Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

[holdtheladdersteady]

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

Are you the person that slept with 4 people?

No?

Not really your business then is it

Yes, you are.

Mind your own business.

No. It’s my partner. And I was one of those people he slept with.

Its up to them what they do, just as long as they are been careful.

Yabu

As long as the person enjoyed themselves, it was all consensual and safe then why shouldn't they sleep with as many people as they like?!

YABU.

Its your partner ??

Do you feel you were mislead about the exclusivity of your sex life?

Did you use condoms?

Live and let live.

Good for them!

Nah as lo as you're safe and not promising anyone anything then I think that's fine

You’re allowed an opinion on things which aren’t your business - how the hell do you think Mumsnet is still up and running?! 😂
Yes, op, it’s grim. In my opinion...

Is this a recent revelation or did this happen a while ago?

YANBU

I think its grim too. Male or female. Bit old fashioned here but I have only ever had sex with people I am really interested in, hence there couldn't be several in the space of one month.

So your partner cheated on you?!

What? Your partner slept with 4 people in one month and your concern is the amount of people.

Are they allowed to sleep with other people?

Can you give more information OP? Was this when you first got together?

If so, was everyone protected and have they been faithful since you decided to be exclusive?

I have to say, this wouldn’t be for me. But I’m sure others will feel differently.

Oh do you feel a bit ‘one of many’ rather than special? How long ago is this and how long have you been together?

I think it's a bit grim, yes.

How long you been together? By the sounds of it not that long.

Goodness knows what you’d think of me then... I slept with 3 different men in 5 days a few weeks ago.

YABU- and very judgmental

In the space of a month, there were 2 before me, then me, then someone else. Then me again.

It sounds like it was when they were first meeting/dating - not now

I think if the people involved are unattached - or in an ethical non monogamous relationship - then they can do whatever they like. Hell, I've done more than that in one evening at some of the parties I've been to!

I once slept with 3 men in the course of a weekend. None at the same time unfortunately. Judge me all you like, doesn’t bother me.

Unless the 3 other people were when you were meant to be exclusive with your partner, or they were exclusive with one of the other people, I’d try and let it go.