To be pissed off with previous home owner asking for post in rude manner?

[Getusedtoit]

Ex owner of house couldn't be bothered to pay for Redirection on their post. "Oh Mrs Ex Owner works down the road she'll just pop by occasionally". socially conditioned to be nice I agreed.

We still get post, it's not an onerous task to keep it and pass it on, but I feel slightly uncomfortable when she turns up and wants a small look at our renovations (the house was in a right state when we bought it).

He messaged bluntly earlier this week and I read it, and was composing my response (took a few days), as he'd been abrupt before, and he just sent question marks in a text.

I replied I'd package them up and leave them outside on a day that suited. He hasn't replied.

DH said I missed a trick and should have sent a text back with just four asterisks and then follow message saying I've had enough and everything now would be returned to sender.

I'm torn, it's such a small thing to do to keep receiving post and holding it, but I'm cross at his bluntness. There seems to be still quite important post coming from authorities.

AIBU?

I wouldn't want people thinking someone other than the actual occupants live in my home. Who knows what's in their post and I wouldnt want someone like a bailiff turning up.

Bin his post. It is not your responsibility (I checked this when I was in a similar though shirt lived sutuation).

If it's more than 3 months since you took occupancy the previous owner has had a fair chance at sorting out mail. Message with note that as from (date) you will return post. They have stretched friendliness a bit too far for sellers and buyers.

I'd reply 'you're missing stuff because you haven't redirected. I am not a post office so anything marked for you is being returned to sender from now on. I'd suggest you make alternative arrangements - like redirection - or tell people your new address'.

You did say it's been four YEARS didn't you. Stuff that. We get Christmas cards for the previous occupants (we've lived here for 12 years now) and since the second Christmas they've gone in the bin. If you can't be bothered telling friends you've moved they're not friends. I would return to sender but they don't have an address on them and I'm not waltzing to their new home at the busiest time of the year.

Everything else is return to sender.

Do you have his new address? Just cross out yours on the envelope, write in his and stick it back in the post box.

Or if you really want to piss him off, put it all in an envelope addressed to him then post without a stamp. He'll have to pay a surcharge on it ...

I wouldnt do that. I just would cross out their name and address and write “does not live on this address anymore” and post it into a post bpx so ot can be returned to sender. I wouldnt want to give them mail even if asked nicely- not my responsibility but God knows what are they using your address for now... could be anything!
It is their own responsibility.

I had this situation. I got the idea the guy was well dodgy as he was getting bailiff letters as well as his bank stuff etc. I told him I wouldn't hold it any longer and started to return to sender as I didn't want debt registered at my address. He soon sorted it. I still do get the odd letter though. He could be using your address for anything so I would stop doing it.

Id return to sender, becauae if he oa atill getting postfrom authorotiea he coukd be fiddling bwnefits, claiming atyff etc from your address and you are handing over the mail. Return to sender andmark as "No longer at this address" and if that is the case they will cotton on and cancel any benefits or claims when it bounces back.

Why hasn’t he informed authorities that he has moved? Suspicious if you ask me!

jeez!!! bin it!!

I`m moving house soon. I DO NOT expect the new owner to be a secretary and forward anything!!!!!!!

You have zero obligation to be saving his mail for him. Give him a date (oct 1st) to set up royal mail redirecting service. End of.

FOUR YEARS!!!!

I must admit it, seeing the screen shots of the texts, they don't appear to be rude to me. He asked you a question nicely on the Saturday and then left it 4.5 days before sending you the question mark text. I don't think that text was rude.

I'd probably have just responded apologising for it beig a few days, but saying I've been busy and he could pop round for his post on xxxx day. I'd then have said that maybe they ought to arrange for it to be redirected now so there isn't a delay in them receiving it.

Say you will do it this once but next time you will be sending them back

He's a CF tell him it's return to sender from now on.
We still get mail 12 years on as our vendors were too right to pay for redirection. She was a massive CF too as 3rd day after moving in she opened the front door and walked in shouting "hello daaaahhhhlllnnngggss" with plastered on make up, skin tight white jeans and 4 inch red stillwtoes. First time we'd met her as EA had done all viewings! There was me probably still in the same knickers I'd moved in 😂😂 xx

If he texts again just reply

“Mate, it’s been 4 year”
And then a few moments later
“!!!!”

And then block and RTS. Cheeky shit.

I delivered our vendors post to their house every few months for the first year and was happy to do so - it was only a year, and they there lovely people. I’d have got fed up doing it for 4 years though.

It's been ages n8w - plenty of time to notify people.

Mark return to sender addressee unknown and block!

be careful, this happened to me, ex owner used my address as mail box, he was up to his eyes in debt, i had bayliffs knocking on my door, talking to neighbours if i was out, highly stressful, it was such a battle to convince them he no longer lived here, never let them keep using your address, it could affect your own credit rating and everything!

Stop being a doormat and tell him the time has come for him to own the problem. After (date) all post will be returned to sender. Then block.

4 years is a massive piss take. However, I’ve been in this position where I’ve bought a house & years later I’m still receiving post - mainly bailiffs letters. Some I opened to ring the companies to inform them that I’m the new owner of the house and have no forwarding addresses, the rest I put back in the post with not known at this address marked on. Like some of the other PPs have said, I’d give him a deadline, block him and start binning his shit if he didn’t adhere.

He's a CF. Stop dancing attendance to this idiot and return to sender.

Similar issues here after 3 years. I return everything to sender with a note on envelope saying 'Not lived here since 2016'. This seems to have been effective as almost everything seems to have stopped. Bizarrely 2 parcels arrived at the weekend 😳.

Lovetoread84 - that is downright CF behaviour! Asking you to wait in!

Anyone else tempted to change their name to FOUR YEARS?????

I still get mail not for the person who lived in my house before me, but for the person before that. Bearing in mind I’ve lived here 20 years and the person before also about 20 years, I think that’s a pretty persistent person still sending their stuff.

Should say, it’s the same company sending their annual report or something, not lots of random mail.

We still get mail for the previous owners of our house and it's been nearly 2 years now. Things supposedly 'private and confidential ' keep turning up and one letter even after marking it as RTS came back!!!! It's not often but shouldn't still be happening nearly 2 years later.
Our old address yes there were a few we didn't change address with but nothing very much.
No forwarding address and when we moved in they had moved out months earlier and they owed a standing charge since that date until completion which we had to sort out as debt collectors were put onto the owed amount. People who were in a business that would have known that would be the case.

But yes RTS and block. Asking for a tour you should have refused as that's really high level CFery.

They are seriously CFs! I've just moved house and paid £70 for 12 months redirection. I also left 200 stickers with Please redirect to: and my new address on it, in case anything gets through as it is a pain to have to write it out on the envelope. I've tried to make it as painless as possible for the new people in the hope they will be nice and forward anything on. Annoyingly, the first redirected letter was from my bank despite me having gone into a branch and changed the address in person 10 days before I moved house (I was still at the old house for two weeks whilst work was being done on the new house)!