DH has left my bag at home.

[blackwych]

We are on weekend break. We have only just arrived after a ridiculous long detour because DH is a slave to the satnav. He unpacked the car, I said 'Where's the rucksack?' and he said 'What rucksack?' It has my hairbrush, medication, books, phone charger, toothbrush, earplugs, mascara, deodorant etc etc.. It wouldn't all fit in the suitcase. The suitcase contains nothing but damp clothes. Would I be unreasonable to kill him?

@blackwych hope you have things sorted and are having a good weekend ?

If you go to a pharmacy and give the pharmacist permission, they might agree to access your medical records and issue a prescription.

Not everyones medical records are accesable and they don't have to do that. OP might have other evidence that she takes the medicine.

You have my sympathy OP. I once neatly set out 3 piles of things next to the suitcase, 1 for each DC and one of my own. DH was to sort out his things and pack the final 4 piles in the case. He didn’t of course, and my things, (only mine!) were left neatly piled up on our bed as we arrived at the other end of the country for a weekend at MIL’s. I had to beg, steal and borrow because it was Christmas and nowhere was open. I have never trusted my DH with anything to do with packing since!

You sound like OH, I bought, mended, washed and packed everythingfor our three weeks away but 'I' forgot to pack his razor!

She, didn’t hold him responsible for remembering them, merely to put the bag with them in in the car.

That's the same thing!

@Boots20 👏😂👏😂👏😂

You are an adult I'm guessing? Pack your own bag.

I can understand why you're pissed off, I would be, but it would be at the fact that I didn't have the stuff I needed, not because it was his fault. I think it's 50-50. You both should've checked. Next time leave the stuff by the door so you have to walk past it! If he's picking you up from work then you need to physically look in the back and check its there.

As for going back, it depends on the medications and how urgent/unreplaceable they are. All the other stuff could be replaced by a trip to the supermarket or pharmacy, which must be closer. Driving back two hours would make your weekend break pointless, surely? (Having said that, my husband has had to drive back that far twice, on two different occasions, when caravaning because we've forgotten something stupid like the gas bottle for the cooker!)

Hope you've got those damp clothes hanging up airing somewhere and that your break hasn't kicked off with a huge arguement!!

Ah I think you got a rough ride with the earlier responses last night OP. Your update that the rucksack was with the bags to go in the car means I'm with you on the killing thing. He had one job by the sounds of it and FAILED!

What meds do you need?
Approx whereabouts in the country are you?

(Sorry if I've missed it in the above.)

Used to have this argument all the time.
My words are now
*Your shit isnt my problem to pack, iv enough to pack for myself and 3 kids and a dog and your clothes so you manage your essentials"
-*his aftershave. Razors an brush and shoes

Should never rely on other people then have the audacity to get mad at them because they forgot your things. Their your belongings

For your meds carry a copy of your meds list with your phone. If your Drs surgery is open a pharmacy WONT issue emergencies BUT they will let your GP send them a prescription to fill. So you ring your surgery ecplain the situation and get an emergency repeat prescription sent to local to you pharmacist and they fill it. IF it is when surgeries are closed they will do an isue of critical meds and it helps to have a prescription list of the repeats - or alternatively if you have a file on a major pharmacy computer system e.g. Boots they can also issue against that. I fold up my repeats and keep in my phone, chnging it out every time I reorder normally so its always up to date. Please note I only had to do this once - it took about 4 hrs to sort between Drs being a pain about repeat over the phone till I explained myself 5 times and the pharmacy not getting the FAX for ages but after 4 hrs I had the meds.

Should also say I can understand going mad if long holiday and big pile of stuff placed in hall for car packing and one bag got left. But yes if you were running rond organising him you need to prioritise yourself. The hotel should have some supplies as well though

My father doesn't let anyone pack the car other than himself, it's his "job" and he likes to play packing tetris with it to fit it in, in the most 'efficient' way, FWIW

I’m am a ridiculous overplanner/checker (running joke in our family that I have to constantly check the passports haven’t ‘escaped’ on the way to the airport) but even I arrived at my parents this weekend with damp clothes due to a laundry fail.
I always take my own medication in my handbag though.
Hope you got sorted OP

Why have you packed damp clothes???

Posts like this make me wonder why the f@@k men exist. Is it too much to ask that OP has done all the organising and all the packing and yet her f@@kwit husband couldn’t manage to put everything into the car?

@blackwych I feel your pain. My DH would be the one to put the things in the car although we would both pack our own bags. He likes to organise the car himself and I would put my bag by the front door and he puts it in the car.
Once we were on a celebratory weekend away with friends and didn't have much room in the car as we'd taken a lot of extra things to make sure the weekend went well. Another friend who lives near us visited for the day and DH asked if she could take some stuff that we had finished with back for us. Later the same day I found out he'd given her ALL my stuff so I only had the clothes I stood up in. Worse still, whilst DH and the DC were going home the following night in the car, I had to be somewhere else for a couple more nights so I wore the same clothes for 3 days.

For your meds carry a copy of your meds list with your phone. If your Drs surgery is open a pharmacy WONT issue emergencies BUT they will let your GP send them a prescription to fill.

That's not correct. It depends on the medication and whether the pharmacist considers it appropriate to refer. If OP is without asthma medication for example they may just sell it to her. It's worth visiting a chemist and asking what they should do.

We always do an 'idiot check' before leaving our home or holiday home, final sweep to check we have everything after instances like yours.

We have left behind cot mattresses, wash bags, an iphone (in a holiday home, denied by the owner and sleeping bags for a camping trip which were still sat by the front door when we were in a camp site 2 hours away.

your responsibility

Packing the car was presumably his responsibility. If he does that badly is that OP’s fault?

We once went to a wedding. I put everything to be packed by the door as OH was packing the car whilst I checked the house before we left. The shoebox with my shoes in it had been left behind. It was sitting on top of the cases and he took it off and left it on the floor. My shoes, not my responsibility.

Then there was the time he left the case with DD’s clothes. Was that her responsibility? Or mine, whilst I was getting her ready to leave?

It’s not always as black and white as people want to say.

I’d be annoyed and maybe rant a little but it’s one of those things. If you can arrange to collect the medication from somewhere local, so that but if not I’d go back and get it. Depending what it’s for basically.

Can any family or friends go to your house and post your medication and you but replacements for other necessities?

Buy not but!

I can see the scenario. The OP has done 97per cent of the work getting away and it’s the DH’s one task to put the packed stuff in the boot. He manages to get his own stuff in and leaves her essentials.

I am afraid, OP, you are just going to have to be selfish next time ( if there is one) and make it your number one priority to get your important stuff in the car. Sod everything else. That can happen after the big case is taken care of. Or rucksack, or whatever.