DH has left my bag at home.

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We are on weekend break. We have only just arrived after a ridiculous long detour because DH is a slave to the satnav. He unpacked the car, I said 'Where's the rucksack?' and he said 'What rucksack?' It has my hairbrush, medication, books, phone charger, toothbrush, earplugs, mascara, deodorant etc etc.. It wouldn't all fit in the suitcase. The suitcase contains nothing but damp clothes. Would I be unreasonable to kill him?

I pack everything when we go away and always check what’s actually in the car before we go as well as checking nothing left in the house. Anything important is double checked and if it’s passports/tickets etc I make DH stand and check it with me so we’ve both had eyes on them in the car.

Saying that we were going camping a while back and halfway there 10 year old DD pipes up with it submit got any shoes on’! I didn’t see that coming and as we were only going overnight didn’t have any other shoes packed!! Had to go back.

Yep we have the 'dump all bags in one place' system. YANBU OP

Hang up clothes. Go back for it. Listen to a podcast about how not to kill your husband, there and back. By the time you return the clothes will be dry.

Everything sorted!!

Of course YABU.
If you rely on medication, then you take responsibility for having it with you.
I get the 'put the suitcase in the hall and then you'll see when you do your paranoid check / lock up the house that the hall is empty and therefore the suitcase is in the car. I don't comprehend the concept of letting someone else being responsible for the most crucial things that are needed.

Come to that, nor do I understand the concept of taking away a suitcase of damp clothes

I have the same system, DP likes packing the car but as I get weird about checking the oven and the taps I would notice if he had missed something. I'd probably be annoyed in your position and make dp drive to go get my shit.

@UrsulaPandress. You sound exactly like a friend of mine called Ursula!!!! 😂😂

I take medications that I need and couldn’t replace. I pack some in my hand luggage and some in my handbag and some in my case. I check three tines they are all there. I do this every time.

I’m not sure who doesn’t? Even when my dh packs. I check and check again.

I hope by now OP you’ve gone back for it, rather than faffing around sourcing meds and buying new stuff. I’d be really cross if I were you - you need your stuff, so just go get it!

Why do you need a suitcase and a rucksack for a weekend break?

I always keep some backup medication in my handbag as I travel a lot. As a previous pharmaceutical technician a late night chemist would not be able to give you an emergency supply or get a prescription faxed tonight. What are the drugs is it something that can be bought over the counter?

It's bloody hard to pack light if you're going somewhere with unpredictable weather IME.

I'd be very pissed off with DP if he didn't put my bag in the car, just as he would be if I'd forgotten to grab his passport for example*.

*In the Cheshire household, I plan what we need and grab them and throw them in the living room and DP packs them in suitcases, he doesn't forward plan or think of plausible contingencies, my packing skills are atrocious.

Poor you! Could you give and get some supplies nearby? I totally understand why your dh-i can imagine my dh doing the same. Never trust him again with this sort of thing. Lesson learned!

If you need it tonight search online for your nearest late night pharmacy otherwise go to your nearest pharmacy in the morning. As long as it’s not a specialist medicine that you get from hospital, they can give you emergency supply without a prescription. You might need to log on to your medical records or show them a copy of your repeat prescription. Hope you sort it.

If you go now, at least the roads will be quiet - you can probably do the journey much quicker than you did earlier.
Also for your damp clothes, try using the hairdryer for a bit.Or put them on a chair and put it near the radiator.
Have a nice trip...

My DH has done this to me too before. It's understandable if your normal agreement is that he loads bags into the car. And in my case I said "have you got everything" and he said yes when my bag was actually left behind... It's expensive to replace essentials!

My partner is also Chief Car Packer in this house and I spend the whole first hour ‘did you put X in, did you put Y in?’

This reminds me of the time my family & extended family planned a big trip to paris over christmas. The morning of our holiday there was a power cut & our alarm didnt go off which resulted in 15 people sleeping in & rushing around like mad people to make the plane which we did thank god! But on the plane I had this horrible gut feeling we had forgot something, I ran though everything with my husband, doors lock, garage closed etc it was only then that the horrible gut feeling I had hit me like a tonne of bricks

KEVIN

Is your medication registered at your local chemist and do they use a centralised computer system? If so, give them a ring or go to the branch nearest you now, show your ID and explain what has happened. They should be able to sell you enough to get you through the weekend.

The rest you can shop for, and have a great reason for doing so!

Regarding meds, I always have some in my make up bag, handbag and always emergency tablets in the car!

DH has medications he has to take every day, he also has a cpap machine. They go in his rucksack and the rucksack remains his responsibility and in his sole care from the minute it’s packed. If we’re driving it goes in the backseat of the car rather than in the trunk with the cases and if we’re flying it’s his carryon. I don’t expect him to monitor my handbag (which is usually a big tote with all my electronics and make up and personal bits) when we’re travelling, if it gets left it’s down to me.

I’m sorry OP, it really sucks for you, I do hope you can get sorted with meds and it doesn’t ruin your trip, but YABU. If the contents are that important to you, regardless of whose job it is to load the car, you should at least have double-checked it was there before you set off.

We all have to look after our own luggage in this house. DH is just hopeless with it. He has at times taken it upon himself to take charge of the luggage and a disaster has always ensued - he left DD1's case containing her laptop etc. behind on the footpath when loading the taxi to go to the airport. Thankfully it was still there when they raced back to collect it. He left my holdall at security at CDG Airport during a trip to Paris (I had a broken arm so couldn't manage it myself at the time). Last year when he and I went away to Spain he mislaid his boarding pass on the way through the departure lounge and needed a replacement. This meant that the checked luggage which was associated with his pass was not loaded onto the flight and had to be flown out to us a few days later. It contained clothes for both of us.

I am always anxious when he decides to handle the luggage and always check as I am a paranoid old bat.

@Boot20

Absolutely hilarious how many people are scrambling over themselves to blame the OP for not doing everything herself on a website which frequently lambasts men for not sharing the mental load.

‘Hilarious’? It’s nothing to do with expecting the OP to do everything herself. All she had to do was pack her own bag instead of moaning ‘But I’m a lady!’