14 year old in a size 24. AIBU to think her mum should do something ?

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Just read an article in the paper that a girl age 14 is in a size 24 clothes an can't get a uniform to fit her. She's medically healthy just clearly a bad relationship with food. Her mum isn't slim either from the pictures.
AIBU as a mother to think her mum should be trying to encourage her daughter to eat better and not be as big as it isn't healthy what so ever in the long term of things also the name calling etc it isn't a nice thing. Been a big girl isn't an issue I just think a size 24 is rather large for a 14 year old....
My brother is 25 stone at 30 and he's constantly in hospital with problems linked to his weight and it's awful to watch - his wife is a big feeder to him. He was a slim athletic rugby player before he met her then he just spiralled. We've tried to get him to fat club etc. He lasted a week an left as she didn't want to do it. She's also very big. It's a viscous circle because it's easy to put on and hard to shift !

I just personally think as a mum you would want better for your daughter at this age specially

I expect her mum does want to help, knows it isn't healthy but doesn't know how. The Girl herself will know she's not healthy and won't actively want to be that size but it's not just a simple case of doing something about it, there will be a lot to unpick in their lives that we know nothing about.

Of course but food/weight is a very complex issue...although the just eat less/move more brigade will no doubt be along in a minute

No 14 yr old should be that size. Ive seen the article.

Eat less, move more.

I’ll probably be criticised for saying this, but I think if it’s so bad at 14, there should be some intervention by experts. She will live a miserable life and most likely die young- that’s not fair. If a whole family intervention is needed, so be it.

Fat kids have usually got fat parents. If people are incapable of looking after their own diet then they’re always going to struggle managing someone else’s.

I’m sure the parents (not just the Mum!!) can see the problem but don’t have the skills or knowledge to solve it.

Well I normally avoid controversial topics but I personally think it’s tantamount to child neglect/abuse just like starving a child is ...

Been a big girl isn't an issue I just think a size 24 is rather large for a 14 year old....

It's not 'rather large', it's huge and will be putting her health at massive risk.

However, I imagine there must be multiple issues at play here for this to even happen, and I'm pretty sure that both the mother and daughter will be aware that there is a big problem health wise, so its kind of pointless to judge really isn't it?

I've not seen the article but what about her dad? Or is it just a mum's responsibility?

Her mum has decided to go to a National Newspaper and have photos taken which will only expose this child to further humiliation.
That is quite disgusting, I don't think she gives a shit about helping her, she's focusing on the school being unreasonable and how her defiant child turned up at school with the wrong skirt despite being warned.

I saw the article too.

I’m surprised the school put her in isolation for not wearing the correct skirt but if it’s not made in her size, whatever is she supposed to do?

But she is morbidly obese and needs help.

@toobusytothink I completely agree.

I personally think it’s tantamount to child neglect/abuse just like starving a child is ...

I completely agree

This thread won't go well though

And my arse is a 14 year old medically healthy at size 26 ffs.

What should she do?

Well yes she needs to lose weight. But she also needs to go to school and punishing her won't help her mental health to lose that weight.

Made me feel so sad for her. I was always a big child but managed to slim down when I was teen. Being big at high school is horrible.

Does the Dad have any responsibility or is it all just the mum's fault?

It is child neglect and so sad for this child! I’d be surprised if there’s no social worker in the background trying to put services in to retrain their eating habits! Poor kid can’t even find a school uniform in her size!

Being larger as an adult is your own choice, but inflicting such a terrible diet on a child to this extreme is abuse imo. It’s very easy to find examples of healthy eating or lower calorie meals online, no excuse.

Poor girl being in the media. Seems like everyone has an opinion and i haven't read the article but i bet it was sensationlist journalism.
I remember being painfully shy at 14 and not even having a weight problem.
For some people food is just as addictive as drugs or alcohol so i wont judge and maybe her mother has tried whatever she can to help but is suffering herself.
I hope they get help.

But 2 in large sizes and have them sewn together?

Poor girl 🙁😟 I have no answer but to plead with someone to help with diet etc for this beautiful young lady xx

Eat less, move more

Right on cue.

What do you suggest @ThatssomebadhatHarry?

She obese. Fat, huge. Quit the eating. It works.

If you did anything else to your child which would shorten its lifespan to the degree that this girls weight will it would be under a child protection plan.

Eat less, move more

Whenever I see this I assume the person posting it also parks in blue badge spaces and tells depressed people to pull up their socks. There’s really no excuse for this level of ignorance but it’s ubiquitous.

The mother is abusive to go to a national newspaper about it. We don't know if there is any reason the girl is so overweight (? Prada Willi syndrome or anything, eating disorder?). The school staff are fools for getting the priorities so wrong. They should be contacting school nurse, GP, SS not humiliating her with a detention because she can't find a skirt to fit. Poor girl.