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Original poster

Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

420 replies

JustWonderful · 28/09/2019 17:25

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

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Original poster
JustWonderful · 28/09/2019 17:26
  • penetrative sex
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PooWillyBumBum · 28/09/2019 17:27

Well I’m definitely not going to be the OW/wife number 2!

I can’t from just penetrative sex but I can be made to climax during penetrative sex with other stimulation. Thought that was the norm.

Whatsername7 · 28/09/2019 17:28

My concern would be his insinuation that he would split if he found someone else who could - that is what makes you incompatible. If its important to him, they are ways he/you both could make it happen.

Aprillygirl · 28/09/2019 17:28

Tell him to get that tongue of his in action or you'll be dumping him the cheeky fucker.

leghairdontcare · 28/09/2019 17:30

So rather than take a bit of effort so you can enjoy sex, he's going to leave you and find someone else? Wow, what a catch.

TheQueef · 28/09/2019 17:32

How is this aibu and a poll? Really?

Roozy123 · 28/09/2019 17:32

Yanbu at all!

I can't climax through penatrive sex alone, don't get me wrong it feels great but doesn't "get me there" ya know.lol.

I think he's a little deluded ..

Did you mention to him that it's pretty normal? If so, what did he say?
He should take more time in finding what does do it for you, he could have some fun and learn something new. He sounds like be just wants to have basic sex and not put any work in to make you enjoy it as much as you can too.

WithTheTide · 28/09/2019 17:33

YANBU. He is ridiculous/delusional and has little or no knowledge or understanding of the female body. I’m the same as you and it’s not a problem at all.

JoJoSM2 · 28/09/2019 17:33

Isn’t he a bit too much o an idiot for a partner for your liking?

Butchyrestingface · 28/09/2019 17:33

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

My vagina slammed shut just reading that. Gawd knows how you coped typing it.

RufusthebewiIderedreindeer · 28/09/2019 17:34

He’s a twat

Which is ironic

NewStart571 · 28/09/2019 17:34

Sorry - he will leave you if he finds a woman who can orgasm through penetration alone? WTF? That is bonkers.

Is he joking? If not, I wouldn’t be hanging around waiting for him to find what he really wants.

Also how does he intend to find his next partner? Is he randomly going to walk around asking women if they come from penetration only? The mind boggles....

Stompythedinosaur · 28/09/2019 17:35

He must be a terrible lay if he isn't able to do anything except stick his cock in. If he truly believes that's all there is to sex then he must be inadequate.

Maybe tell him you can orgasm for penetrative sex, but since his cock size and technique are not up to scratch he will need to put in a bit of effort.

LaurieFairyCake · 28/09/2019 17:36

Most women can't 🤷‍♀️

He has a terribly fragile ego hasn't he?

And a very poor grasp of female anatomy?

Also, the threats make him 'cuntish'

Be sure to tell him that from me Thanks

NewStart571 · 28/09/2019 17:36

Oh I think I misunderstood! He has said that if you split he’d find someone who could. Not he’d split up with you if he found someone else. Doh! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Sorry for my non contribution to your thread OP.

MinnieMountain · 28/09/2019 17:36

Maybe he's just crap at sex?

Seriously, that comment would put me right off. Regardless of how it is for other women.

Original poster
JustWonderful · 28/09/2019 17:37

My concern would be his insinuation that he would split if he found someone else who could

It was more the other way around - we were discussing our sex life, I complained that he does nothing to make (or help) me climax, and that I get the impression he thinks I should climax from penetrative sex; and that that's unreasonable/unrealistic.

He responded that it wasn't and maybe we're not sexually compatible. My response was that that's bollocks because most women can't climax from penetrative sex and that would make him incompatible with the majority of women .. if we were to split, I doubted he'd easily find a woman who climaxes from penetrating sex. He disagreed and cited two of his exes who do/can.

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Roozy123 · 28/09/2019 17:37

@RufusthebewiIderedreindeer 😂😂

magicstar1 · 28/09/2019 17:38

Does that mean he’s going to start shagging various women until he finds one that suits (like they’re lining up for such a prick)?
LTB.

Original poster
JustWonderful · 28/09/2019 17:38

My autocorrect keeps changing penetrating to penetrating for s one bizarre reason.

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Sexnotgender · 28/09/2019 17:38

What’s he going to do? Put an ad in the local paper asking for women who can orgasm through just penetration.

Does he have redeeming qualities because he sounds thick as shit.

sheshootssheimplores · 28/09/2019 17:38

So what foreplay does he engage in?

EskewedBeef · 28/09/2019 17:39

He's obviously very inexperienced with women of he feels this is a deal-breaker. Tell him out would be easier for him to improve his techniques than to find a woman who ticks this box.

magicstar1 · 28/09/2019 17:39

Cross post! His exes were probably just good at faking it. Wonder why they’re exes.

Sexnotgender · 28/09/2019 17:39

He disagreed and cited two of his exes who do/can.

Bet they faked it.