To ask how many hours your DP spends playing videos games

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Just what the title says really.

My partner spends maybe 15-20 hours a week on average (sometimes he can spend 12 full hours!) and I was wondering how many your partners spend. I mean he's playing the games with other people, so is this normal in other households too?

FYI, we don't have any children yet and we aren't married yet. I'm just very worried that if we do marry and have kids, the family would come second to gaming. Everyone says to look out for red flags and I'm wondering if this is one?

Long story short, how many hours do your partners spend gaming and has it reduced since marrying and having children?

TIA!

None. He has never gamed.

1. A friend and I were talking the other day. Gaming would not be something we would be ok with. I can’t see myself dating someone who did.

My husband plays video games but not at the expense of spending time with us. He will spend an hour playing after everyone goes to bed, or an hour on a Saturday afternoon when he has the house to himself.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who plays video games for 12 hours at a time.

None.

Zero.
On the other hand, I could lose days in gaming.

Zero

Was never an issue.

He enjoyed gaming as a hobby but it was never at the expense of family time.

As always the issue isn’t what the choice of hobby is, but if the time spent doing it becomes excessive.

Mine spent about 10 hours a week gaming before we had a kid, sometimes more. Since having our little one he rarely games, he says it feels wrong to spend time away which he could be spending with him. Hard to predict how your partner might change though. Does he spend good quality time with you when not gaming?

He doesn’t, teenage and early 20’s he played occasionally... then we had children and he now spends time with them, personally I think it’s something you outgrow.

In saying that... he’s currently Skyping Xbox as ds1 FIFA has went down...

None. Neither of us has ever played them. Sitting on the toilet and reading the bbc sports app is his way of avoiding the family.

None. He’s an adult.

As an example, when DD was born, I did a feed around 9ish, then went to bed. He had DD for 4ish hours until she woke for another feed - sometimes he would spend this time gaming.

None. He is on his laptop all evening though working. I think I he finds it relaxing.

none. my ex used to play FIFA all. day. every. fucking. day. it was exhausting and such a stupid thing to waste sooo many hours on.

Dp plays non at all.

Though he does admit he used to play alot. Until his early 30s.

He has a migraine today. I am on annual leave and my ds is with his dad.

I have played for about 4 hours today.

I rarely play, though. Usually, I play with ds
Probably about 2 hours a week. Occassionally if I dont have much to do, I will play an hour or two alone. Pro a ly ince a month.

I would never opt to play that instead of spending time with ds or dp.

Zero. Occasionally he might have a game of gran turismo with the DC but that would literally be about twice a year for 15 minutes or so.

DH had always gamed - before we moved in together (age 22) it was, I believe, pretty much all evening every evening. After moving in together it reduced and would mostly be after I'd gone to bed, I go to bed earlier than he does anyway so it fits in. Since having kids (age 26) it reduced even more but when he does play it's always in an evening or into the night and it's nowhere near every night (peaks if there's a new game out though). I'm ok with it as long as we still have some QT together and he's still happy to be up in the night or early in the morning with the kids, which he is

None. He’s an adult

Zero. But I wouldn't be with somebody who wanted to game all the time. Computers / gaming isn't my thing so I have no idea what would be a reasonable amount of time per week. What do you think is a reasonable amount of time?

Zero. He's a grown-up.

Thankyou for quick responses!

To answer a PP, he will spend time with me if I say "let's go for dinner on Saturday". But he won't come and watch TV with me because he's playing, so I often eat alone and watch telly alone. When he comes home he goes straight to the gym then to the game until bed time. Ive previously mentioned that I hate going to bed alone and waking alone (as he will be gaming - sometimes) as then what's the point of moving in together?

I don't know, it feels like we have to schedule time to spend together so he can mentally prepare. But surely that's not how it should be?

Sorry but I find this unattractive in an adult man. But I admit that’s my judgement and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Probably 20ish. He's a good daddy and partner though, too.

Gaming did take too much of a front seat for a while but we had words and he realised I'm always right so sometimes he asks for permission now

None, but dh can be found at the rugby club.

Zero hours gaming.

Why do you think the family would come second to gaming? Do you feel your relationship comes second already?