To not think this is weird?

[ExpertPuppy]

On my name changed account for this.

My son is 19 and is a single dad to a 2 year old girl (mum isn't on the scene) and she lives with us permanently.

So occasionally if GD won't sleep in her own room and wants son. He puts her in his bed and lies next to her until she goes to sleep and then he leaves her there. But when he goes to bed he co sleeps with her and doesn't move her back to her own room.

When he did this before when a family member was visiting she said it's weird.

Do you think this is weird?

No, co-sleeping is not weird at all.

No not at all.

In general no.

However didn’t you post about him the other day and doing drinks and drugs when she is asleep? In which case co sleeping isn’t a good idea

No, of course not!

Well if there is a drip feed that he's a drunk or druggie, then yes ther is everything wrong with it.

Not even remotely weird. Would your family member find it odd if he was your GD’s mum rather than her dad?

No it’s not weird for a parent to co-sleep with their child. As long as he safe then it’s fine.

No not weird at all!

I don’t get what would be weird

Dangerous as you have posted previously he takes drugs and drinks alcohol....

No. The person that suggests it's weird, is weird.

Not weird unless he's under the influence of alcohol or drugs, in which case it's dangerous.

But yes, only while sober.

Did you ask why they thought it was weird?

Yes I posted the other day about him drinking and doing drugs but he doesn't co sleep with her if he's been drinking or doing drugs.

No not weird, he's comforting his daughter. Only if he's sober obviously!

No not weird at all. As long as he’s sober.

Weird is strange way to describe a practice that has been around as long as mankind .
If he's drinking smoking or doing drugs he absolutely must not co-sleep though .

What's weird about it? I used to love snuggling up to my kids when they decided they would rather sleep in my bed. Why shouldn't your son be allowed that same privilege? Let me guess, it's because he's a man isn't it?

Why is he in your house if he’s doing drugs?

How does he decide which nights he will be available for his dd? Does he deliberately choose drugs some nights? How is dd supposed to know which nights df can comfort her?
A great df would be available 7 nights surely?

He's her dad. Pretty normal for a toddler to spend the odd night in her parent's/parents' bed now and again. As others have said, provided he's sober it's absolutely fine and I wouldn't think anything of it.

What did she find weird about it? Did you ask?

Yes I posted the other day about him drinking and doing drugs but he doesn't co sleep with her if he's been drinking or doing drugs.

Well then yes it is weird.

Not weird. Are they implying it is because he's a male?

If that's the case, is it weird for a mum to co sleep with her toddler son?

Some people baffle me.