To not want to pay this much towards sil bday?

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It's SIL birthday start of dec her bf is organising a surprise birthday gathering and has decided to go to a bowling type place. He told us about it in advance before paying a deposit. He thought it would be a good activity because our two DCs could also be involved. Will only be in-laws my Dh our dcs and sil and bf. They live 5 hours away so we will be staying over in a hotel. He has messaged today asking for us to transfer money to pay for the activity asking for £30pp totalling £120 and has asked that we also chip in for sil. I have phoned him to say that I am happy to pay for me and dh but I didn't realise I would also have to pay this for the Dcs as they are 2 and 4 and won't be able to do much. He's now really annoyed and said he can't get the deposit back and we had know the cost pp prior to booking. I had checked the package and it specified for over 18s so had assumed that it was not the same price for the kids- would I be unreasonable to not pay this? Mil thinks I should just pay it

No don’t pay.

You pay for those who will play.

Why is he expecting your little ones to pay?

I wouldn’t be paying 60 for two pre schoolers to bowl. Shame the specifics who was actually going to bowl and what it was going to cost wasn’t all discussed before you booked though!

The bowling place won’t charge for your children either.

Is he trying to get you to cover for him and his wife?

Thirty quid each for a two and four year old to go bowling? Crazy. Surely they can’t even lift the bowling balls up.

120 for bowling seems very steep. What’s included?

No I wouldn’t pay. It’s hardly as if your 2 LOs are able to play properly.

Can you call the bowling place direct and find out what their children’s policy is?

From what I've seen on the website you need a minimum of 8 people to book this package so I think he's included dcs in with the numbers. I also checked and it's only £4 for them to bowl

£30 pp for a game of bowling is ridiculous! Well done for telling him op.

God no don't pay for the little ones, that's madness. I also wouldn't be booking a hotel just to go bowling unless it was a 'big' birthday.

What's included in the package, is there food with it? A game of bowling is usually around £12

That is ridicolous, don't pay that for 2 pre schoolers!

Hell no!!! Do not pay

Pizza and a drink (alcoholic) is included in the price which I still think is very expensive but was fine to pay that for me and dh

You don’t have the 8 people minimum. You have 6 and two preschoolers. Why doesn’t your MIL pay if she’s so keen?

£120 for bowling that’s ludicrous!!

Even if it was 4 adults that’s incredibly expensive.

Why does he ask if he can swap the deposit over to a different package? One that would actually work for 6 adults.

Surely your SIL has two friends who would come. No way would I pay that much for such young children to pay.

Not a big birthday but it's a newish relationship so I think he's going all out. I was fine about going to visit as we don't see sil very often just feels like it's taking the piss

So for all 8 of you it will cost £240?! Just for a game of bowling?

Nope I wouldn’t pay either.

£120 to bowl, is he out of his mind?
Add in hotel, gift., petrol,
How much will this really cost?

I’m not sure going bowling with the in laws is going all out.

Jesus, it's not much more than that for a whole kids party! Don't pay, I forbid you

He's not 'going all out' though is he?! You're going all out paying £120 (plus chipping in for her -WTAF?!) and getting a hotel room to go chuffing Bowling. For a newish relationship he knows how to piss of the sister