Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

[JustWonderful]

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

As someone pointed out upthread, this is the problem with faking: it creates a whole population of deluded, entitled men who think they turn women on.s someone pointed out upthread, this is the problem with faking: it creates a whole population of deluded, entitled men who think they turn women on.

Yeah I've come to detest women who take nearly as much as men who don't know where the clitoris is and what they might do with it. The two are linked to some extent obviously.

*fake

He sounds like a complete idiot. He should be less lazy and useless in bed.

Were his exes his right hand and his left hand?

He sounds totally useless.

Don't point him to a book called 'Come as you are' by Emily Nagoski.

Just bin him.

Why are you still with this twat if he is so crap in bed?

Whether other women do or don't is irrelevant here - it sounds as though you are sexually incompatible because he doesn't seem to give a shit about your pleasure.

What an odd attitude of his - almost all the men I've encountered sexually took great pride and pleasure in making sure I had an orgasm. That's not incompatible with them also reaching a climax.

If he's not interested in trying to improve/do foreplay, oral and PIV so that you, too, can be satisfied sexually then why would you stay with him?

What an awful thing for a partner to say!
If he loved you, he would never say that.
Every woman is different but in my opinion, that is completely irrelevant.

I used to be able to, it was my party piece because I was such a rarity 😂😂😂 no one else I know can tho.

Fact: I can only have an orgasm from penetrative sex with a man who has a really big penis. Mr average doesn't cut it. Maybe pass that bit of info onto him.

I would be sending him on his merry way to find that woman and wishing him the very best of luck 😂.

hes obviously not familiar with female anatomy, since the clitoris is not inside the vagina, so women do not generally orgasm from penetrative sex. They can orgasm during penetrative sex if the clitoris is also stimulated, but thats not the same thing.
Tell him you agree, youre sexually incompatible with people who dont know how to pleasure a woman, which is him

I think the issue is one word 'just'. There are probably a decent proportion of women who can orgasm while shagging after an amount of good foreplay and, you know, touching stuff while having penetrative sex.

'Just' shagging, I imagine it's vanishingly low.

And let's be honest, sounds like he's shit at foreplay, selfish and stupid so I'd be incompatible regardless.

<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.fpa.org.uk/sites/default/files/orgasms-in-women-an-online-survey.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiS-fHOgPTkAhWfQEEAHZ41CywQFjAIegQIBxAB&usg=AOvVaw3b8f2iH97s3simgaoxLDHQ" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.fpa.org.uk/sites/default/files/orgasms-in-women-an-online-survey.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiS-fHOgPTkAhWfQEEAHZ41CywQFjAIegQIBxAB&usg=AOvVaw3b8f2iH97s3simgaoxLDHQ (over 80% surveyed cannot achieve orgasm from ps alone)

abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289 - 75% can't come through penetrative sex (ps) alone.

www.vice.com/en_us/article/neepb8/the-science-of-female-pleasure-still-needs-more-attention (18% only can come through ps alone)

www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/all-about-sex/200903/the-most-important-sexual-statistic%3famp (only 25% can come through ps alone)

And so on.

Maybe buy him a subscription for OMGyes

Go now. You're "Ms You'll do for now" until he finds his dream woman who can fake it due to his (no doubt enormous) appendage.

Well, he's right. You are sexually incompatible because he can't be arsed to engage in the normal sexual practices that complement penetration and on which every woman I know relies.

And he knows very little about female sexuality.

Tell him If he is only interested in his thrusting he is probably more compatible with a blow up doll.

I am sorry, this must all be very upsetting for you, OP.

There's no such thing as 'normal'

But there are averages. I could be wrong but I thought it was average (more than in fact) not to climax from penetrating sex. He seems to behaving his "take" on our issues on the presumption that it's not average. That's behind the aibu.

@14YouJustDoYou

Thanks for all those links, they're very useful.

Please just read "penetrative" for penetrating, autocorrect is driving me barmy.

I am so happy that I am divorced.

That's just the tip of all the studies done. Hilariously, they ALL say within the studies "confirming what women have known since the dawn of time" type language 😂 I'm sorry, but your partner sounds like a silly little immature boy with no actual experience of women.

Why are you Having sex with this lazy arse

Lazy fucker who can't be bothered to learn how to please a woman in bed then?

It'll be a while before he got any action again and then it would be him doing the pleasing before he got to stick his cock anywhere.

Lazy git, can't stand a man who can't be arsed