To think my 6yo DS in year 2 should have his shirt tucked in for school

[justbeingadad]

As the title. AIBU to make my son go to school with his shirt tucked in?

The school doesn't seem to have a rule regarding this.

Context, he doesn't like tucking it in, probably because he's never been made to. His mother is adamant he shouldn't have to tuck it in. I think he should as it looks really sloppy (to the point of it reflecting badly on us as parents if we can't even dress our DS "properly").

Pointless really. Little boys race round the playground, roll around on the ground, chase each other around and end up with muddy shoes, shirts out, ties under one ear. After no time at all!!!

If the school don’t have a policy on it, it can’t really reflect badly on you can it?

My boys wear polo shirts at their school and no one tucks them in. If they wore a button down shirt, I would encourage them to tuck them in but as pointed out, they will just ‘untuck’ anyway before the end of the day. Start as you mean to go on, I say.

My children's school makes them tuck in, and it looks neater, but I don't think it's a big deal.

Yabu

He’s 6, not a graduate going for a job interview.

My Eldest (11) starts school with his shirt tucked in, hair expertly swooped, tie done. Comes home looking like he's been in a storm, but shirt still tucked in. (His school expect shirts tucked in and a neat appearance).

2nd son (7) tucks his polo shirt into his shorts (and is the only child in the school I've seen to do so), but invariably comes home with it untucked...but it's a polo shirt...who cares.

3rd son (5) goes to school with parts of his uniform inside out and back to front (and sometimes comes home with them the right way around) but the important thing is that he happily dresses himself.

They're clean (bar the odd toothpaste smudge), well fed, ready to learn, and happy, so I quite honestly couldn't give a flying fuck what other people think.

I shout add, it's a proper shirt with a tie as well with proper trousers and shoes.

I suppose I meant more other parents than the school thinking badly. I totally agree it'll be un tucked by the time he's in the classroom probably!

Maybe I am too hung up on it, but isn't they a bit like saying its OK to send him to school in a muddy shirt or a shirt with good down it because that's how he's going to end up? Also, at what point do you enforce it? He's going to have to do it for secondary school and then he'll have had the attitude he's never had to do it so why now?

OK. Opinion is clear. I also will let him not get washed all week because that's what would happen if we didn't enforce it. One bath a week isn't going to kill him so I'll go with that.

I REALLY don't think it matters. At all.

If school don't mind, why do you mind?

My 8 year old went to school in jeans with a rip in the knee and a t shirt with a huge picture of two ring tailed lemurs (his favourite animal) on it - untucked - today

He's going to have to do it for secondary school and then he'll have had the attitude he's never had to do it so why now?

I don’t think this follows. DS started secondary this year and happily tucks in his shirt despite having had an entire primary school career of comfortably untucked polo tops.

Year 2 is young and I think you’re being a bit uptight about it really. Choose your battles. Few, if any, other parents will notice whether your child’s shirt is tucked in, and fewer still will have an opinion about it.

You care about this enough to start a thread? 😮 He's 6! I wouldn't give a flying flamingo if I were you.

Also you're being ludicrous to compare an untucked shirt on a 6 year old to a filthy item of clothing or a child being neglected by not being washed all week? Is this actually real?! It seems so petty and you're being pretty weird in your replies, i'm wondering if this is one of those fake threads aimed to get everyone all riled up...

Oh I have this row with my 8 year old every morning @justbeingadad !

My son hates it tucked in, complains it's uncomfortable and he tells me I'm wasting my time tucking it in because he will only untuck it as soon as he gets to school!

Pick your battles OP. Bath worth fighting, shirt not (IMO).

He's going to have to do it for secondary school
Not necessarily. My DC's leave their shirts untucked and cover them with their blazers. Most teachers aren't that bothered about enforcing the "shirts tucked in" rule anyway.

How on earth can you compare an untucked shirt to being covered in food/mud, or not bathing enough?

How very odd.

I tuck my son's shirt in and about 30 seconds later he's jumped on the sofa and it's out. I've stopped bothering.

He's 6, who cares really?
He doesn't need to prepare for secondary school now either, that's a ridiculous argument.

The comparison was that "does it really matter". Just because it doesn't matter doesn't mean we shouldn't have standards ourselves. And no, this isn't intended to rile anyone up, but I don't see it as a negative to expect my son to go to school looking smart.

Thanks.

Will it impede his capacity for learning?

I rather think not.

Jesus you sound like hard work. Leave the poor child alone. The other parents dont care whether your sons shirt is tucked in they have their own kids to look after! And going off in an exaggerated strop because we dont agree with you... will we get the silent treatment now? Is his mum your ex?

He's 6 though. SIX.

When they're at secondary school it's different, but let a 6 year old just be a kid. I have a 6 year old and while I wouldn't send him to school in dirty or smelly clothes, an untucked shirt is hardly the same thing.