to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

[UnderHisEyeBall]

Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

Jeez, when I go to see my 22 year old daughter she proactively chooses to stay in a hotel with me, we share a room. When my husband and I go, she still does the same, we get a family room, she could stay in her flat but chooses not to.

Sometimes when it's her and I , and we can't get a twin room, she's like just get a double mum, we can share . She sees the hotel as a treat.

I shall have to remember and tell her it's grim and not to any more.

Oh wait,,,I'm her mum. He's her dad. It's perfectly normal.

And she is controlling and overbearing, right?

This year booked a weeks break with one of my adult sons. For half the week we stayed with extended family and shared a room as that was the only spare rooms they had. Second part of the break we again shared a room in a hotel as why would we double the cost when a twin room was available.

Overbearing is annoying but you wont be there so Unless she has a history of sexually abusing him I dont see the problem. Personally I'd prefer not to share a room with my mum but I might if needs be.

Who are the 20ish people who think OP is not being unreasonable

It’s his mother!!! YABVVVVVU!

I don’t think OP is concerned about them having any sexual contact. You’re more concerned she’s going to use this opportunity to fill his ears with ideas that will affect your relationship, am I right?
I think I understand coz I have a similar MiL who uses any opportunity I’m not around to manipulate my husband

You’re more concerned she’s going to use this opportunity to fill his ears with ideas that will affect your relationship, am I right?
I think I understand coz I have a similar MiL who uses any opportunity I’m not around to manipulate my husband

And the mil will be around d whe son and spending time with him, even I'd in a different hotel room.

If that's the case, maybe the OP should go with him and never 'allow' them to be alone

Hmm what an interesting first post.

DH has shared a double bed with MIL sometimes when twins weren't available, that would really freak you out.

Everyone is pouncing on Op but we really need more info. Does DH recognise that MIL is overbearing? My MIL can be incredibly interfering and toxic, but DH acknowledges this. If MIL made this sort of arrangement, my DH would probably go along with it for a quiet life but would privately hate every minute.

If your DH doesn't recognise that MIL is controlling/damaging your relationship, then the real issue is with him, not with you.

Grimbles I'm one of them.

Not everyone has the same feelings about sharing personal space. I can remember having to share a room with my parents when visiting relatives. It made me cringe a bit then as a child. It would be even worse now.

I also don't see the issue. You won't be there so how does your DH sharing a twin room with his mum affect you. I wouldn't want to share a room with my DM, but if he's happy to do that then it's frankly nothing to do with you.

I agree with PPs that you sound controlling.

YABU

Unless you wanted a bit of late night chat, in which case I can see your point.

I don't think the MiL is the one who's controlling and overbearing here...

I don't think it's unlikely that he will remember why he left home, after two solid days of intensive Mummy-time. So I might actually encourage it! (although my MIL was an angel and there's no chance that I would want to share a county with my own parents, so my view may not be balanced!)

I thought he was sharing with his mil, Now that WOULD be nasty!!

How strange that you're so bothered. My DH and his mum took the kids away in October half term and shared a twin room. I didn't think anything of it!

Peak Mumsnet

Regardless of what poison MIL can drip in his ear (as pp say) you do NOT dictate to a grown man or woman whether they can share a bed with their mother. Nothing makes that acceptable.

It's his mother not someone from the office, what the hell is going through your mind? Just what do you think they will get up to? You really will look foolish if this gets around so stop being untrusting. I personally would never want to share a room with my 29 yr old son because I'd never sleep, he's the worst snorer I've ever heard I have been stuck in a caravan with his dad snoring and him and his uncle in the awning snoring like earthquakes, worst nights of my life it a wonder we weren't chucked off the camp site!

I would pay for two separate rooms rather than share with my dad.

Oh OP.
So far we have overbearing MIl, "cunt" sister on the other thread and I wonder who will you moan about in the afternoon.
If someone has problems with many people around them, they are usually the problem...

You are bizarre OP

Hmm what an interesting first post.

It's not the OP's first post.

No idea why they'd start this thread and bugger off though.