To be pissed off with previous home owner asking for post in rude manner?

[Getusedtoit]

Ex owner of house couldn't be bothered to pay for Redirection on their post. "Oh Mrs Ex Owner works down the road she'll just pop by occasionally". socially conditioned to be nice I agreed.

We still get post, it's not an onerous task to keep it and pass it on, but I feel slightly uncomfortable when she turns up and wants a small look at our renovations (the house was in a right state when we bought it).

He messaged bluntly earlier this week and I read it, and was composing my response (took a few days), as he'd been abrupt before, and he just sent question marks in a text.

I replied I'd package them up and leave them outside on a day that suited. He hasn't replied.

DH said I missed a trick and should have sent a text back with just four asterisks and then follow message saying I've had enough and everything now would be returned to sender.

I'm torn, it's such a small thing to do to keep receiving post and holding it, but I'm cross at his bluntness. There seems to be still quite important post coming from authorities.

AIBU?

Just block him
Sounds like a dickhead

How did he even get your number? I’ve never had the number of a previous resident.

Stick each and every letter up your arse before handing them over.

Tell him

“After 1st October all mail will be returned to sender.”

I suppose it depends how long. A couple of weeks, I'd just do it for them. Any longer than that and I'd tell them I was returning to sender.

We moved recently. I paid for mail re-direction for 3 months to ensure I'd changed my address for everything. The tenants who were here before us continue to have post delivered here. At first I took a huge wedge to the estate agents as there were bits for the landlord too (like water bills for the interim between tenants leaving and us completing) but after the first month I stopped and now just return everything to sender.

Did you agree to do this, to the extent of giving him your number? More fool you

Seems very odd of him and I’d be inclined to stop now, but how long has this been going on for? It’ll have to stop eventually and if you’ve done it for three months or more then you’ve been very generous. Tell them you’ve done it for long enough and end communication.

How long have you lived in the house?!

You're a doormat. And you continue to be one, being nice doesn't equate to being a mug.

He's a twat and entitled and no, it's not a small thing to keep pandering to arseholes.

You just text him back once, 'We're done with being your secretary and post masters. From now on, all your post will be returned to sender as you do not live here. Do not contact us again.'

And then you block them and return all their fucking post to sender as you should have done in the first place because someone still using your address when they no longer live there has the potential to fuck things up for you financially.

Grow up and stop being so silly.

When I rented a tiny house a few years ago, the previous occupant called, asking if I'd had any post for him (I had). He was very pleasant but, when I asked him for his forwarding address so I could redirect the post in future, he was quite cagey and said he'd call again sometime for more post. About a week later a large bailiff knocked at the door, looking for him - fortunately he did believe that the contents of the house were definitely mine and I did not know the whereabouts of the man (though I did tell the bailiff that he was intending to call back sometime for post, though I didn't see the debtor again as I moved out shortly afterwards).

The crucial missing information is how long since they moved out and you moved in. Three days? Three weeks? Three months? Three years?

Why are you taking days to compose a text?? Tell him, "That wasn't polite" or whatever.

Anyway, whilst you're composing, add on that you don't want to hold their post for them anymore so they should make sure they have changed their address wherever they need to. Anything arriving (two weeks from today) will be returned to sender.

Depends how long its been. If you've just moved in I'd cut them a little slack, if its been 6 months, set a cut off with enough time to redirect and change address.

Also, don't let them in your house. I'd be interested about what new owners are doing with previous houses, but it'd be the height of cheekiness to ask for a tour of the house.

Previous owners of my house moved out well over a year ago. I've always just sent back return to sender (they've had a lot of post!)
How did this guy get your number?
I don't think id engage anymore and just return it all. Sounds like a pain!

Just return all to sender from now on. If he texts just tell him theres no post.

How long ago did they move out? I would be inclined to tell them that it’s been long enough now and that from now on you’ll he returning any post to sender.

Our previous owners didn’t redirect their post but they did give us a forwarding address. After we were still re-addressing and re-posting multiple letters, often from clearly official sources, three months later we just started returning to sender.

Slightly different situation, but our outgoing tenant said she would ‘need’ to keep a key for the mailbox (outside lockable mailboxes here) to pick up mail that arrived after her departure. I replied that she would need to arrange with the Post Office to redirect her mail as people normally do when they move, and that I would need the key back on departure. She duly obliged.

We still receive post now 4 years later for the previous owners. I first saved it, and someone did pop in a couple of times to collect it. Then started returning to sender but now I just bin it. (recycle it!)

Ha. My vendor moved out four years ago. She is still calling in to collect her post. I'd feel too guilty to return to sender...

I had piles of post for the former owners of my first house, they made no effort to redirect, collect or give me a forwarding address. I returned everything to the sender. The former owner was a postman. Eventually a letter came to him from the post office, I wrote a note on the back when I returned it saying how fed up I was after several months of dealing with his post. I got a letter from the post office telling me that he had been spoken to and no more of his post would arrive and it didn’t.

I've been in my (rented) house for 25 YEARS and still get post for previous occupants!

Tbh, at this remove, I just throw it away if it's junk, if it looks important I pass it on to my landlord.

How long has it been now? If it's more than a few weeks, you should give him a deadline, say 30 September, and advise him that he has had plenty of time to change his address and as from that date, you will be returning it all Return to Sender.

Apologies forgot to add screenshot. And realised have posted in a name change for a sensitive thread I started. My mind isn't with it at the moment.

Cross out your address, write RTS in big letters on any post for them and pop it in a post box.

I would tell him all post will be returned to sender as of a set date.

When we moved here the new owners didn't set up a redirect or provide a forwarding address. I took the first pile of post to the estate agent, then started returning it to sender and after a couple of months I started binning it regardless of what it was.

We still get post for them 12 years later, one of which is pension information (I opened it in error as I had a pension with the same company) but my view is if they are too lazy to take responsibility it's not my fault.

FFS, convenient to you, hope that suits, like you're talking to a mate or your boss. You paid them money for their home, now it's yours. You're paying on it every month. Stop being such a wally. You're not their PA or secretary and the 'let me come in and see renovations' wtaf?

'It no longer works for us to handle your post or have it collected so we won't be doing this anymore. This is no longer your address so all post will be returned to sender thenceforth.'

The end. Block.