Was I BU? Partner left me

[northeatswest]

So basically I have a son, and me and now ex DP have an 8 month old
He’s been abit miserable with me recently and I could tell he wasn’t happy. Yesterday morning he said he’s done he isn’t happy and he packed his stuff and left, this has all hit me like a tonne of bricks.
When he left he text me saying just give him some space he needs to think and I didn’t reply

This morning at 9.45 I text him saying hope he’s okay and if he wants to come speak etc to let me know and that I hope we can work this out

He’s gone mental at me. Calling me all sorts of names, saying I’m a joke for asking him to try work it out when he said he wants space

Was I BU in texting ?
I thought I had done quite well only sending one text since he left- surely he should have contacted me to ask how the kids were etc,
He’s fully left me in the lurch now blaming me saying me texting was the nail in the coffin. I can’t stop crying now because I’ve ruined it all

borlotti

"I don’t know why no one wants to look after me"
I'm pretty sure your dad does, please let him

'Looking after you' is not the same as someone loving you, you don't need looking after because you're a mother of 2. You do need support, you need someone on your side.

Cruse might be useful? you can get a counselling session for £35ish in some places have a look at the website theres loads of info there.
Also these sites have free support services available
uksobs.org/
supportaftersuicide.org.uk/

You sound like an abandoned child at times which is so painful to read, you can manage alone because your not an abandoned child but you need help to organise everything thats tearing you apart into manageable chunks and there is support available. No adult should feel like this but lots of us have done. Free support is out there and it's not dependant on waiting lists, honestly get on google and start letting it out in an environment that is healthy.

You deserve to feel better than you do and if you put the work in, you will feel better. But it can't be given to you by someone else unfortunately.

From the way he’s behaved so far, nothing you will say and nothing you will do will be right.
I’m not saying that you’re doing and saying all the wrong things - far, far from it - but that he’s already made up his mind to act the way he wants (selfishly and irresponsibly). He’s already made up a narrative for the situation, which paints you as the demanding and unreasonable one and I suspect it’s the narrative he’ll be telling himself and others around him.
He’s exploiting your vulnerability when any decent partner would be supporting you