DH has left my bag at home.

[blackwych]

We are on weekend break. We have only just arrived after a ridiculous long detour because DH is a slave to the satnav. He unpacked the car, I said 'Where's the rucksack?' and he said 'What rucksack?' It has my hairbrush, medication, books, phone charger, toothbrush, earplugs, mascara, deodorant etc etc.. It wouldn't all fit in the suitcase. The suitcase contains nothing but damp clothes. Would I be unreasonable to kill him?

I do a lot of interviews for work and I was scheduled to interview someone quite famous who is usually very reticent to talk and was only briefly in the country. I don’t drive so DH drove me the 4 hours needed to get there on time only to discover that he hadn’t picked up the recording equipment which had mics, questions, my laptop, work phone and charger in it. It also had the contact details of the interviewee including phone number so I couldn’t call them.

It would have appeared like I stood them up. I still remember the feeling of utter devastation and disbelief when we realised what had happened and we just drove home in silence.

I blame it on him because I had put the two bags I needed in the hall by the door - both big and obvious. He wanted me to clear out the front of the car whilst he got the bags and locked up. I heard him put something in the boot and I asked him if he had the bags from by the door. He said yes.

Anyway, the interviewee never replied to any emails from me again and to my knowledge still has not done a formal interview. I try not to think that I missed the opportunity of a lifetime.

The OP has disappeared!

The OP has disappeared!

Which bag is her phone charger in?

Phone your Dr or the out of hours. Explain the situation and they will email an emergency 3 day or however many needed supply to the nearest pharmacy.

Why do you need a suitcase and a rucksack for a weekend break?

Ffs seriously? People can take whatever luggage they want!

You may try not to think about it littledog but it's there at the back of your mind isn't, chiselling away?

I recall a week in a scruffy cottage in the West Country. DH for some reason hid his building society pass book (this predates plastic cards) under a carpet in the bedroom at said cottage without telling me and off we drove home. Five hours later as we got off the motorway he turns to me and mentions it, not only hiding it but that he forgot to retrieve it. Gritted teeth. If only he'd told me (who famously has the brain of an elephant) I would have reminded him. In those days we didn't even have a landline phone so he had to write a letter to the landlady and ask her to send it by post. She had to wait two weeks for the next holidaymakers to vacate the property. Not being the nagging type I never mentioned it again but it niggled away inside. I feel your pain.

It's annoying when a thread gets beyond a few pages and pp are still asking 'why the damp clothes'.. OP is not BU to be annoyed. This is typical mental load crap. The bag was by the door with the others, the adult packing the car should be able to be trusted to do it, not checked up on like a teenager. My ex did this.. On holiday with a newborn and toddler. I had planned, booked and packed everything.. Worked out how we were going to sterilise bottles, manage the airport etc. His one job was to transfer everything I had packed from our boot to my dad's for the lift to the airport. He forgot the sling, meaning I didn't have my hands free through the airport to manage toddler, bags etc. Ex was not good at multitasking so was hugely stressed doing that. It was his ONE contribution to getting us on the holiday and he fucked it up.

Whenever we go away DH and I check the living space about 3 times each! Overkill yes but we’ve never forgotten or lost anything. In fact, we are more likely to find things other people have left!

Yes, we have the dump everything in the hall and DH packs the car HOWEVER I always check the hall at least six times to make sure nothing's left.

I'm afraid YABU

ginghamtablecloths ouch.

I’m with you, OP: if he was responsible for packing the car, then yes, kill him.

Similar situation with my ex: weekend away for family birthday shenanigans. Put bags together, with a garment carrier containing all my clothes hanging above it. Ex packed the car. Got to destination, found he had not packed the garment carrier, and realised that all I had with me was makeup and clean pants. Ended up trawling Oxford Street on a Saturday afternoon to find an outfit. He paid.

I now operate a strict Quality Assurance Policy when packing to go away. 😁

Well, the OP has been away 2 nights by now, the clothes will almost certainly be dry.... but did she survive without her meds or meet a distressing end without them?

Is she in custody due to violent revenge against her DH?

Or enjoying a stroll round a NT property before a nice lunch and the journey home?

Oh, that charger cable !

YANBU. If it's his designated job to load the car and all the bags were together I see no reason why he left that one bag behind?

It's bizarre.

Lessened learned... both of you pack the car from now on.

When you get home why not pack his bags and dump them outside!

I reckon what happened is this - your rucksack was on top of the pile but he packed them in reverse order with the largest at the bottom and smallest on top. He put your rucksack on one side and forgot about it as it was out of sight, out of mind. Dare I say, typical of a bloke, really.

I don’t know if OP still needs medication but if you forget medication you can call the 111 service and ask for an emergency prescription. The service will send a request to a local (to where you are ringing from) pharmacist that is subscribed to the service and they can sell a few days worth of your prescribed medication to get you by. It normally costs the same as full months’ worth but that’s the price you pay, literally. So fear not if you need to get more meds ring 111 and they can sort if for you. A letter will go to your GP to advise them if the emergency too. Hope all ok OP.

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