Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

[JustWonderful]

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

He disagreed and cited two of his exes who do/can my ex thought I could... I was young and assumed I should be, so I faked it.

I can, it’s easy but then it quickly becomes overwhelming so I prefer quick, penetrative sex - go figure! I do know I am odd in this respect.

But it’s neither here not there though. People like different things during sex and part of a sexual experience is finding out what your partner likes and guiding them towards what you want. Sometimes two people are not compatible but it has nothing to do with what other people like. He sounds like he can’t be bothered figuring out what you like and, in a sense, is blaming you for being ‘unusual’, which, firstly, statistically you are not, and secondly, is not relevant anyway.

I can. I still wouldn't be happy with a man who acted like that was the only way to climax, just coz I can climax like that doesn't mean it is the only way I ever want to, depends on my mood.

if you climax from penetrative sex, are you not having some clit action too?
Ive climaxed during penetration if im also grinding my clitoris against him, but thats not the penetration thats making me come.

I guess its possible if super duper aroused. I mean, its possible to orgasm during sleep and ive done that before, but I hardly imagine its the norm, especially if he does no foreplay. Doesnt sound very erotic.

If you have a lot of foreplay (assuming this includes clitoral stimulation) then I wouldn't say that counts as climaxing from penetrative sex alone.

You are incompatible because he is a moron and you are not.

Get rid of him.

His is an absolutely absurd view. Most women I know can only climax from direct clitoral stimulation - hand or mouth. Penetrative sex feels good, but often cannot result in a female orgasm. Do men not want to put the time in for us? Or do they not understand how women's bodies work? Because it's not like pressing a button, or sticking a dick in-and-out a bit - it can take some time of focused effort!

Dump his arse! He sounds crap in bed if all he cares about is himself.

I can and it’s a nicer orgasm than what I can get clitorally as the latter is painful

He just doesn’t really understand how sex works does he?

You are incompatible because he is a moron and you are not.

^ This.

I'm sure I read somewhere that the position of the clitoris has an impact. The closer it is to your vagina, the more likely it is stimulated in penetrative sex. If it's further away, it may need additional stimulation.
Nobody's fault (apart from a lack of understanding of female anatomy).
Add into that a considerate lover, who is happy to take time for you, and bingo! (name that film)

Same I can through penetrative sex alone but have you suggested using toys?
Vibrating cock rings are Amazing plus if hes not about pleasing you only himself selfish lover hun!

I’ve never, in about 25 years of being oversexed, climaxed from penetrative stimulation, and I’ve had a fair few fingers, vibrators and cocks up there!

Posted early!
He doesn’t really understand how sex works, which isn’t necessarily his fault. Both open and romance tend to make us think women come from having a penis a bit near them. BUT he needs to be receptive to the real life woman who is prepared not only to have sex with him, but to educate him as to what would make him good at it.
Incidentally I had one red hot love half my life ago who gave me vaginal orgasms from penetrative sex( it took me a while to realise what was happening, they are really different to clitoral ones, and I had previously thought Freud was lying when he talked about them. ) .
I’ve had lots of sex and lots of partners, and it’s not happened with anyone else. Ive talked to lots of female friends about and only one other reports orgasm from penetration.
He needs to read this thread.

Ps I think his exes were likely faking, sorry ops husband, but I do.

I wouldn't be worried about whether or could/couldn't orgasm with him because I'd be dumping him! Sorry OP but he seems to have a very fragile ego which he needs you to feed. All the comparisons between you and his exes sound horrible. You can do way better than him. I wouldn't be asking about it because I'd be dumping him! Sorry to be so blunt but he sounds horrible!

Most women don't climax from penetrative sex alone. He sounds like he has a very delicate ego if this is bothering him to the point that he'd dump you if he finds a woman who can.
Has it occurred to you that his exs were faking it? I think he needs a wake up call. He also sounds like a twat.

Sorry to read of your DPs ignorance.

I am a man, incidentally. From what I guess his exes probably were fakers, sadly.

Your husband sounds horrible

@Peakypolly ok?
I didn't reply to your "survey" I replied to the fact you said "TBH saying those who can climax from purely piv are faking is pretty offensive." .... when I hadn't said that at all. I made a joke about taking orgasms can create men that say stupid shit "😂" Then stated "in all seriousness" and spoke to the OP.
saying those who can climax from purely piv are faking ... when did I state this??
I'm sorry my joke offended you about men saying stupid shit.. but please, don't put words in my mouth.. I would never say women who climax from PIV are all faking it!!! - That's a ridiculous statement for anyone to make 🙄

Well, he sounds like an absolute delight.

Does he have any good points? What exactly are you sticking around for? Presumably not the sex.

@4cats2kids

Brilliant

maybe his exs were good liars?

I think those that do orgasm from penetrive sex have that spot in just the right place. For most of us men would have to have one with a knuckle in the middle so it can be clicked about to find it.

I think size might be a factor but I am no expert.

Boob - totally agree prefer a quicky every time.