Greggers2017 ive done nothing but support him for years, thank you very much 
This is the one time in our relationship where I've found myself vulnerable and needing support through no fault of my own.
Excuse me for being self centred, but I don't think me needing his support after almost dropping dead from sepsis and being overcome with postpartum mental illness, is much to ask, is it?
Similarly, expecting the bare minimum of communication and decency IRT parenting our children isn't too much to expect.
Despite my health I have STILL been there for him and provided unconditional support, even AFTER he lost his job, I didn't give him a hard time.
I have been nothing short of totally supportive to this man over the years even when he's fallen short of doing the same for me.
My annoyance began when it became abundantly clear he was making no efforts to remedy the situation. I did all the job searching for him, sending him numbers and listings. He rang one agency "to enquire" and then sent his CV through email and that's it.
Worrying we are going to lose our home, my DB kindly offered to get him work in his department (slightly better pay than his last job and certainly less stressful) and he says he doesn't want to sit in a "shitty office" on a computer. He was rude to my DB and reckless IRT not trying to secure our children's home.
He then turns on his Xbox at which point i tell him to grow up instead of wasting his time on that thing all night, he responds in a hostile way and starts raising his voice.
He spends the next 15 minutes banging around, I come in and ask what all the noise is and he shouts at me to "shut up"
The argument continues until I go to bed and then this morning i find the kids gone with no note.
That is the full story.
I'm now at the point of having to return to work far sooner than I'm mentally and physically able to, to save our arses. My GP and therapist are in agreement that I'm not fit for work, I'm immunosuppressed anc very weak - that's without going into my PTSD and my regular panic attacks.
I could fill pages with examples of how I've supported him and been there for him.
So bollocks to anyone who thinks he's hard done by in this situation.
And IRT my son's autism, if you look in the support groups for SEN children on Facebook of which I am in many, you will find copious amounts of parents with children the age of my DS and even younger who are confirmed and diagnosed autistic.
I'm sorry to those struggling to get onto the pathway, unfortunately for my son he is very clearly disabled and not a health visitor or paediatrican in the country would dispute the fact upon meeting him 
I wish, for him, that he was high functioning enough for there to be any question.
Sadly he isn't.