I’m old enough to have had my wild days (or years) before shaving ever became a thing. I’ve had plenty of oral from blokes in my time and none of them ever choked to death! Nor were they put off in the slightest.

@Yappy12 nobody cares.

Thanks so much for that @Yappy12. We totally needed a man to give us permission to not shave 🙄.

If he told you to shave, I'd tell him to fuck off. If he expressed a preference I might consider shaving.
Cauliflowerhead if your partner gags on your pubes then you need a new partner, it's not a swallowing competition, find someone that can perform cunnilingus properly.

In the book The Joy of Sex i’m pretty sure they were both hairy and they managed oral etc.

It’s pubes, not barbed wire.

Cauliflowerhead the idea is slightly flawed.

@WhieUp.

Fine but just said it to show not all guys want you gals to shave. Anyway I read that over the last year or two the bush has come back in to fashion and less young women shave now.

It’s pubes, not barbed wire.

Ha ha! There are some gems of wordage on this thread.

And agree, people have been doing oral for centuries (possibly) and it not been a problem... men and women...

Ask him why on earth he'd prefer your body to look like that of a prepubescent child?

If the only difference between your body & that of a child’s is a bit of hair on your vulva you really should see a Doctor.

That’s such a pathetic come back.

@Yappy12 it is slightly strange isn’t it in all this ‘authentic’ BEARDED hipster cultural that pervades a lot - that women still are supposed to be Barbie dolls aged 13.

If a man is gagging on pubes when giving oral sex then it's not the pubes that's wrong, it's the man's technique.

Whilst I agree the DH is a twat, can we please stop with the "prepubescent" / "child's body" comments?

It takes more than the loss of hair to make a woman's body or genitals look like a child's, as we should all well know, most of us here being women.

It's not wrong to date women with flat chests or narrow hips or alopecia (for example), and they don't have prepubescent bodies.

A woman is a woman, hair or not it makes no difference. And I say this as someone who's been too lazy to shave in several months (it's winter, I need the insulation!).

@Yappy12 still, literally NOBODY CARES what some weird creepy random Barry thinks about our hair or lack thereof. Why did you feel the need to come to this thread and proclaim what it is that YOU prefer, out of the blue? Like, mate, literally no woman ever gives a shit about what some random dude on the Internet thinks, and no, it doesn't make us feel any better that YOU prefer pubes.

@ ClearnightSky.

Dark Forest is one of my faves.

@WhineUP.

Okay keep your hair on. Sorry I spoke.

Well, elderly women often lose their pubes, so I agree that the child argument is somewhat bonkers.

Still - her body her choice.