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AIBU to tell colleague they’re a spitting image of an infamous killer

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prawnsword · 27/10/2019 10:48

Said new colleague looks so much like Chris Watts it’s alarming... followed this case closely & while it wasn’t massive news in my country it does get press. It was well known worldwide. I feel like if someone looked like Dahmer or Bundy it would be ok to say...but considering it’s a fairly recent case & the grim circumstances of it, is it best left unsaid? It’s constantly on the tip of my tongue wanting to spill out this odd information. But he is quite reserved like the real Chris Watts so it might make him uncomfortable!

OP posts:
homeworkery · 27/10/2019 14:22

"FFS honesty this place sometimes. Well OBVIOUSLY this DOESN'T apply to you"

Eh?

homeworkery · 27/10/2019 14:22

Off to google Ann rule Grin

SoyDora · 27/10/2019 14:25

All these posters pretending that they had to google Chris Watts

I had to google him.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 27/10/2019 14:26

I used to have a manager who was a dead ringer for a young Elvis Presley. No-one ever said anything to her, but I do remember her being in the ladies’ loo and a woman coming in and saying to her, “oh, gosh, sorry, I thought this was the female toilet” which she was really upset by.

No, OP, don’t say anything.

57Varieties · 27/10/2019 14:39

I had to google him. I do remember hearing about the story but I couldn’t have told you the name of the perpetrator off the top of my head at all. And I watch the news a lot, I have BBC news on tv most of the day.

drankthekoolaid · 27/10/2019 14:45

Just had to google him as never heard of him.

Better to tell him he looks like CW that. Fred West!

JacquesHammer · 27/10/2019 14:49

Also if you have Netflix am fairly certain true crime is a genre on there?

I don’t know how your Netflix works, but on mine we can choose what we want to watch or indeed avoid.

I’m sniggering at Ann Rule being referenced as saying how compassionate the “true crime community” are. They’re her target audience! Hardly an unbiased and deeply researched viewpoint!

CathyTre · 27/10/2019 14:55

Apparently, I look very like the missing Claudia Lawrence. Several people have said this to me and it’s made me uncomfortable each time. And she’s not a criminal but a victim!

Why would you tell him this; it sounds a really very weird thing to consider!

FadingStar · 27/10/2019 15:07

So you think she's lying Jacques? A woman who spent decades in a police force then as a journalist, and now a writer...she's lying is she?

FadingStar · 27/10/2019 15:09

There is a reason families of victims ask Ann Rule to cover the cases of their loved ones. A liar she isn't.

dreichsky · 27/10/2019 15:12

I don't know anything about the 'true crime community' but I'm fairly sure if you make a good living out of it you aren't likely to say,
"I think they are people with a distasteful, morbid fascination in violence, particularly sexual violence who need to put more challenges into their own lives"
Even if you privately might think it!

BrexitThroughTheGiftShop · 27/10/2019 15:25

Never tell anyone they resemble another person unless the other person is stunningly attractive - even then its usually a bad idea.

People like to think they are unique and its upsetting to be told your appearance brings someone to mind who is less than perfect. A serial killer is about as offensive as it could be.

If you say this to your colleague it really would make you an arsehole with no human sensitivity.

FadingStar · 27/10/2019 15:31

So why say anything at all if she doesn't mean it? And we're supposed to believe random people on the internet ranting about people who read true crime rather than a woman who has spent DECADES working to get justice for victims? REALLY?? Some of you are so determined to think badly of people who read true crime.

homeworkery · 27/10/2019 15:39

I've googled her. I suppose nobody will be asking her to write anything anymore as she is dead

FlamingoAndJohn · 27/10/2019 15:43

I had to google him and I listen to a number of ‘true crime’ podcasts.

Anyway, he looks like a bloke. He could pass for a number of my male friends.

Candle1000 · 27/10/2019 15:43

What is your objective Op ? What are you hoping to gain, other than making someone feel very awkward?

somecakefather · 27/10/2019 16:02

And we're supposed to believe random people on the internet ranting about people who read true crime rather than a woman who has spent DECADES working to get justice for victims? REALLY?? Some of you are so determined to think badly of people who read true crime

They're just a bunch of narrow minded idiots on here. Because true crime is something they're not personally interested in, they can't comprehend that people find different things fascinating. We should all share their interests is how they look at it.

MuchBetterNow · 27/10/2019 16:07

My my, the "true crime community" are a tad defensive about their hobby 🤣

HobbyIsCodeForDogging · 27/10/2019 16:07

Oh the weirdness. There's a disturbing voyeuristic slant to OP's fascination with all this.

JacquesHammer · 27/10/2019 16:11

A liar she isn't

You mean you don’t think she is. Opinion isn’t fact.

JacquesHammer · 27/10/2019 16:11

A woman who spent decades in a police force then as a journalist, and now a writer...she's lying is she?

Of course people in the police force and journalists never lie.... Grin

ashtrayheart · 27/10/2019 16:16

I had to google him. He's good looking but I think the whole family killing thing takes the edge off that.

I am interested in criminal behaviour, partly as I am studying for a psychology degree and partly just because I find the dark side of humanity fascinating. Being part of a 'true crime community' is a little out there though! And as for pretending it's to honour and remember the victims - purlease.

homeworkery · 27/10/2019 16:20

Much better now aren't they just? Grin

Nc77 · 27/10/2019 16:21

Depends how close you are with them and how much they can take a joke? My partner is a dead ringer for Peter sutcliffe and his mates take the piss and it’s quite funny at times.

Rainonmyguitar · 27/10/2019 16:23

My my, the "true crime community" are a tad defensive about their hobby

Well no wonder, the amount of arseholes on this thread. I'm not really interested either way, I watched Making a murderer, might read what's in the news but that's about it. I wouldn't dream of mocking someone just because I don't share their interest(s). It's all very childish.