She should have let me have it surely?

[AaaaaaarghhhWhereAreMyKeys]

In charity shop today with a GOOD friend (friend went in before me as I needed to go to another shop). When I got back 2 mins later she’d found a gorgeous coat, lovely colour, in great condition, my size not hers.

I said how lovely it was but was it the right size for her? She said she liked it anyway, fair enough, kind-of. After we left, I repeated that I thought it was lovely and if she changed her mind and didn’t want it after all I’d buy it from her. She still said she wanted to keep it.

Greedy cow has only gone and listed it on eBay!!! It’ll probably sell for much more than she paid for it. She doesn’t particularly need the money. I have a young DC and not currently working. There’s no way I could afford a coat like that at the moment at full-price, let alone whatever price she gets for it on eBay.

She’s been a good friend for a long time and we’ve been through a lot but I honestly think that was so unkind. Am so upset with her.

What do we think Mumsnet? Aibu?

Why don't you ask her?

Yes, I think that was mean. It's not like she bought it new and needed to recoup some of the cost. I would view her differently now.

Her coat, she can do what she likes with it. I don't think she's the one being greedy or cheeky here.

If you want it that much you could always bid on it...

How mean.

It’s not wrong but morally it stinks.

I agree not very nice of her.

She has been a little thoughtless...
How do you know it's on eBay? Has she told you?
Can you text her something like "I see the coat you got is on eBay. I really really do love it, can I give you what you paid for it l? I mentioned it at the time but assume you forgot"

She's not a very good friend

Just because she can do something, it doesn't mean she should!
She knew her friend really wanted it,could have worn it and cannot afford to buy a new one - it had only been 'her' coat for 5 minutes. I'd rather keep a friend than a coat that doesn't even fit me. How much money will she have to make to compensate for damaging a friendship?

Wow... that’s definitely not a real friend of yours

Mean and nasty.

Bid the exact amount she paid the charity shop.

She spotted a bargain that she could make money from. That’s her mindset.

She's not a friend 😔

Wow, that is really mean. What an arse.

She did it once before with another coat that didn’t fit her but would have fit me and I said I’d have it if she didn’t want it (although I want that fussed as it wasn’t as perfect as this one). I always wondered why I never saw her wear it 🤔

The thing is it’s always her that asks me to go a long, it’s not like I gate-crash.

I think that's very unkind of her.😐

Well, it is her prerogative. But pretty mean for all that. Not something a good friend would do.

YANBU. I think she likely bought it knowing she could make a profit on eBay? A reasonable idea but a selfless friend that genuinely cared for you would have definitely given you first refusal or let you buy it in the first place.

Well now you know what she is like, so either remain her friend and accept how she is, knowing she will do this again and again, or start to back off from the friendship. Personally I would do the latter as she is no friend

Yes, mean. Technically it's her coat and she can do whatever she wants with it, but a kind person would have offered it to you.

I guess she is not selling it for the money so much as for the thrill of getting a good deal.

I agree with Aderyn.
It is unkind . You have to text or ask her about it.

You didn't actually tell her you wanted it though? You just said if she didn't want it you would have it? But clearly she did want it, to sell on ebay.. you could have said to her directly can I have the coat?

She’s listed it for twice what she paid for and I reckon it’ll go for much more.

I know she buys stuff to sell on so wondered if that was her plan.

Yeah, I’m tempted to just bid on it and try to buy it on eBay then not bother with her again.

What a stupid crappy way to end a friendship

She’s very mean.