DP and his friend speaking German in front of me

[CassandrasCastle]

I'm currently at a festival with my bf and his good friend, who's German. Bf is fluent in German, and the friend speaks English but quite slowly/hesitantly. Sometimes he'd need to glance at bf for a translation.
They're both also taking some acid, which I said I was fine with, but am pregnant and so can obviously ingest nooothing of the sort.
Anyway, they have almost exclusively German convs whens I'm there. I try to contribute and things go to English, or my boyfriend occasionally translates. But I feel like some fucking third wheel. I understand the guy not understanding English perfectly , I don't want him to feel uncomfortable :( But I'm getting sort of simmeringly pissed off about it, and just told my boyfriend who sat down next to me at a show instead of his friend, to maybe move away from me while he was smoking (he's having a couple while he's out there). I feel like a bitch tbh. My bf is usually extremely kind and understanding, but I just can't be arsed atm. Still first trimester so I suppose I can blame it on hormones 🤔

Taking acid whilst out with his pregnant partner.I think the German speaking is the least of your issues.
Ja,du bist unvernunftig

Speaking German is great - you should try to learn some. Doing acid, not so much.

i bet half the people who helpfully suggest "learning some german" maybe doesnt get how hard it is to attain fluency in a language to be able to just have natural conversations, without actually living in the country.

Dein Herzblatt ist ein Arschloch.

HTH

You can get addicted to acid - and it’s the people I used to work with didn’t start on heroin.

You work with users and think that people get addicted to acid?

Your poor clients

People don’t just take one thing or stick with what they started on. Do you really think people just take one thing once and say ‘well I’m done’?

You both need to start acting/thinking like parents.

That doesnt make acid addictive lol. If you are trying to say its a gateway drug, that's a different thing entirely. Bullshit did you work with addicts, certainly not with anything related to their addiction

People don’t just take one thing or stick with what they started on. Do you really think people just take one thing once and say ‘well I’m done’?

Of course not. But out of the millions of people who take recreational drugs every weekend it is only a very tiny, and frequently already spectacularly damaged minority that follow the route you're suggesting

Most people's experience with drugs is take some during a specified period in your life, stop and live a full and normal life. That's a far more common narrative than multiaddict a short while later

I didn't think gateway theory was getting much traction amongst drug workers these days

Yeah, whatever. Take what the hell you want, some people don’t stop. Try working with people who have no off switch, hang out with the ‘wrong’ people, get into that life. See the results of addiction.

I know plenty

Ahahahahaha mumsnet I bloody love you sometimes. So righteous.

I'm looking forward to my morphine and gas and air hit when I'm giving birth!

The question has nothing to do with the tiny amount of acid the OPs partner took. Doesn't sound like he's gone beyond the level of being able to be responsible or caring.

@CassandrasCastle I am amazed you wanted to go at all, all I wanted to do in my first trimester is sleep and steer clear of people drinking because I was jealous they could and I couldn't (still jealous now....)

Oh and for what it's worth...
Ich habe ein papagei

Talking German - no big deal. My husband speaks his language with his friends all the time even though I'm not fluent. It happens.

Taking drugs while you are starting a family- no.

YANBU, @CassandrasCastle. What’s a little bit of acid between expectant parents? 🤷‍♀️

And of course non fluent Germans should speak English, especially when they’re tripped. Language skills and use of Babelfish to improve ten fold when one is off one’s visage.

*trippING

I don't think the concept that it's rude to be exclusive whilst conducting a conversation is a uniquely British thing.

In my circle of friends the only ones that care about it are the foreign language speakers. It's a very normal night for me to be out with a group who all speak the same language, and I don't speak it. Even in hived off conversation they maintain English

When climbing in different countries I find alot of people automatically switch to English to be as inclusive of as many people as possible. Climbed with a group from Norway who were apologetic to my Spanish friends that they had to speak English as a common language because the norwegians didn't have any Spanish

Learn some German for, "fuck off with your cigs" and "no you can't fly you idiot". HtH

Water and Haribo eh OP. Nice nutritious start for your baby.

**. What's wrong with water?

As for sweets, are they off limits in pregnancy?

I’d be pissed off he was taking acid but that aside YANBU. It’s fucking rude to exclusively speak in another language when one person is excluded. Your DP is bilingual so can translate to the German guy but is choosing not to so you just have to sit there like a plum. I’d be going home if I were you.

I just have one question OP. Why did you go in the first place?

It sounds boring AF.

Pregnant and stone cold sober at a festival with people speaking in another language whilst 'micro dosing' acid.

Sounds absolutely crap.

I'm just astonished at the number of people who are comfortable with the child's father taking drugs.

I'm just astonished at the number of people who are comfortable with the child's father taking drugs.

I was astonished by the poster affronted at pregnant OP drinking water and eating sweeties at a festival.

Agree with other posters that the real issue is the drugs, not the language.

However, I think a lot depends on where you are. If you are in Germany, then you have to accept that people will speak German and you need to learn the language so as to able to participate. If you're in Britain, then I think the others are being a bit rude by speaking in a language they know you don't understand.

You are in your first stages of pregnancy where you need to be careful.Is your bf able to take care of you should you need him to? If you fell or had an accident would he be ok enough to help you?

She’s pregnant, not suffering from a life-threatening illness 😑

I think an outing where only one person can speak both languages was always going to be dull for somebody.