to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

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Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

I always share a room with my mum! We even shared a bed sometimes if it's just a double

I think your problems with MIL have made you think something is unreasonable when it actually isn't in this case.

Oh and I find it quite mad that almost everyone on this thread has jumped to the conclusion that OP's issue would be about physical intimacy! How mad.

Anyone with an overbearing apron-strings MIL would have an issue with this. It is indeed about intimacy, but another kind altogether - the enmeshed, I-am-even-closer-to-you-than-anyone-including-your-wife atitude.

Turn it around. A normal and respectful MIL would have automatically booked a separate room for her male adult child or would have definitely, definitely asked him first. It's just about privacy for other adults. This MIL sees him as still a child and would indeed be looking forward to being physically close and what that would say about being 'mummy-son'. It is indeed very yuk, but in a different way to most of the insinuations on this thread.

If DH is happy what in earth is your concern? TBH I wouldnt be completely comfortable sharing a room with my dad (or my mum) but i'd do it rather than pay for two rooms. I wouldn't expect DH to take issue with it, that would be really weird.

Although there is something off about booking two nights if it's only an hour from home. Are you sure it's MIL he'll be sharing with? Is it possible that's where your discomfort stems from, even if subconsciously?

So probably going to get reported to social services if I mention sharing a double bed with my mum for 2 weeks

Catch yerself on!

Whaaaaaaaaaat. This has to be a piss take. Op you are mental.

FS is 24
Ocasional pick-up from uni or o'night for graduation
Last summer dd, he and I had a sunshine break in a beautiful location.

DS on occasion. "Do I get my own room?"
Me "No"
Him "hmm"
Me "it's an extra £100 per night
Him "oh yeh, good call. Ear plugs for your snoring then".

An hour is a normal commute, am confused as to why he needs to stay over.

She’s his mother, she birthed him 🤣

YABU

MyDcAreMarvel op said because of the timings of whatever it is.

I wouldn't want to drive an hour late at night then again early the next morning I'd there was alternative.

Which there is.

Yabu.

And ridiculous.

My DH wouldn’t want to share a hotel room with his mother, especially not for 2 nights if he’s just an hour from home, but I wouldn’t think it was grim. Up to him, isn’t it? Can’t imagine it’s going to be a riotous party or a cosy night in. Not quite sure what you’re imagining

Can you explain why you feel this way op?

What on earth is going on with people lately? This can’t be real?!

Just moved back from Belgium to the UK. En route, I shared a Premier Inn twin room with ds (24) as it was daft to pay for two rooms.

The next night, we were at the house prior to the furniture arriving in the morning we (gasp) shared a double air mattress and a duvet, as I didn't manage to arrange anywhere to stay, and the movers were arriving at 0730.

Ds survived, as did I.

That's so weird, why does his mother need to stay with him in the hotel and why 2 nights?

Wow. I dread being landed with a daughter in law like this.

A normal and respectful MIL would have automatically booked a separate room for her male adult child or would have definitely, definitely asked him first.

This is his mother, not his MIL. And no, my mum would not book a separate room for her son. I don't know any that would, and they're all pretty normal.

YABU and very daft.

I think your problem with this arrangement says more about you than it does about your mother in law to be honest. What is the problem specifically?

I would consider it odd and that DH went along with it even odder still.

But I wouldnt share with my DM and wouldnt share with DCs (all now adult).

What do you think they're going to get up to? I think your a bit warped

You’re strange. What’s the issue??

I can't stop laughing at this from the OP

She has always been overbearing

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her.

Poor bloke

Do some people never sleep in the same room as anyone other than their partner?