To shave down there for my partners sake

[Loneranger14]

I used to always fully shave down there but now been mid 30s and 4 DC later I go all natural, my OH told me last night to shave downstairs I carnt even go to the toilet without having 1 of my DC clinging to my leg never mind a bit of me time, he said he doesn't like it and wants me to shave but to be honest I really don't care and haven't got time and it doesn't bother me. So I guess my question is aibu to not give in to his request

The big lips ? And to make the triangle neat you shave around the clitoral region so it does make a big difference personally.

Yes prefer partner to be trimmed too
Pubes in the throat are not fun

Huh? It's just smooth fabric. Nothing shows through. That's the whole point!

If nothing is showing through, why did you say ...

It's not just for sex though, I find it shows through some clothes... and I don't like that.

TheSandman, you are one sensible man! I don't suppose you object to leg and armpit depilatory though - anyway, not your choice but your wife's. Shaving minge area is really odd but I know some women like it that way regardless of what men think. I'd get a rash if I did that.

Huh? It's just smooth fabric. Nothing shows through. That's the whole point!

Nothing shows through if I do remove my pubic hair. That is
the point of removing it.

If nothing is showing through, why did you say ...

It's not just for sex though, I find it shows through some clothes... and I don't like that.

Because... my pubic hair does show through some of my clothes if I don't remove it.

Note that my pubic hair reveals itself, in relief, through some of my dresses (that means the hair itself cannot be seen but its form can, like VPL).

Aridane, OP simply doesn’t get the privacy to do it in peace, and given that she’s probably got enough to take care of this is not on her agenda at present.
And her DH is not a dog conditioned to like a certain thing, he’s her husband and should be capable of adapting, especially given the circumstances.
Nothing wrong with DH expressing a preference but asking for it it’s not that great. If he said ‘Darling OP I loved it when you used to shave’ and left it at that, it would have been much better.
I can’t believe there are so many posts on this! Quite a few are amusing.
Wanting to be hairless has got zero to do with porn, infantilisation of women or hygiene in most cases. I don’t watch porn so am not familiar with the exact current ‘look’ and can’t compare my own appearance to anyone else’s. Nobody has ever asked or hinted about what I should do with my pubic hair. I’ve been waxing for a very, very long time and couldn’t understand why it was supposedly a trend all of a sudden about 10-15 years ago. Shaving doesn’t appeal to me but it’s a perfect solution for others. I simply don’t like all that hair on my own body and that’s why I do it. Surely lots of other people for exactly the same reason. It really is that simple. And I do it regularly even if there’s absolutely no chance of having sex or anyone seeing it. It’s part of my own ‘maintenance’ because I like it.
I have no problem whatsoever with a bit of hair on a man’s body (in fact, to me, it has the appeal of manliness).
I’ve only been intimate with a very small number of men and they’ve never been fussed either way. If they know what they’re doing, to me, it feels great with or without pubic hair.
I would not appreciate being told to remove or to grow my pubic hair, it’s mine to do what I like with it and it should be the same for everybody.

Do what you like but I wouldn’t be changing to satisfy the demands of any man. A man who can’t cope with how women naturally look doesn’t deserve any carnal attention anyway.

Ugh. Find a part of him you don't like and tell him to change that.

A female colleague of mine had her husband ask her to do this.

She said no. Take it or leave it. Ask me again and I'll divorce you. He took it.

Buy him some Veet to put on his balls as a request from you. That'll teach him!!

I think it’s fine for him to express a preference. Not ok for him to demand though.

It’s interesting some on here think it’s only women that shave. I’ve never been with a man that didn’t at least trim. I’m late 20s if that makes a difference!

OTOH, the widespread fashion for removing public hair has been around for, hmm, about 20-odd years, i.e. since the arrival of online porn

I'm hoping it goes out of fashion like girdles.

I’m with you @AridaneCrete. The poster before you jokes about giving the DH some veet for his balls to teach him a lesson - my DH actually does use my veet cream on occasion for this purpose (his choice, not mine!). Maybe it is a generational thing. Hairless isn’t a must, but a trim is certainly appreciated by both sides.

I have fairly full on non vanilla sex and my dp likes my "fluff' (his words).
Neither of us gag on pubes...
I'd only shave if you want to

the adult human female genital area does have hair whilst the female child's does not and it would be remiss to not examine why the natural state of a woman's genitalia is vilified and an unnatural approximation of the prepubescent state is encouraged.

Does the same apply to men who shave their beards off??

The myth is that pubic hair is unclean and disgusting

Yaaah this idea is so damaging. I saw a "beauty blogger" on her channel warning her fans they must shave off all their pubic hair as it's unhygienic - made me SO angry. I went to school when internet porn had just kicked off in earnest and you were an absolute social outcast if you had a shred of body hair. Throughout my twenties prospective dates were politely baffled by the idea of a woman not shaving off all her pubes. Am now in my thirties and am pretty much like a yeti atm. DP doesn't love it but he's getting used to it. It wouldn't be fair of him to make a big deal out of it since my skin positively WEEPS after being shaved, to the extent where I scratch in my sleep til my legs and bikini line bleed. Also, since growing a bush I have not had thrush or cystitis once and I used to get both regularly! I also don't get sweat patches under my arms on clothes and more either, I think the sweat just goes into the hair. Love the fuzz

I have NEVER ben with a man who does any kind of trimming or shaving unless it was facial, (or an abdominal operation on the cards) I was shaved when I gave birth to my first DKS and had operations, I hated it, looked weird and boy itchy and scratchy!!!

I have NEVER ben with a man who does any kind of trimming or shaving unless it was facial

I do!