to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

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Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

He thinks I am being horrible

He’s being kind. You’re being an absolute twat.

You are right to worry. The second your back is turned they will be porking like mad.

The two night bit though if an early start late finish does make sense

You've gone a bit wrong. Unless you know for a fact DH is a motherf***r if so report him to SS for your MIL's safety. Or stop being so ridiculously insecure and childish.

Eh? It's his mum, what's the big deal?

What a strange reaction you have to a parent sharing a room with their adult child?

I’d be looking at myself and wondering why this makes me feel this way?
This actually has nothing to do with your husband and everything to do with your own issues.

Yabu and a bit bonkers

You are strange.

exactly what do you think is going to happen?

Really? What's wrong with you?

It's not about what's wrong with them sharing a room.

His mother is overbearing? And your not? Telling him you don't want him sharing a room with his mother?!! Are you sure she is the problem here?!!

YABU , what do you think they are going to be doing ?

What a twisted mind you have op.

Oh gross, what goes on in your head.

Sorry, I agree with OP.

This is about MIL treating your DH as a child. He's her little boy and he'll be in a room with mumma tucking him in and making sure he's brushed his teeth.

In the context of a MIL who stamps over boundaries and does not respect her son as an adult, I'd not accept this either. By accepting it your DH is accepting, once again, that he's at the helm.

He's an adult man who only shares a room with his own wife. He also books his own rooms and decides himself where he is going to stay, and it's not up to Mother Dearest to make those decisions for him.

Draw those boundaries.

OP is concerned about the toxic influence she expects, based on evidence, will be exerted on her DH. I'd not want my DP sharing with his mother if she had a history of damaging, manipulative rhetoric.

*she's at the helm

Good lord woman get a grip!

Is he call Oedipus?

Pick your battles.

Has she caused problems or have you caused problems?

Why is it a problem?

Recently family wedding and DP ended up sharing a room with his mum and dad

• and our two older kids (2 super kings!)

OP you are being weird. Why do you have a problem with this?!

Wow some people really project on mil threads.

She booked a room to assert her authority. Rather than thought a twin would be cheaper