Ex not happy

[WhatTheFluck]

Who is being unreasonable here?
My ex and I split early last year and both have new partners. Ex cheated on me.
My new partner is an excellent role model for my child and a better parent figure than my ex although he is still involved in 50/50 custody.
My partner wants to come to my daughter's parents evening with me, my ex is working so I was meant to go alone. He is not happy my partner is coming and should it's strange. Who is being unreasonable? I really don't see the problem with it.Our child is important to my partner so why should he not be there?

All of this about soulmate means it is all too soon - take it slowly and certainly where your DC is concerend

oP do you introduce/ refer to your boyfriend as your daughters step dad in front of her?

I’d this not confusing for her? Does he refer to himself in this way?

Alarm bells are ringing loudly.

If you only see him at the weekend, and of she spends half her time at her dads, she can’t know him very well.

Nobody's asking you to give more details away OP. It just seems all a little convoluted to me.

YABU. It is not your partner's place to go to parents evening being that he is not your DD's parent. He can ask your daughter how it went if he's interested.

If you two split up, which is more likely than forever being together being as its a new relationship, you're going to screw your child right up. I know I've been there as the child and will not forgive my parents for their shit.

Hang on I just read your thread about losing your husband to cancer! You sicko, you have serious issues. You'll probably mess your kid up on your own.

Because its different in my situation. My ex cheated and showed our child who came first (He does and his needs.) Ordinarily, I would agree that a step parent does not have the same rights as parents but in my case, it is different .

1. he put another woman before you, not your child. I hope to god you’re not feeding that rubbish into her ears

2. how is your case different? I’ve been with my husband since my son was 1 (9 years now) and he doesn’t come to parents evening.

But why do you need him at parents evening?

It’s not his place to be there.

1. he isnt her stepdad, your not married and been together 30 seconds

1. im with your x on this. I would be more than happy MY ex taking his wife to a parents evening. I would not be happy him taking a new girlfriend.

1. works both ways. I would never in a million years take a new boyfriend to a parents evening, even if my x didnt want to go.

1. the cheating is very very shit. but your new boyfriend isnt a replacement for her father, she still has one, even if you dont like him

I’ve been with my partner nearly four years and we are engaged. I still wouldn’t go to his son’s parents’ evening, that’s for his mum and dad.

You're new partner has no business being at parents evening. I'm a stepmum and would never be so intrusive whilst both parents are active, even if I do consider myself as a better role model than either of them.

OP i think you need help, I really do.

if you aren’t married , he isn’t a Stepdad, he is your boyfriend and has no place at a parents ‘ evening .

Op I'll say it again...

You've been together just over a year and introduced them at 5 months. So say they've known each other 7 months. You only see him weekends so thats say 30 weekends. Your ex has 50/50 custody so presumably some of those weekends DD isn't home. Even if we said 3/4 they're both there the same weekend that's say 22 weekends. 44 days

44 days with your child is not sufficient for him to be a step father.

Wowee OP just read your other thread. You're a regular strange one aren't you?