Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

[JustWonderful]

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

I'm yet another woman who can't climax from penetration alone

You'd probably do well to watch the female orgasm episode of this series. It's only about 20 mins long and will debunk a lot of his odd beliefs www.netflix.com/title/80216752?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

I don't agree at all that lots of women are faking it. I suspect that as suggested by a poster above it is often more dependent on anatomy rather than anything. I think focusing on why some women do is a bit pointless. The main thing is surely just whether you can orgasm and whether sex is enjoyable for both.

What a sad situation, but NOT uncommon

Maybe time for you to seek some market research too!
Have you experienced an orgasm yet?

From what you say, he just wants to cum and you tag along if yer like!!!!

It's not essential in making every relationship work, but it certainly can be enough to stop them

I feel for you

@AvocadosBeforeMortgages

Will have a look at it, thanks

Also - if I do orgasm vaginally, it's not very comfortable to carry on for long. My muscles tighten up too much. So we have to time it so we are not too far out of sync. Can't imagine climaxing first and then having penetrative sex. I'd be all done, thanks, ready for a snooze 🤣 My DH jokes I am like a man in this respect!

I think it's a myth anyway - I get sleepy after one too.

Maybe all the women men say want to chat after haven't climaxed

Nettie1964
I think you probably upset his fragile male ego. Hopefully his sulking won't last to long. The world is full of man babies who have been fooled into thinking they are sex gods by women faking orgasm. You might have to be more tactful next time😁😁or replace him with a grownup.
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Too right!

The best sex is with a partner with whom you can communicate well. That way you can share what you both really like.

I am sorry to say that your DP sounds like an uninformed ass. I'd say find a partner who is better in bed. This will improve your sex-life a 100 fold.

He sounds like a lazy and lousy lover.

@User10fuckingmillion

"I'll have what she's having" - one classic line

It’s so good to read you all discussing this so openly. Power to the women!

I would say that your failure is his fault. He won't find other women who can if he can't manage it with you. You certainly can but it takes practice.

Oddly, I could with DH when we were horny teenagers. Nothing for 20 years but I'm getting close again now he's had the snip and I'm not on any contraception.

I'm good regardless of position. Usually 4-6 orgasms per session; 1-2 for a quickie. Change position each time. Like variety which takes a creative partner.

Penis size is mostly irrelevant (if it's super small, really nothing helps). Larger not necessarily better, skill is best. It's all about open, honest communication and wanting to please your partner. Have fun, find what works, don't be shy asking for something new / experimenting.

I would say that your failure is his fault. He won't find other women who can if he can't manage it with you

He said two previous partners had in response to me saying that. One he says would let him know quite aggressively if she didn't climax; so he knows she wasn't faking. The other I don't know the details of.

I don't know if either of them were actually having clitoral orgasms by grinding or touching themselves - or if they were "vaginal". (Or both I suppose from some posters ITT).

Oddly, I could with DH when we were horny teenagers. Nothing for 20 years but I'm getting close again now

This had been one of the most surprising things ITT for me - I thought it would be you can if you can't. Yet so many women have said they have, say three times ever but not any other time.

Some have said only with one partner which is more understandable but still interesting.

*you can or can't

I can quite easily now but couldn't till I was 30. Gotta be halfway down the runway. Missionary best. I'm.not sure any g spot going on.

I don’t think it’s about being compatible or not, it’s not binary. DH and I are compatible enough I think? We both like same frequency, more or less. He is not into oral, but I am (like to give and take) , and he always makes an effort with that, since he knows I do like it. Guess it works for us so far.

However, I can imagine people that are extremely compatible (that must be amazing) or incompatible (that must be awful, and a major reason relationships fail).

Hi
I have no idea how to reply to you directly OP but here’s my answer to your question earlier about what position etc.
So, I have had only two real long term partners (one ONS and one very short relationship)
My first partner I was with 18 years. He’d always make sure I came - manually making sure I came usually before him.
My husband used to always be the same - fingering me until I came and preferred to make me come before he did. However, with the aid of fantasies and lube and the right (missionary) position he can make me come just through penetration. We come simultaneously every time now (he holds on until I make noises indicating I’m ready lol) It’s still a clitoral orgasm but it’s far more all encompassing and muscular. It’s a different orgasm altogether than a manual one lol
It is mainly down to him angling himself so that his cock rubs my clit. (Don’t worry, he’s still face to face with me lol it’s not like he’s at a weird angle) I do think it could potentially be practice and also compatibility. When I met him it became obvious that somehow our nether regions just fit better together.
Whilst he isn’t small in the nether region department he isn’t huge either - my very short relationship was with someone with a huge cock girth wise and it wasn’t as good as sex with my now husband.

Shall I lend him out? 😂 I have to say when I met him and he said his previous gf used to come just through penetration I laughed at him and said she must have been faking lol