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AIBU over non-paying colleague? Lunch dramas

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Amelia2000 · 11/10/2019 12:06

I work in an open plan office. Every Friday we order lunch from a local food place. I happen to have a discount credit card for said food outlet, where I receive 30% off. I pay on this credit card and then on the first day of the next month it is paid off via direct debit from my current account. My six other colleagues always pay me in cash on the day (it's usually around/just over £5 each). Sometimes they will bank transfer it to me from their phone if they have forgotten cash. It is a bit of a pain having £30/£40 in cash every week that I then have to put aside rather than spend so that I can put it into the bank to pay off the card every month, but I do it so that we have a nice lunch and that everyone gets to take advantage of the discount. I've ended up getting a little petty cash tin that I keep everyone's money in so that I don't end up frittering it and then having to fork out at the end of the month myself.

There is one person out of the six, let's call her B, that over the last 6 months, always "forgets" her money. It started with me saying "don't worry just bring it in tomorrow" or "I don't have to pay the credit card off until the end of the month so it's OK, just transfer it before then". After saying this, she started not paying me at all until the end of the month, and made a little comment about me taking the money from everyone before I even needed to pay it off. This is true, however everyone else has continued to give me their cash. Like I say above, it's kept in my locked drawer in my desk so it's not like I am spending it! I would be happier if everyone paid me directly into my bank at the end of the month if they wanted to, as it would be easier for me than going into town to go into the bank.

So for the last few months I have had to keep a tally of what B has ordered every week and then let her know that's what she owes when it comes towards the end of the month. This worked for a few months, but the money was always late. She would pay on the 4th or the 5th and I would have to ask every day "ah B, have you got that money for me" and end up subbing her.

So it's now the 11th, it's Friday, she hasn't paid me for last month and so I am £24 out of pocket (The direct debit for the card gets taken out of my current account on the 1st). She obviously hasn't paid me for last week (Friday 4th) either. I have asked every single morning, and reminded her every evening. She just says "I've forgotten sorry, will bring it in tomorrow" and then it never happens. I've asked if she would rather transfer it and she has said no. I've started asking in front of other people (it's an open plan office) in the hope that she would be embarrassed into remembering but it doesn't seem to bother her. It's now got to the point where I am fuming!

We just all started talking about lunch this morning and I have said I no longer want to provide the discount card lunch for everyone as I am not getting the money back in full and on time. One of the other girls has said "who's not paying you?", I looked awkward and said "B, I know you keep forgetting but I am £24 out of pocket, and I can't afford to keep doing it". She basically accused me of bullying her and has run off to the toilets. Two of the other girls followed and said she's in there crying. There is now a horrible atmosphere in the office. She's now back at her desk and ignoring me. The others have said about not having any lunch and how they're going to starve all day. So I've given in and let them use the card. I didn't think B would have the brass neck to order something but she has.

ARGGGGGHHH! Now what?

OP posts:
ThumbWitchesAbroad · 14/10/2019 13:52
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Juells · 14/10/2019 14:10

The batshit logic of not being able to work out that she's paying for the food that she's already eaten! Let her find a restaurant that will accept her eating there once a week for free, at a discounted rate, in return for promising to pay at the end of the month Grin

Boysey45 · 14/10/2019 14:12

What a horrible spiteful cunt this woman is.
I'd stop the whole thing and tell everyone its because this woman is being a cunt.

flapslack · 14/10/2019 14:41

Run to the loo crying tomorrow morning saying you were short money for something like your rent/mortgage and that you have got into trouble because of the shortfall.
See what she says?

ReanimatedSGB · 14/10/2019 14:57

I'd be inclined to put a stop to the whole thing. The other colleagues can get themselves discount cards if one of them wants to start running the lunch club, of course, but you've had enough of the whole business.
And yes, I expect B has form in either this workplace or her previous one for taking advantage and stirring shit.

billy1966 · 14/10/2019 15:12

I would not be having that either.

Please inform your colleagues that she went to the trouble of only partially paying you.

She is a nasty piece of work and I wouldn't a) dream of letting the 11 pounds go
b) order her lunch again

That ship has sailed.

Very distasteful behaviour.

Kisskiss · 14/10/2019 15:26

If she’s so keen on eating on credit, she should apply for the discount card and run the lunch club..

BumbleBeee69 · 14/10/2019 15:39

Are you going wah wah wahing to hr about each other and expecting them to use work time and resources sorting your petty interpersonal bullshit out though IfIShould

Amazing at the ppl on mn who think if you claim any sort of benefits or live in public sector housing then your life isn’t your own but who shit their ears off at the thought of paid work time being for doing paid work in and nowt else

WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT ???????????????

BumbleBeee69 · 14/10/2019 15:40

Thank for the updates OP... brilliant updates Grin

Blueoasis · 14/10/2019 16:15

I so hope there is another thread for this.

Also bitchface if you're reading this, I bet you pay for your dressage horses livery in advance. Tad more than £35.. Hmm

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/10/2019 16:20

There is, @Blueoasis - here.

Blueoasis · 14/10/2019 16:36

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius thank you! My brain is dead after a day of training, I'd had a look but couldn't see anything. Grin

MadameButterface · 14/10/2019 16:37

Why are you shouting bumblebee, yr so rude

MadameButterface · 14/10/2019 16:39

“I'd be inclined to put a stop to the whole thing. The other colleagues can get themselves discount cards if one of them wants to start running the lunch club, of course, but you've had enough of the whole business.”

Such a simple solution, alas not an option, er, because Reasons, don’t think about it too much though it spoils the fun

PentreBachCymraeg · 14/10/2019 17:58

B is a twatoid,a controlling twatoid... Withholding part of the payment like that.

Starbonnet123 · 14/10/2019 19:26

Can't believe shes still holding out on you with the £11 quid

BumbleBeee69 · 14/10/2019 19:58

Can't believe shes still holding out on you with the £11 quid

I can.. she's doing it to prove she's the boss, she decides, and she'll pay when she chooses. It's about dominating and intimidating OP. She's a twat.. there's loads of them around...

OP needs to force her hand... Flowers

StillCoughingandLaughing · 14/10/2019 20:29

Boobs.

BarbaraofSeville · 14/10/2019 20:37

Tits

Dodie66 · 14/10/2019 21:15

Where is the new thread please?

Djimino · 15/10/2019 04:54

So

Djimino · 15/10/2019 04:54

Much

Djimino · 15/10/2019 04:54

Drama

Boomboombo · 22/10/2025 20:57

Update pk ase

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