To be outraged that people still think its okay to use 'smacking' as a form of discipline for children?

[Dabbles]

It is seriously disgustign that people still think this is okay. It is not okay. what message does it steach the child? (its okay to hit someone if they dont do what you tell them?)

and for an adult who is physically so much bigger and stronger to hit a child? omg, serioulsy peopl wake the fuck up... it is NOT OKAY!

3&nomore do you think def nork clasping stay away time too?

one child - how do you know he was smacked a lot?

I was initially talking about your dh/cup of tea example.

well lets see... smacking hapopens in the home -so its domestic... adn its violent, so its domestic violence...

an adult hitting another adult is no different tro an adult hitting a child.. excpet the latter is worse...

I was smacked occasionally as a child, and would say I have turned out ok (ish lol)

mercy, just wanted to see if she enjoyed being smacked her self.. as i said i see no difference in it...

(ask many men who use domestic violence, and i think u will find they were 'smacked' as a child...)

walking away from this one

Each to their own

read the original thread, Dabbles. I stated my views there.

I have 2 mins to give my height/ weight and that of my kids if you really want to know!

Me too Marne, I already feel like a shite enough parent without this thread.

Dabbles, I do think you are OTT tbh.

look this isnt a case of who is right and who is worng. or 'each to their own'

It is wrong.

someoen please tell me how it is right. or how it teaches your child good things?

good grief.

some points to think about:

how can you tell children it is wrong to hit people and then smack them when they do something wrong? you are the parent, tell them what they have done wrong and why it is wrong. ffs, parents are supposed to teach right from wrong, yes? so why not set good example?

hitting children IS domestic violence, you can't have one rule for one and another rule for other people. children are people too, just smaller ones.

will leave this too as really dont think it helpful. Personally dont like smacking or agree with it but i dont think this thread is helpful at all, neither is the agressive attitude and manner of the OP.

I agree
can't see how anyone defends hitting a small child tbh
don't give a fk what anyone else thinks, it's illiegal and wrong imo

Well said fransmom.

Awen....lost you there [confused emoticon}
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and I think anyone who hits their children should feel like a shite parent because they are

gosh bet that's not a popular view but I don't care.

Gee thanks for that WWW that comment made my day.

Is it ok to smack your child if not as "a form of discipline" then, dear all-knowing Dabbles?

My children have both been smacked, but not when my mind was on "disciplining" them.

nutcracker, I don't really care if it 'made your day' or not, I'm not here to make your day or anyone else's, I think it fair enough to post my views on hitting children.

No, it is not okay to smack your children at all??

sorry, what was your point daphne???

I didn't say you couldn't post your views.

And my view happens to be that it's wrong
I know sometimes it happens as a result of frustration and anger and I'm not perfect, I have, very, very, rarely, slapped my ds but I hated myself for it, regret it and think I was very, very wrong to do so.

thank you. it is a sad fact that some people think that hitting children is not the same as hitting an adult. some one has to protect children.

i have come close to smacking my daughter but i would never, ever do that to her - i always walk away and explain why i am doing that and say i am not leaving her, jsut going to calm down and then i will come and talk to her in few seconds. i am the adult and should be able to control my emotions - toddlers are the ones who get frutrated at not being able to communicate their feelings. there are several books available to help and if you feel that smacking is ok, please ask someone like your hv or doc (or even your child when they are older.........)

Have you ever had to deal with siblings fighting and biting? And I mean with teeth sunk into an arm? A clump of hair being yanked out?

Please explain how you deal with that.