@fikel, my girls have been brought up in a household and wider family that didn't do slut shaming, or put judgment on how much sex someone has had. However how people treat each other is judge worthy.
My eldest DD is 34, my middle one in her 20's. My eldest split with her DP at 31. My middle DD came put of an abusive relationship.
My advice to both of them was to enjoy themselves for a bit. My eldest doesn't want children. I advised her to make the most of her 30's, it's a fantastic time, if you aren't hung up on conceiving. She did and then her and her DP got back together.
I was Widowed and didn't want another relationship. I decided i wanted to expand my sex life. I got into threesomes/group (always with men). I safely did that by finding someone i could trust to bring someone with him. I had a great time. I was never abused/insulted/caught an STI.
Then got sucked into an abusive relationship, mainly because everyone around me was telling me that, a relationship should be what I want.
I then lost my sex drive thanks to the Menopause. I've switched HRT and it's coming back.
If i start up a sex life again, it will be another fuck buddy(s?), deal.
I don't want my sex life to get in the way of any other part of my life, so as for my family finding out, it's non of their business and wouldn't hesitate to tell them that. I don't want to know about theirs either. Or people around me.
I know a lot pf older women are now questioning how they used to view sex. Relationships with older men tend to be a bit shit. So why saddle yourself when all you want is a ride.
As for those saying they wouldn't have the same values around sex and relationships, they are two separate things. I was married for twenty two years and I'd hold the quality of our relationship up to anyone's. I've lived long enough to know that you can't judge how someone will conduct a relationship based on how they view sex.