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to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

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UnderHisEyeBall · 17/11/2019 10:25

Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.


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Am I being unreasonable?


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dontcallmeduck · 17/11/2019 10:26

You are being ridiculous


averylongtimeago · 17/11/2019 10:26

Really? Just what exactly do you think he is going to get up to with his mum?


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AuntieMarys · 17/11/2019 10:26

I personally would never share a room with anyone except dh. At least it's not a double bed.....


Hoppinggreen · 17/11/2019 10:26

I think it’s none of your business


BaronessBomburst · 17/11/2019 10:27

What is odd and grim about sharing a twin room with his mother?


Whynotnowbaby · 17/11/2019 10:28

It’s his mother, what do you think is going to happen? She may be difficult but she is going to have contact with him, whether in a shared room or not.


Slappadabass · 17/11/2019 10:28

You are been ridiculous, I went away with my mum and shared a room with her and my DD. Actually, as a family we have done it a few times.

What's the point in paying twice?


Lockheart · 17/11/2019 10:28

Good grief OP you're having all the family drama in short order today aren't you?


fedup21 · 17/11/2019 10:28

If in years down the line you were the MIL in this situation, would you think it ‘grim’ to share a room for two nights with your own child?


Helmlover1 · 17/11/2019 10:30

It’s his mum for goodness sake! I have shared many hotel rooms with my parents. If it was a female friend/colleague he worked with then fair enough but it’s his mum!



MRex · 17/11/2019 10:30

It's him sharing the room, not you. You're being ridiculous.


Ski4130 · 17/11/2019 10:30

I share a room with my mum quite often if we’re on a weekend away, how on earth is it grim?! I’ve also shared a double room with my sister, shock horror, and shared a bed. You’re being ridiculous. It says more about you that you think sharing a room with family is grim to be honest, what a weird and slightly disturbing way of thinking!


AfterSchoolWorry · 17/11/2019 10:31

Mind your own business! Cheek of you!


churchandstate · 17/11/2019 10:31

What about it upsets you? Do you think he’s going to cheat on you with his mum?


fitzbilly · 17/11/2019 10:32

How on earth is it grim to share a room with your own son? Give your head a wobble.


Selfsettlingat3 · 17/11/2019 10:32

Sounds like he has followed in his experiences of overbearing women and gone from a controlling Mum to a controlling wife.


RavenLG · 17/11/2019 10:32

Sharing a room is absolutely fine and you’re massively overreacting to that. He doesn’t have to stay two nights if he doesn’t need to though (but if he wants to then is it really an issue?)


HulksPurplePanties · 17/11/2019 10:32

Is his name Oedipus?


Elieza · 17/11/2019 10:33

It’s up to him. If he wants to share that’s fine. If not he should pipe up and tell her. I think this is more about your fears that DH will end up like fil because of the mil’s behaviour.

The irony is that if you tell DH what to do you will end up in overbearing territory too. Choose your battles. I know you mean well but this isn’t worth the hassle.


tiredsleepysleep · 17/11/2019 10:33

This is clearly a joke post. It must be.


pooopypants · 17/11/2019 10:33

What's the actual issue here OP? Seems sensible to me. They're hardly sharing a double bed

You're being ridiculous and YABU. Massively.


Halleli · 17/11/2019 10:33

If my husband tried to tell me I couldn't share a twin room with my mum I'd be bloody furious.

Are you always this controlling?


kalinkafoxtrot45 · 17/11/2019 10:33

Much as you dislike her, she’s his mum. I don’t see how sharing a room could make any difference here. Do you think she is going to whisper evil things while he’s sleeping and thus undermine you via hypnopedia?


CatUnderTheStairs · 17/11/2019 10:34

@HulksPurplePanties. Grin

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