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Original poster

Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

450 replies

holdtheladdersteady · 06/10/2019 20:45

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

OP posts:
ElfridaEtAl · 06/10/2019 20:47

Are you the person that slept with 4 people?

No?

Not really your business then is it Hmm

Marshmallow91 · 06/10/2019 20:47

Yes, you are.

Mind your own business.

Original poster
holdtheladdersteady · 06/10/2019 20:48

No. It’s my partner. And I was one of those people he slept with.

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 06/10/2019 20:48

Its up to them what they do, just as long as they are been careful.

Shoxfordian · 06/10/2019 20:48

Yabu

As long as the person enjoyed themselves, it was all consensual and safe then why shouldn't they sleep with as many people as they like?!

ErickBroch · 06/10/2019 20:48

YABU.

bigchris · 06/10/2019 20:49

Its your partner ??

CalmFizz · 06/10/2019 20:49

Do you feel you were mislead about the exclusivity of your sex life?

Did you use condoms?

Leftielefterson · 06/10/2019 20:49

Live and let live.

Mummyoftwo91 · 06/10/2019 20:49

Good for them!

Neverender · 06/10/2019 20:49

Nah as lo as you're safe and not promising anyone anything then I think that's fine

HeadintheiClouds · 06/10/2019 20:49

You’re allowed an opinion on things which aren’t your business - how the hell do you think Mumsnet is still up and running?! 😂
Yes, op, it’s grim. In my opinion...

Ginger1982 · 06/10/2019 20:50

Is this a recent revelation or did this happen a while ago?

NooneToldMeItWasRaining · 06/10/2019 20:50

YANBU

I think its grim too. Male or female. Bit old fashioned here but I have only ever had sex with people I am really interested in, hence there couldn't be several in the space of one month.

Shoxfordian · 06/10/2019 20:50

So your partner cheated on you?!

Lessthanzero · 06/10/2019 20:50

What? Your partner slept with 4 people in one month and your concern is the amount of people.

Are they allowed to sleep with other people?

NewStart571 · 06/10/2019 20:50

Can you give more information OP? Was this when you first got together?

If so, was everyone protected and have they been faithful since you decided to be exclusive?

I have to say, this wouldn’t be for me. But I’m sure others will feel differently.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 06/10/2019 20:50

Oh do you feel a bit ‘one of many’ rather than special? How long ago is this and how long have you been together?

Kanga83 · 06/10/2019 20:50

I think it's a bit grim, yes.

vodkaredbullgirl · 06/10/2019 20:51

How long you been together? By the sounds of it not that long.

sammylady37 · 06/10/2019 20:51

Goodness knows what you’d think of me then... I slept with 3 different men in 5 days a few weeks ago.

YABU- and very judgmental

Original poster
holdtheladdersteady · 06/10/2019 20:51

In the space of a month, there were 2 before me, then me, then someone else. Then me again.

OP posts:
ErickBroch · 06/10/2019 20:51

It sounds like it was when they were first meeting/dating - not now

OpiesOldLady · 06/10/2019 20:51

I think if the people involved are unattached - or in an ethical non monogamous relationship - then they can do whatever they like. Hell, I've done more than that in one evening at some of the parties I've been to! Grin

BuffaloCauliflower · 06/10/2019 20:52

I once slept with 3 men in the course of a weekend. None at the same time unfortunately. Judge me all you like, doesn’t bother me.

Unless the 3 other people were when you were meant to be exclusive with your partner, or they were exclusive with one of the other people, I’d try and let it go.